A lot of things, not coincidentally, are indeed carried out through some arrangement. It's just that some arrangements are obvious and can be seen at a glance, but some arrangements do require a certain amount of insight to be clear

We can often see a phenomenon in our daily life, when someone evaluates another person, he says something, it is easy to get the other party's approval, and even make the other party feel that he knows himself very well. At the same time, we can also see the so-called horoscope analysis, and some belief analysis, there are also some descriptions for this type of person, most of whom feel very similar to themselves, so they believe that this is to talk about themselves. Actually, it's a psychological suggestion

And this psychological suggestion originates from a psychological phenomenon that we call the Barnum effect in psychology.

The Barnum effect is a psychological phenomenon proved by psychologist Bertram Fowler in 1948, named after the acrobat Barnum, the Barnum effect is also known as the Fowler effect, the astrology effect, he refers to people often think that a general, general description of personality reveals their own characteristics very accurately, when people use some ordinary, vague, broad adjectives to describe a person, people are often easy to accept these descriptions, but think that what is said in the description is themselves. As a famous acrobat named Shawman Barnum said of his performance, he was popular because the show included ingredients that everyone loved, so he made "every minute someone get scammed." In the 50s of the 20th century, psychologist Paul Mill named the results of Friel's experiment "Barnum Effect" after the famous American circus entertainer Phineas Tyler Barnum.

In psychology, the cause of the "Barnum effect" is considered to be the effect of "subjective verification". Subjective verification can have an impact on us, mainly because we want to believe in our hearts. If we want to believe something, we can always gather all kinds of evidence to support ourselves. Even if it's something unrelated, we can still find a logic to make it fit our vision. The "self" occupies most of the space in our minds, and all things about the "me" are important.

So, we tend to put ourselves in this kind of evaluation, so we believe that these things are talking about ourselves

At the same time, this effect also involves a so-called "flattery effect". Most people prefer to believe in things that make them look more positive and positive. So they will agree that they still have a lot of unfulfilled potential and that they are people who like to think.

Of course, the Barnum Effect is easy to say, but to really affect the other person, it also requires certain skills, such as the way the speaker speaks, the topic that guides the other person's thinking, and the reaction of the other person, and the intensity of the words used at any time.

There is no doubt that Wang Shanshan, who majored in the same major as me in college, is extremely familiar with the term Barnum effect, and more importantly, I am sure that she is very good at using the Barnum effect, because I taught her this specialty.

I was in a relationship with her in college, and at that time I was very good at reading words and guiding each other's thinking. At that time, Wang Shanshan had a trace of inferiority complex in her heart, because, I sensed that she was not confident in what she said. So, from that time, I trained her subtly, until she graduated and entered the work, and I also specially trained her to use this effect to guide customers. In the end, she did well, and after that, I didn't have much contact, because it didn't take long for us to break up.

Now what Pan Ying said to me makes me understand, there is no doubt, I can be sure that Wang Shanshan is using the topic of Wang Yaping to get close to Pan Ying, and then use the Barnum effect to win Pan Ying's trust, and in a short period of time, Pan Ying feels that this is a girlfriend candidate who knows her very well

Could it be that Wang Shanshan really has other purposes, I don't really want to believe this point of view in my heart, but I do want to know the answer to this question.

I continued to communicate with Pan Ying, and through the dialogue, I reaffirmed that Pan Ying and Wang Shanshan's conversation was indeed similar to what I thought, and the impact of the Barnum effect made Pan Ying trust Wang Shanshan, so what did Wang Shanshan need Pan Ying to do.

"Forgive me for taking the liberty of being presumptuous, or maybe I'm curious, because I really want to know what activities Wang Shanshan usually does with you."

"Ha, it seems that you still have some concern for your ex-girlfriend, it's just that you have indeed been separated from her for too long, it doesn't matter, you can get in touch slowly in the future, and find the original tacit understanding again, at least in my opinion, she is better than your current girlfriend...

"I'm sorry Miss Pan, I have no intention of comparing my ex-girlfriend with my current girlfriend"

"Okay, count me too much."

In fact, it's not that she is too talkative, because Pan Ying's personality decides. It is impossible for her to have a good impression of Lin Xinting, so her clear attitude of love and hate will inevitably express her thoughts. And her current thoughts are almost straightforward, that is, she hopes that through her matchmaking, the old relationship between me and Wang Shanshan will be rekindled, and by the way, Lin Xinting will leave.

