After spending a meal, He Ning roughly talked about what happened to him when he was a child, how he got along with his parents, how he found out that this model was wrong, and how to save himself.

The story is simple, and to sum up, it can be roughly described in the following words:

What is it like to have a moody father? How did a girl born in such a family environment grow up trembling, and how did she save herself?

Tang Mingyao collected the materials and felt that his story could be richer.

In the evening, when I return to the dormitory, turn off the lights, and have a sleeper meeting as usual.

Tang Mingyao joined in and chatted with his roommates about various topics.

Today, he wanted to know how his classmates and parents got along, so he consciously mentioned two sentences, and then the topic really shifted in this direction.

He first talked about his parents: "My parents are generally very good, willing to endure hardships and be good to me." However, no one is perfect, and they also have many shortcomings - both of them are quite conservative and dare not make major decisions on their own, so they can't expect them to forge ahead and build a rich family fortune for me, so I have to rely on my own efforts. And they are very emotionally restrained, unless they encounter a particularly major happy event, such as being admitted to Jinghua University, don't want to see big mood swings in their eyes. As for compliments, don't even think about it, I don't seem to have heard them praise me in my life. ”

These words caused several other people to sigh, and they all quickly joined the discussion.

Xu Ang said: "My dad went to the Special Economic Zone more than ten years ago, and he can make a lot of money, chartering a building as a second-hand landlord, and still working as an underground lottery dealer on Hong Kong Island, making a lot of money every year." He was a golden bachelor, and my mom ran away when I was very young, because the family was poor at that time, so I grew up pretty much alone...... The year before last, he found another wife in the south and gave birth to a younger sister to me, and now the family of three is happy. Hehe, if I hadn't called to ask for money in the past two years, I suspect he wouldn't have remembered my son. ”

Ran Xiaomin: "My dad told me to learn to be self-reliant since I was a child, and not to be looked down upon. When I was a kid, I did a bad job in an exam, and he would be very sad and angry, do you understand that feeling? Obviously, I failed the exam, but he was in pain as if he had made a mistake, and he would drink heavily...... Every time I see him, I blame myself, so I never dare to fail the test, I have to take the first test every time, and when I get to middle school, I must take the first test in middle school. But now that they have entered the university, it is slightly better, after all, for them, entering the university is equivalent to achieving the goal of studying. ”

Tang Mingyao interjected and asked, "You failed the exam, and your father blames himself?" Does he think he didn't teach you well, or is it the reason? ”

"I don't know, I feel that all the hope of his life is in me, as long as I make the slightest mistake, he can't bear it, and he is more fragile than my mother. Sometimes I feel quite tired, too. ”

The three of them chatted back and forth, only Yang Zhiwei listened to everyone's stories, occasionally interjected to say a few words, but never said anything about his own situation.

Xu Ang asked him, and he said that there was nothing to say.

A few people were not forced, and chatted deeply along the topics that had already been discussed.

It's all about Chen Sesame and rotten grain, how many beatings I was beaten when I was a child, how many grievances I suffered, and what are the things that I still remember now......

Chatting and chatting, Xu Ang suddenly sighed with emotion: "It seems that each of us has a lot of misfortunes, and none of us feel that we have a happy childhood?" ”

Tang Mingyao said: "In fact, the main color is happiness, but there are many problems that must be admitted. The parents of our generation have a low level of education, and most of them have several brothers and sisters, who have never enjoyed the love of their parents, so they don't know how to be parents. ”

Xu Ang sighed and said: "It's a pity that there is no work permit, every parent must take the exam first, and only after passing is allowed to have a child." ”

"Think beautifully! If you don't qualify, you get pregnant first, will you just beat it off? Ran Xiaomin said.

"Oh, maybe there won't be me anymore!"

Tang Mingyao said: "I heard a saying before, how much you hated your parents when you were a child, how much you will be like them when you grow up. Now we think they have a lot of problems, but when we become parents in the future, we will find that we will repeat their problems. Childhood experiences affect marriage patterns, and it's like a circular spell that will be passed down from generation to generation, unless one of them finds a problem and jumps out of the cycle on their own. ”

"Well, I don't want to be like my dad. How to jump? Xu Ang asked.

"Recognize your problems and try to make a difference! Now we have the greatest convenience, because psychology is the best tool to recognize ourselves and solve problems. ”

"So you filled out the psychology volunteer?"

Tang Mingyao: "It's not all for this reason, I mainly because I like this subject, so I embarked on this path. ”

Xu Ang was silent for a while, and suddenly said, "It seems that being transferred to this major is not a bad thing." I didn't really like it, but I took classes these days, and then I talked to you like this, and I found this subject to be quite interesting. ”

Ran Xiaomin said: "I think too. Anyway, it's going to take four years of study, and it's better to like it than not to like it. ”

Tang Mingyao was deeply satisfied with the transformation of these two guys.

This subject is too unpopular in China, and sometimes he feels that he has fewer companions on the road and is a little lonely. Now there are two more enthusiasts, although they are not yet in the same way, but they also make him feel that this road will eventually get wider and wider.

The next day, Tang Mingyao took out the time to take out the notebook, revise the outline, and figure out how to add some insights from yesterday's chat.

In fact, the writing of youth pain literature is always changing, as long as it revolves around youth, first love, skipping class, rebellion, friendship, etc., a little vulgar, you can also add some love triangles, abortions and other plots.

However, Tang Mingyao didn't want to write about this, even if he changed the form of writing, his purpose of writing has not changed.

He wasn't even going to change the title of the book.

Writing Theme: Highlight the relationship between our generation and their parents through the stories of a group of young people, how to hurt, how to heal, and how to grow up.

Main characters: Yuan Jiang, Wang Xiaoyu, etc.

Synopsis: ......

After finishing up, Tang Mingyao tried to write the beginning, starting with love.

[Yuan Jiang and Wang Xiaoyu are high school classmates, and they are also childhood sweethearts who grew up together. At school, they met a few good friends and formed a small group. Because Wang Xiaoyu is very beautiful, he was secretly crushed by several boys at the same time in a small group, which made Yuan Jiang feel a strong sense of crisis. So before others could express anything, he took the first step to confess to Wang Xiaoyu......]