Before Ai Songqing's words "where did you hear the words" were spoken, Bai Ling replied, "Yes, everyone will die." ”

Ai Songqing looked at Bai Ling suddenly, and saw Bai Ling looking at the little girl, and continued, "But it will be a long, long time before I miss it." ”

"How long?"

Bai Ling shook his head, "No one will know this...... But if you don't encounter any major disasters, you should be able to live to be fifty or sixty years old. ”

"Sister Bai Ling, too?"

"Yes."

"One year old is a year...... Nian Nian whispered, "Fifty or sixty years old is fifty or sixty years......"

"Hmm."

Nian Nian frowned and repeated, "Fifty or sixty years...... Fifty or sixty years ......"

"It's fifty or sixty summers." Bai Ling whispered, "It's been a long, long time. ”

Nian Nian breathed a sigh of relief, and suddenly seemed to remember something, and said softly, "I can count to a hundred." ”

Bai Ling didn't react for a moment, "Count?" ”

"Hmm!" Nian Nian nodded, "I'll count from a hundred to one!" ”

Bai Ling looked a little surprised, "Is it so powerful?" ”

Nian Nian nodded vigorously, and then wanted to start counting to Bai Ling, but Bai Ling stopped and agreed to listen to it after eating.

Nian Nian agreed, and then drank porridge with his head bored, and Ai Songqing was speechless for a while.

At the end of the day, someone came from the Golden Pavilion and asked Bai Ling to come over and answer. Before leaving, Ai Songqing followed Bai Ling to the outside of the house.

Bai Ling looked at her, "What's wrong?" ”

"How do you talk to the child about those things...... Ai Songqing frowned slightly, "She is still so young, how can she know what life and death are, just tell her, isn't it good that her mother has gone far away?" ”

Bai Ling stopped, turned back to the palace man, and asked if he could wait.

"Okay, there's a queue up up there," the palace man smiled, "I'll go outside and come over in a moment." ”

There were only a few maids left in the corridor who were working, as well as Bai Ling and Ai Songqing.

"I originally planned to talk to you about this matter today," Bai Ling said softly, "Songqing, I think it's best for us to be honest about this matter and not lie to her." ”

"But didn't you also tell Nian Nian a bedtime story before? You also tell her a story about her mother's departure, so that she can live a good few years first, can't you? Ai Songqing was a little moved, "There are some things that she will naturally understand when she grows up." ”

Bai Ling shook his head, "You can't make up this lie." ”

"Why?"

"You said that Sister Li went to other places, and she would ask you if you could take her with you, when you would go, and why Sister Li never came back...... Some children will run away from home, because adults don't take her to their mothers, so she has to find them by herself. ”

Bai Ling paused for a moment, "There are some things, although adults will understand the child if they don't teach it, but it is not something that they will understand suddenly, it is that the child learns from elsewhere - if you don't teach it, you don't know what she will learn from other places, and you don't know what she will do in the future." "Wanshulou

"It's not a lie, it's not a lie," Ai Songqing also became serious, "Don't you think it's too cruel to tell the child directly about death?" ”

"It's not cruel." Bai Ling looked at her, "Just because she's a child, she's not cruel." Children are not afraid to talk about death at all, and it is we who dare not talk about death. ”

Ai Songqing was stunned for a moment.

Bai Ling continued, "Nian Nian is only three years old, and it is difficult for her to really understand what death is at her current age, and it is difficult for them to understand what misfortune is and what is an accident. ”

"But where is this kind of topic good to keep mentioning......" Ai Songqing was a little sad, "You weren't there yesterday, and when she mentioned her mother, she cried very much——"

“…… This is normal," Bai Ling also frowned, "Do you want a child to come out of the shadow of losing his mother in two days?" ”

"I didn't mean that," Ai Songqing was a little anxious, "I mean, what if Nian Nian is sad all the time?" ”

"Of course she's going to be sad......," replied Bai Ling, "she's the saddest of all of us." ”

"But if we keep thinking about it and talking to her about it, how can she get better?"

Bai Ling still frowned, "She's sad because her mother is gone, and we didn't talk to Niannian about it, didn't this happen?" Songqing, if it were you who lost your family forever, how long would it take for you to get better? ”

Ai Songqing couldn't answer.

Bai Ling said seriously, "Children are different from adults, adults sometimes need a little time and space to digest by themselves, and children have to teach."

"At this age, it's hard to really understand what 'death' is, and she will ask us some questions over and over again, which is normal, it's not that we haven't done a good job...... You don't have to be too nervous. When she wanted to cry, we just hugged her and made her cry.

"Don't be afraid to be sad in front of Niannian, whether it is for the child or for us, sadness is a very important way to heal," Bai Ling said solemnly, "and there are some emotions that you can't hide...... Children are the most sensitive, and the more you don't say it, the more afraid they are. ”

"But what if we talk too much......" Ai Songqing was still worried, "We told Nian Nian that her mother was 'dead', so would she also feel 'dead' to see Sister Li?" Will she seek death herself? ”

While speaking, Ai Songqing remembered that in the mourning hall, she saw the scene of Nian Nian lying in the coffin, so she choked up and told Bai Ling about it.

If she hadn't found out that day, maybe when it was time to be buried, Nian Nian would have really been buried in that coffin.

Every time he thought of it, Ai Songqing felt afraid.

Bai Ling's eyes were slightly red when she heard this, she sighed softly, hugged Ai Songqing and patted her shoulder.

"I've met that kind of person before." Bai Ling said softly.

"What kind of person?"

"When I was a child, my parents were away for a while, and I lived with an elder...... One of my neighbors teased me that my parents never came back because they had died outside, and that if I wanted to see them, I would have to die. ”

Ai Songqing's body shook slightly.

"How could anyone be so vicious...... And then what? ”

"I couldn't tell if it was true, so I went and asked my elder." Bai Ling said softly, "She told me it wasn't true, and she told me not to do it. She's—"

She also immediately found a phone and called Bai Ling's parents who were far away, and Bai Ling heard her parents' voices on the phone, so she settled down.

But this paragraph can't be told to Ai Songqing.

"In short," Bai Ling looked at Ai Songqing, "although the child doesn't understand many things, she is not stupid, she will come to you when she encounters something that she is not sure about...... As long as she thinks you won't lie to her and won't scold her, she will come to you for help. ”

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