Zilan asked Shuhui and Xuan'er to go to Zhuangzi to play together, and the important thing was to ask if Sister Shuhui's impression of Han was good, she hadn't seen Yu Han.

The matter of the two families has been orally agreed, and they have also exchanged the family tokens, but the Geng post has not been changed, because the second uncle and the second aunt have gone out, and they can only come back during the Dragon Boat Festival.

Cui Hao came early in the morning to send their grandchildren to the farm to play.

"Why are you so happy?"

Cui Hao is dressed in a stone blue robe, with a jade belt to tie his waist, he is really a jade tree in the wind, handsome and beautiful.

"My sister Shuhui is about to settle down, and she has already said it verbally. Do you think it's a big event? ”

"That's a happy event, who are you talking about?"

Cui Hao also heard about Yang Shuhui of the Yang family, and I don't know how many people want to ask to marry.

"Yu Jia, do you know Yu Han?"

Zilan asked in the carriage.

"Oh, I've heard of it, but I don't know it, the civil and military circles are different, the gap is still very big, most of me are classmates in the academy and can say a few words, almost all of the family members meet and greet each other, and there is no too deep friendship."

Zilan nodded, and also thought of these situations, but just asked casually.

Cui Hao thought for a while before he spoke, "But I heard that the Yu family's family rules are very strict, and they are very strict with the upbringing of their children and grandchildren. The important thing is that his children and grandchildren are not allowed to take concubines and marry younger ones, so the family house is very clean. ”

"That's okay, the important family style is rigorous and upright, and the children taught by such people can't go wrong."

Zilan believes in this more, you can't just rely on men's love to live, you still have to look at the style of the whole family and the conduct of men, and it is not easy to change things that have been infiltrated since childhood, so the family style is very important.

"This is true, the rules of the general's house are indeed a little looser, which is also a huge hidden danger, but the Yu family is notoriously strict in family rules, otherwise his family will not be able to stand all the time, and the emperors of the two dynasties will value it."

"Then I'm much more relieved."

Zilan smiled and nodded.

All the way to the farm, Cui Hao took a breath and left, and he had to go to the Hanlin Academy to sort out the books.

Shuhui and Xuan'er also just arrived, the second grandmother was tired from the carriage, so she went to rest first, and the third grandmother stayed at home to sort out Shishi's dowry, and then counted it again to see if she could go in the race, and she didn't have time to come.

"Sister, have you really made up your mind with Yu Han?"

The three sisters, Zilan and Shuhui, nested in her room, leaning around the big kang and talking.

Shuhui nodded, "Well, it's settled." ”

"Have you ever seen a man? How's it going, what's the first impression? ”

Xuan'er spoke quickly, "Sister, let me tell you, Yu Han is very good-looking, and he has a good temperament with Young Master Cui, a bit like Cousin Ziyan, Lang Lang's temperament is very good." ”

"Yo! If it's highly rated, then I must meet it if I have a chance. What do you think of that sister? ”

"It's okay, my first impression is not bad, the demeanor, etiquette, words and things are in a good way, the rules of the Yu family are very strict, and I am also willing in my heart.

For me, this is the best family I can choose, and the Yu family is deeper than my family. Yu Han is not the eldest son, so I don't have to work as hard as you in the future, I am still very satisfied. ”

Shuhui's face was slightly red, but she still generously analyzed her thoughts.

Zilan thought about it and nodded, the family circle is not big, and there are only four or five first-class families with better family style, and there are really not many choices.

As for the civil official's family, it's really not a lie that the family is separated from the military general's house, although it won't be so strict to say that the relatives are not so strict, but in fact, the political position of the two surnames should also be considered.

Like her family and the Yang family, they are all related, and their positions are the same, that is, to remain neutral and loyal to the emperor, not any prince.

Speaking of relatives, we must take these into account, the old families are neutral, one; You can't move such a big family for a while, people have the qualifications to choose neutrality, and they don't rely on both sides;

The second is to consider the long-term of the family, although there is no huge benefit from the dragon's work, but it also lacks the arrogance of gaining power once, eliminating the crisis of not being sober-minded, and the son can be more motivated and work hard to learn well.

Neutrality means that it may be treated coldly by the new emperor, but after all, as long as the son is capable and competent, there is still a place, after all, neutrality is not enmity with the new emperor, but it is not a caring courtier.

"You're right, I prefer people with upright family styles, and the children of such people are also very strict and relatively secure, which is much safer than verbal promises. Just like me, my father and mother chose the Cui family for me because family rules prohibit such things as concubines.

Although the girl may be more difficult and will be questioned by some ladies, but the family has a good future, and the girl does not have to worry about finding a good family. ”

"You're right, my grandfather and grandmother have also talked to me carefully, and my father and mother have also written back, I also think that the Yu family is my best choice, and I am not afraid of your jokes, Yu Han is good-looking, I have taken a fancy to it, and no matter what his character is, is he good-looking and pleasing to the eye."

Shuhui covered her mouth and smiled embarrassedly, which is also the reason why the first impression is better, and the Yu family's family rules are very strict, so she is more willing.

The home of a military general is different from the home of a civil official, and the first punishment of the family rules is to beat the military stick, which is as thick as a child's arm, and the serious hardwood, which can break your leg with a stick.

There are generally not too many military sticks, and twenty military sticks will beat people away, this is still the body of perennial martial arts, and the general small punishment and big commandment are the five military sticks, which is enough for you to recuperate for a month, so that you can have a longer memory.

"As long as you want, husband and wife have to live a lifetime, if you don't like it at all, then it will be difficult to live a good life, and you don't like it in your heart, so you keep screwing up. It's easy to do if you have a little favor.

When you are married, you officially have a name, if someone comes, don't hang your face, give a smile, communicate with each other more, don't be shy and don't say anything, that's not right.

Let me tell you, I was in a panic for a while after I got married, but I was stunned, and I made an appointment with Cui Hao for three chapters.

You must tell me as soon as possible, you can mention anything bad about me, don't betray or deceive, and if it's inconvenient to tell me that it has nothing to do with me, you don't have to say it.

From strangers to husband and wife, we always need to understand each other, communicate more to understand each other's habits and hobbies, it is better for you and me to be frank, say clearly, set a tone, and act in the future.

However, my method may not be suitable for you, I am just giving you a reference. ”

Zilan didn't blindly teach others, just sisters said what was in their hearts, so that Shuhui didn't stuffy herself in her heart because she was shy, that would be unacceptable.

Shuhui listened thoughtfully, "I remember, I will take the initiative to talk to him about anything, and we still need to be honest and sincere with each other." ”

"Yes, that's what I mean, be honest and sincere with each other, can we have mutual trust and tacit understanding?"

"Yes."