Chapter 375: The Tang Way
A strong backlash, or a lack of hope for the future, or a simple bad mood, can make a person do bad things.
Bad people have a sour grape mentality, feeling that the world has made them lose their appetite, so they start laughing at others to comfort themselves, believing that someone is weaker than themselves.
When people are unhappy, they want to see things that are more miserable than him, so that they feel better, and unhappy people always hope to see people who are unhappy than themselves, so that they can reduce their pressure.
But this kind of person can't be happy even if he does bad things, because he doesn't know what to do except do bad things.
For the more people with inferiority complex, the easier it is to become this kind of person, and now a few children, the reason why they do bad things or bully others is because they find that they are not valued by others, and they are not valued by others, but when there is a lot of pressure on their bodies, they want to vent, and when they want to vent, bullying people is the simplest thing.
Bad may be a way to treat old wounds, or to make up for shortcomings, to transfer one's fear, loneliness, or jealousy to others.
That's the kind of person who makes it difficult for people to feel empathetic, because they don't have the psychology to do good in nature, or they are not a good person.
When such a person does bad things, it is as if he admits that he is helpless about his current situation, so he protects himself by doing bad things.
There are actually many kinds of bad people, and there are many kinds of bad children, who do bad things once a season, and you see that other people's circumstances are better than their own salaries or positions, and they will feel unfair, and for these children, this is the situation they are encountering now.
Now they are standing on a cable line, if they take a wrong step, they may fall down, or they will go on the path of deviation from now on, Fan Jingjing does not want her child, or the child in her eyes, to go in the direction of deviation.
As long as there is a difference, it is impossible to produce fairness, and as long as there is unfairness, it will begin to make people jealous and produce bad behavior, because our behavior reminds others that they feel unfair.
People like to dominate others, people like to sow discord, people may feel sympathy for the pain of others, or they may feel schadenfreude, Fan Jingjing hopes to guide their emotions.
It is actually very difficult to channel the emotions of bad children.
There is even a more extreme kind of child, when he uses his behavior to make others feel hurt, he never feels that he is hurting the other person, and the other party will be hurt because he brought it on himself.
In fact, a bad act is an intention, no matter what the reason is, as long as the intention is achieved, the bad thing will be done.
As long as a person has bad behavior, if he continues to form a habit, he will form a terrible bad person, so Fan Jingjing has to correct him and make him have no way to form a habit.
Give them more fairness or warmth, or the only last way to do it is to put more pressure on them, so that they have no way to think about what they want and need, and this person's life will become like a mummy.
Fan Jingjing can't forget to give these children a little warmth when punishing, the way to save these children this time, and let them know that there are ways to improve themselves and improve the environment they are in now, as for Fan Jingjing's children, there is no bullying action.
For most children, if they are really not inherently very bad, although they are jealous, but still want to live a better life on their own, there may be a chance to be saved.
But if there is no way to develop the idea of mutual assistance and cooperation, they will not be allowed to join the Fan family manor in the future, and the people of the war village may not demand such a high quality.
Fan Jingjing still hopes that everyone has a good psychology.
When a real bad person is in a situation, some of his bad traits will not be stimulated, so the best way is to put everyone in a relatively good environment, not in an extreme situation, there is no way to resist the situation, in the situation that there is no way to resist, people's thinking is very likely to go to the bad road.
After dealing with the child's problem, Fan Jingjing felt a little back to the previous school, in fact, the child's problem is never a simple problem, but when it comes to the child's problem, it is actually a problem of people and people, but the child's patience is relatively weak, and he may explode directly most of the time, but adults know how to hide, or they can reduce their anger, because he can clearly recognize how bad the world is to him, and if he wants to escape, this bad must have a certain amount of patience.
At some moments, he can burst out, but most of the time, he can only endure it.
"Will your way of dealing with it be too weak, people who have too many ideas, it's actually very simple, let him work until he is tired, he has no ideas.
These children already have a way to bully others, which means that he has the strength to work, and he is tired of working, as long as he is tired to death, we don't care what he thinks in his heart and whether he has a future. ”
"The population of Datang is very precious."
"Manpower is a precious population, not precious at all, a person must be useful to others, he is a precious, only eat how can it be called precious?"
"I didn't expect your ideas to be so extreme."
"I'm curious that your ideas are not extreme, and you can even say that you are very kind, but as a nobleman, if you can't become a person who eats human blood, how can you stabilize your footing.
Someone will provoke you at every turn, and people will not tell you about human nature, because people only want to achieve their own goals, and the person who is sent, he may have humanity, but he must obey his master's arrangement, whether he sympathizes with you or not, he must find a way to make you harmed......"
Fan Jingjing heard Yu Chi Aya say, and she had a headache in her heart.
She can recognize how terrifying this world is, so she prefers to hide in the core of the Fan family's manor, because when all people do something, they will tell him good results, and will not tell him what means they have used, in fact, some means are one thing, but when they hear that they are going to do such things, it is another thing, and they may feel that when they will do such things, people are a little psychopathic, but this psychopath, In fact, it is the real way of life of Datang people.