It's just that now, I need to cover up a little bit and cooperate with myself. I need to show my interest in Wang Shanshan so that Pan Ying can tell me more.

Pan Ying told me that Wang Shanshan returned to Yiqing City because she wanted to get rid of her husband's influence, and secondly, she also wanted to start a new life here. And Pan Ying also helped Wang Shanshan win a lot of business during this time through her relationship

And the main thing for the two of them, in addition to the topic of girlfriends, is the matter of work, usually, Pan Ying did not see Wang Shanshan have other activities, and even Wang Shanshan's local entertainment activities are very few

Could it be that Wang Shanshan approached Pan Ying, just to use Pan Ying's relationship to help her newly opened company get more business, if it is true, it seems understandable But I need to know more, not to mention, there are some things, I still have questions.

For example, we all know that Pan Ying is a celebrity in Yiqing City, and Xie Hongyun has been dead for four years. She has always been single, among them, there are many people who pursue her, and Pan Ying has not refused to be chased by many people. She also often participates in some events and banquets, and has some scandals with some men

Then, Wang Shanshan, as Pan Ying's best friend, will she also be taken by Pan Ying to participate in some activities. We already know that Pan Ying went to other places to make money, and she also happened to take Wang Shanshan with her, so it can be seen that the relationship between the two is very good now.

Another very important point is that I know Wang Shanshan, she is an extremely conflicted person, she is very confident in her charm, but she is not confident in how to express this charm As I said earlier, she does not know how to communicate and show her strongest side. And this kind of person, once someone teaches her to show, then she will be fully confident, and must complete the expression and get the results she wants.

As I said earlier, when I taught her how to use the Barnum Effect to guide clients, she went crazy to learn and show that confidence. And now, there is no doubt that Pan Ying is a person who is very sensitive to fashion, so she must have taught Wang Shanshan how to show her best side in this kind of circle in Yiqing City. Then, the kind of banquet that Wang Shanshan followed Pan Ying to participate in must have already shown her so-called charm and self-confidence. Then she didn't get the results she wanted

If the results obtained. Then she also used Pan Ying to find me to relive the old relationship, which is very suspicious, and it is completely inconsistent with Wang Shanshan's thinking logic. Unless, it's been a long time since I've been away from her, and she's really changed

"I have a question, which may be a bit presumptuous, but I must ask Miss Pan to answer it."

"If you ask, I can answer as long as I want you to know more about Shanshan."

"But this question may involve you. I wonder if the rumors about Miss Pan on the market are credible, such as the pursuit methods launched by those rich sons and daughters to Miss Pan. As far as I know, Xue Xiaofeng is also pursuing you. ”

Pan Ying frowned: "Is this question related to Wang Shanshan?"

"You answer my question first, and I will naturally tell you what is the problem I care about Wang Shanshan."

"Okay." Pan Ying looked very indifferent, "I'm single now, so I don't think I'll reject the pursuit of others, but I have my own judgment, and I know that those people are worthy of me to continue dating." As for Xue Xiaofeng you mentioned, I know him very well, so I won't continue to have a deep relationship with him at all. And because of my work, I can't completely offend this kind of person, so I can only play a show sometimes. Just like a friend."

"I see. Okay, then I want to know, does Wang Shanshan also know these suitors of yours. ”

"You don't think that Wang Shanshan still has something to do with other men, hehe. Mr. Xu, as I am sure you know, I specially arranged for you to meet Wang Shanshan. And the reason why she did this is because Shanshan herself told me that if she divorces, the only man she wants to be with is her college sweetheart, that is, you and I, as her best friends, can only do something for her."

I observed Pan Ying's description of these words, her expression was extremely real, and it is conceivable that Wang Shanshan must have indeed said these words to her.

In other words, when Wang Shanshan returned to Yiqing City, the woman she wanted to contact most was Pan Ying, and the man she wanted to contact the most was me

It's just that the problem is obviously not what it seems, as far as I know, Wang Shanshan is a person with subconscious inferiority complex, and she knows my feelings for Lin Xinting, so she will feel that relying on Pan Ying's connection can make me regain my warmth

So, her real purpose is not emotional

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