Urn coffins are no longer visible in our place, at least I have never seen a real urn coffin buried when I am so old. And in my grandfather's notes, I also didn't find a similar funeral rite.

Since I was very unfamiliar with the process, I had to do what I wanted.

And asking Jiang Yifeng to prepare the urn coffin is just a joke, I know he can't do it, it's just a joke with him.

Sure enough, after I said let him stay, he immediately asked to go to Gu's house with me, and put forward a lot of reasons, nothing more than not wanting to stay at home to make urn coffins.

I knew what he was thinking, so I agreed.

When Jiang Yifeng and I arrived at Gu's house, there was still a faint cry in the house. Listening to the cry, and looking at the decorations with a strong sense of joy that had not yet had time to clean up the ground, I couldn't help but feel a sour feeling in my heart.

It was still Brother Gu who saw me, and I told him about the urn coffin, of course, he was not familiar with these, but he just wanted to hold a funeral for the child out of guilt, so when discussing it, he said vigorously, 'It's all up to me, and they just do it'."

Even though he gave me carte blanche to make things clear.

Therefore, in the courtyard of their house, I pulled Brother Gu to sit down and said to him: "Brother Gu, although it is better to do this matter quickly, there are some things that we must also explain clearly. After all, there has been no precedent for funerals for children in our village for hundreds of years! ”

Brother Gu understood this very well, and he said to me, "Little coffin master, of course I know this. The children in our village died young, and it was as simple as they could to deal with it. But this time, isn't it ashamed of the child? It's all because of our momentary negligence that we caused such consequences. My poor son has only been born for a month, and he still has a long life to spend! You say, if he dies like this, can the child have no resentment in his heart? I heard that people with grievances cannot be reincarnated, so we asked you to come here. ”

I nodded, indicating understanding, but then said, "Although I have read about the method of urn coffin burial from books, we really don't know what the specific ceremony is. After all, that kind of ritual has been lost since the Han Dynasty. Therefore, I think that this urn coffin should be done according to the ancient form, but the ceremony should still be done according to our rules. ”

Brother Gu listened to my words and was silent for a long time.

What he meant was that this funeral was going to be done in a big way, so as to make up for the guilt in his heart. But my words are undoubtedly insisting on keeping everything simple.

Seeing that he was silent, I said to him: "Brother Gu, since ancient times, our ancestors have taught that it is taboo to 'send black-haired people to black-haired people', although I have not experienced that kind of taste, but I can imagine that it is not comfortable!" You...... Or, Brother Gu, I won't talk about you first, just Aunt Gu and sister-in-law, can they stand it? They're in a lot of pain now, and if they're allowed to go to the funeral, I don't dare to say if there will be any more accidents because of this. ”

When Big Brother Gu heard this, he looked at me in disbelief and said, "No! We don't want to be short-sighted because of this, and I'm sure children don't want to see that. We just want to give him one last ride and give him a beautiful funeral, can't we do this? ”

I explained to him, "Brother Gu, we are all from the village, and you have also experienced many things in vain. You should also know that even if you are far away from the deceased, at the funeral, you will inevitably be affected by other people's emotions, which will make your heart very depressed. And you, as parents, are uncomfortable to watch your children die like this. But if you really attend the funeral in person, the degree of discomfort is definitely not the same as it is now. Maybe there is still reason now, but on that day, under the extremely depressed situation, it is very possible that anyone can do anything, and I really don't want any of you to have any more accidents. ”

Hearing me say this, Brother Gu slowly understood me, but he still stubbornly said: "Okay, you said don't make a big deal, it's okay, after all, our village also thinks that the death of the child is a bad thing, so that everyone is contaminated with bad luck, which is not good!" So, we don't make a big deal out of it. But I feel that our hearts still have to be conveyed to the children, and my mother and my daughter-in-law went through this and were almost defeated. I don't think they'll participate. But as a father, I have to accompany my son on the last journey. I also hope you understand. ”

Such a result is already the result of Big Brother Gu's repeated concessions, and of course I understand this.

Since it is an urn coffin, the urn coffin only needs to be carried by two people.

Big Brother Gu insisted on carrying it himself, and Jiang Yifeng also volunteered to help him. I won't say anything more, and I won't call anyone more.

Looking through the yellow calendar, coupled with the child's birthday, the date was selected, and it was within five days.

I explained to Jiang Yifeng and asked him to take the map and go to the carpenter in the village. He was the only one in the village who was the best at crafting, and there was no one else I could think of to make the urn coffin but him. Even though he was a carpenter, not a ceramicist, he had to give it a try.

After arranging these, I asked Brother Gu to take me up the mountain to find a burial place.

According to the original meaning of Brother Gu, this child was to be buried in their family's ancestral grave. But I can't agree with that!

As I have already said, one of the meanings of urn coffin burial is that the child is not yet an adult, and cannot be buried in the same cemetery as an adult, but must be buried separately.

But Brother Gu was very stubborn about this, thinking that this child was a descendant of the Gu family and should be buried in the ancestral grave.

I couldn't convince him for a long time, so I had to say to him: "There are other theories about this urn coffin, the most important of which you probably haven't seen." I also showed you the pattern of the urn coffin, and there is a small hole left on the lid of the urn coffin, I wonder if you have noticed? ”

"Then I didn't pay attention." Big Brother Gu didn't understand what I meant, so he didn't rush to refute me.

I explained to him, "There are actually two explanations for leaving that little hole. The first explanation is that the child's soul will ascend to heaven through that small hole. Another explanation is that our ancestors believed that such a young child would not die easily, and that a small hole was left to give him breath in the hope that he would be resurrected. Whichever is true shows that children are not the same as adults. You must impose on him according to the rules of adult etiquette, for there will be no harm to him and nothing good. Moreover, when buried, we must also follow our rules, and there can be no grave bags and no tombstones. ”

"Why is that?" Brother Gu couldn't understand me at all this time, staring at me, looking like he couldn't bear to be mad.

Brother Gu is stubborn about leaving grave bags and setting up tombstones for his children, although I think it's inappropriate, but I really can't convince him. I had no choice but to make a little concession to him in this matter.

However, in the end, it was persuaded that he would not let Aunt Gu and his sister-in-law participate, which also saved me a lot of thought. As for the stele, it's a big deal that I'll go to the town again, and I'll ask the old man who carved the stele to help carve one.