"Teacher, my problem is that in my last exam, my score was only more than 380 points, which is not up or down, not enough to take the undergraduate exam, and I am unwilling to take the junior college exam. Every day, I was thinking about it, thinking that I would go to a junior college in the future, and my life would be over, and I was anxious and irritable, I couldn't sleep well, and I couldn't learn. What should I do in this situation? ”

Professor Yu looked at him, smiled and said, "I can't go to the ideal school, and I don't want to go to the school I can go to, it's really sad."

The student nodded.

Professor Yu said: "I think about these questions every day, I can't think of results, I can't sleep well, and I can't read books?"

The student continued to nod: "I know this is not right, the college entrance examination is coming, I should review carefully and work hard to make the final sprint." But every time I see those books and questions, I feel impetuous and can't calm down. ”

Professor Yu leaned forward slightly, and said in a gentle tone, "Did you find it?" The more you don't allow yourself to be anxious, the more anxious you become; The more you force yourself to read, the more you can't read it; The less irritated you are, the more you can't settle down? ”

"Found it."

This question, which I mentioned in the lecture earlier, is the question of how to live in harmony with negative emotions. Most of us, when we find ourselves in a bad mood, our first reaction is to immediately eliminate it and pull ourselves back on track. For example, eliminate impetuousness and read seriously! However, in fact, negative emotions are very difficult to eliminate directly. At this time, what we need to do is not to destroy it, but to admit it. ”

Professor Yu looked at the student and guided: "Next, I will say it again, you follow it......" After the student nodded, he said, "I have a bad mentality, I am afraid of failure......"

"I have a bad mentality, I'm afraid of failure......"

"I can't control myself, I'm impetuous......"

"I can't control myself, I'm impetuous......"

"I'm not as strong as I thought I was, I'm weak......"

"I'm not as strong as I thought I was, I'm weak......"

“……”

“……”

After the guidance was completed, Professor Yu asked, "How do you feel now?"

The student unconsciously moved his shoulders and arms and said, "It's much easier, thank you, teacher."

Professor Yu also said: "Admitting one's weakness and powerlessness over certain things is not cowardice, but a kind of bravery. You were brave just now. ”

…………

When the next opportunity to ask a question came, the students below went crazy.

Qi Shushu raised a large number of hands, apparently realizing that there was a practical benefit to be gained from asking questions, so they all enthusiastic.

Tang Mingyao also raised his hand, wanting to ask a few questions.

It's a pity that there are too many people, and he can't help but feel a little sorry that he hasn't been called several times in a row.

He looked at the girl with black-rimmed glasses, took the microphone and handed it to one of the students who had been drawn, and when the student had finished, he took the microphone back and handed it to the next person.

Who is this girl?

He thought.

Time passed quickly, and the lecture had been going on for more than two hours before I knew it, and it was almost noon time for school to end.

The school's teacher took the stage, stopped the students below from asking questions, announced the end of the lecture, and then invited Professor Yu to leave the backstage.

Professor Yu looked at the eager eyes under the stands, and said to the teacher, "Answer two more questions."

Let the person below raise their hand.

Tang Mingyao stood on the chair, standing out from the crowd and raising his hand highest.

In order to ask a question, he also put on an old face.

This time finally attracted the attention of the stage, Professor Yu turned his gaze and asked, "This classmate, what questions do you want to ask?"

Tang Mingyao took the microphone handed by the girl and asked, "Professor Yu, my question is, if I want to be admitted to Jinghua University for a psychology major, what do I need to pay attention to?"

"First of all, you have to love this subject, and don't blindly want to learn just because you listen to my class; Secondly, you must have the strength to be admitted to Jinghua University, and you must perform well in the examination room. Professor Yu looked at him with interest, "Why do you want to study psychology?" ”

"I feel like I'm very gifted and interested in the subject."

"Oh?"

Professor Yu became interested, took off the microphone, and walked a few steps to the front of the stage.

Psychology is still relatively unpopular. The psychology department of their Jinghua University, speaking of scenery, is actually not even satisfied with recruiting people for some years, and it all depends on other majors. Those students who are transferred are not interested in this major, and many people cope with it for a few years in school for a diploma, and then do not engage in related work after graduation, which is actually quite a waste of educational resources.

At this time, it was rare to meet a student who dared to say that he was talented and interested in this subject, and he couldn't help but pay a little attention to Tang Mingyao.

He asked: "Few people dare to claim to be talented in psychology, if I ask you a question, are you willing to answer it?"

After Tang Mingyao agreed, he said: "I recently came into contact with a little boy, the fourth grade of primary school, who is not short-sighted, but he pestered his family to give him a pair of glasses without prescription, and he wears them all day long and is reluctant to take them off, and he likes to raise lizards and snakes, and he has brought pets to school several times, so that his classmates dare not contact him." What do you think of this boy? ”

Tang Mingyao: "I want to know if he was born with these animals, or if he came later."

Professor Yu shook his head: "What I have learned so far, he has only liked it in the last year or two, and he was not born, he was even very afraid of snakes when he was a child."

Tang Mingyao nodded, and said according to the conclusion that he had instantly reached in his mind:

"I think most people like beautiful things by nature, such as liking beautiful flowers and plants, like cats and dogs, which is in line with the aesthetics of normal people. Lizards and snakes are usually something that people like to be different, and this little boy has brought his pet to school several times to be scary, and I think he is being different. ”

Professor Yu nodded slightly, noncommittal: "Is there anything else?"

Tang Mingyao: "I feel that he has been neglected in the family, for example, his parents are too busy with work to take care of him, so he wants to use this method to attract the attention of his parents. After all, as long as there is an accident at school, the teacher will invite the parents, so that he will attract the attention of the parents. His purpose is actually to ask his parents for attention. ”

"Anything else? How do you explain wearing glasses? ”

"The eyes are the windows of the soul, and the lenses can separate the gaze of others, and the unnecessary act of wearing glasses is actually trying to cover this window. I think he has low self-esteem and is afraid that others will see through his inner thoughts, so he uses lenses to hide himself. ”

"Why do you say that?"

"Instinct it. Since he is not nearsighted, he wears glasses but is unwilling to take them off, there is always a purpose for him. ”