Marx said: "It is a fallacy to take a step forward in truth." "That's the case with everything. In geometry, there is a golden section point in the line segment, and we often use some kind of standard to measure the right and wrong of a thing or thing. The society we live in has been moving closer to a society governed by the rule of law, hoping to have a criterion to make the world peaceful, the "golden mean" of Confucius and Mencius. The disciples were always admonished to "go too far."

The same goes for compliments, there is a golden section point. We must not be indifferent to the beauty of human beings, to be too wooden, and thus to be passively burdened all day long. This developing society is an active society, and if you don't understand its temperament and don't know praise, you will go against human nature, and you can only live in the bumpy alleys, be forgotten by the society, and waste your life in obscurity, which can be said to be the most sad and desperate thing. The expressions of most people when they are dying are always emotional and helpless, because most people belong to mediocre people. Very few people say, "I'm going to sleep now," as Byron did before he died. Yes, we always regret our past events, because the golden section of life is so hidden that we, including the vast majority of people, have not done everything in moderation.

Nietzsche died from his house as the sun, he praised himself excessively, he went crazy. You must know that if praise takes a step forward, it will also go crazy, and perversion will become a trick to slap the horse, and moderate praise will make people feel comfortable; On the contrary, it makes people embarrassed and disgusted. In order to prevent problems before they occur, a reasonable grasp of the "degree" of praise has become a must be paid attention to by every true praiser who does not want to distort human nature, become crazy or disgusting.

As I said earlier, the vast majority of people are mediocre, and their helplessness and generosity at the end of their lives are due to the uncertainty of this "golden section point". However, the quintessential spirit of "knowing that we can't do it" is inherited from each of our desires. In the face of the difficulties of survival, we must strive to become the heirs of the "golden mean" and strive to find the "golden ratio" of everything. On the "golden section point" of the specific and praise technique, some people have summarized the following experiences for the benefit of readers.

(1) To praise others, we must strive to be realistic and appropriate;

(2) The way of praise depends on the object, and the "high hat" will have the opposite effect;

(3) The number and frequency of praise for others should be moderate, so that others lose their freshness and sense of achievement, and the praise will be invalid.

When a mother sees her child and says, "You are a good child, and when I see you, I feel relieved and feel that my life is continuing." This kind of rhetoric is very measured, and it will not make the child have an unhealthy sense of superiority in beautiful words. But if the mother says, "Son, I see that you are a genius, that you are much better than everyone else, that you will become a great man in the future...... that will lead the child astray.

Things must be reversed, and happiness is sad. Nature has created such a rich dialectic for us. It requires us to walk through the most accurate position like the knife used in the cattle to solve the cow.

Praising others is such a thrilling and adventurous pleasure. We all try to do it, because we don't want to be in the middle of a crowd, and we don't want ourselves or others to "go crazy". We prefer to say to the people's children, "You are a good boy, I am glad to see you,......" We look forward to a time in the future, like Byron's lightheartedness: "I'm going to sleep now." ”

These are all satisfactory answers to the praise of the "golden section" to us.