"Hmm." Hua Ni nodded in affirmation.

Taking a deep breath, Zhou Lei's heart was warm and heavy. The warm is moving, and the heavy is the responsibility.

Dumb chose himself with such a big secret, but he didn't know anything.

"Am I sorry? Feel like I shouldn't let Dumb choose me by himself? So now, what are you going to do now? I'll probably ruin dumb, what ...... do you have What's the best way to do it? It was precisely because of the secret that Dumb was carrying that Zhou Lei especially minded what Hua Ni had just said.

He loves dumb so much, spoils it so much, how could he ruin it?

I can't figure it out, and I can't figure it out.

"You love it and you're going to give everything for it, I'm pretty sure of that. And, even if you don't love it, as a soldier and know how important it is, you will absolutely do whatever it takes to protect it. ”

"So, I'm in the pit?" Zhou Lei smiled helplessly.

"It doesn't matter if you love it, but you spoil it too much, you know?"

"Having a problem with petting it?"

"It's just a problem, how many years have it been since it was created?"

"Less than two years."

"So how many years does it take for an ordinary child to be able to be independent from birth to when he grows up?"

"At least after the age of 18......" How does Zhou Lei feel a little empty?

Hemp eggs!

Isn't it a vain? According to this time, isn't Dumb just a two-year-old child? He's an adult male who actually falls in love with a two-year-old child? Is he a pervert, or a brute?!

Hua Ni seemed to see what he was thinking, and said with a smile: "Plants can become adults much faster than humans, and Dumb can like you and fall in love with you, which is enough to prove that its mind is at least an adult, you don't have to worry about this." ”

Zhou Lei touched his nose: "You just know it in your heart, can you not say it?" I would feel like I was so shameless. ”

Smiling kindly, Hua Ni continued: "Although Dumb can be said to be an adult, in fact, it still needs to learn a lot of things, it will depend on you, and it also needs you to help it establish a correct worldview and values. At this time, it is actually very immature in many ways, and it is easily influenced by the outside world. It doesn't know what's out there, what's right and what's wrong, and it takes it all in regardless of everything. If there is no one to guide it at this time, it can only grope for itself, hitting wall by wall, until it hits its head and bleeds, and understands what is going on, so that it can have a more determined and independent personality in these lessons. ”

"You mean, Dumb isn't independent enough?"

"I was surprised by the fact that it has the ability to like someone so quickly, which proves that it learns so quickly. But in fact, it is indeed not independent enough, at least its worldview and values have not yet been formed. It's like when you're planting a pot of flowers, even though it's already starting to bloom, but you're just starting to prune the foliage, and you don't let it take shape at the end, and if you're not careful, it's likely to turn it into something you didn't think it would be. ”

Zhou Lei nodded, somewhat understanding what she meant: "So you just said that I was too spoiled and dumb, because I was too obedient to it and would let it develop some bad habits?" ”

"Yes, you can obey it, but you have to set some rules for it, draw a circle. Within the confines of this circle, it has a lot of freedom of choice, but outside of this circle, you need to keep an eye on it. You need to help it pick and choose what is good for it and what might be bad for it. If it's a bad guide, you even have to use your resolute attitude to help it out, tell it that it's not right, it's not okay. Hua Ni also gave an example, "Just like when I just entered the door, you knew that it was likely to hurt its leaves by perming its hair, so you should stop it and tell it that it can't do this, no." ”

"I've said it......" Zhou Lei wanted to argue.

"But your attitude is not resolute enough, and you are still obeying its wishes. This is a very challenging process, and while Dumb is doing these things, he is actually testing your bottom line. If your bottom line keeps moving backwards, then it will keep leaning that way. Sometimes, you really can't underestimate it, it's actually very good at looking at people's faces. You see, it is in front of me, and it will never dare to challenge my authority like this, and if it is tempted to a certain extent, it will immediately retract obediently. And in your case, it will do something over and over again to make you ...... You let things that you can't accept, but you have to accept. ”

Zhou Lei touched his nose wryly. When Dumb was with him at the beginning, he was really well-behaved, but then he was much more indulgent, and he thought more and did more.

At first, I really didn't think it was anything, and I thought it was quite interesting, after all, it began to have its own ideas, and it began to rebel, which was quite fresh.

But after a long time, he did feel a little tired, helpless, and sometimes had a headache. I don't understand how it would do that, and it told it it wouldn't work, but it would do it anyway. Sometimes, even knowing that he doesn't agree, he just wants to do it.

"I seem to be a bit of a failure!"

"It's not like, it's true. Just now I asked Mu Xiang to take it outside to play with Xiaoyi first, and I want to talk to you alone, in fact, I just want to talk about this. You are really too bottomless in front of it, you can't even stop it from doing things that hurt yourself, and you have to coax it first, how can this work? No, no, no, there is no second word to discuss. ”

"I'm not afraid it's upset."

"Don't be afraid. You also have to have a temper, you have to have your own thoughts, you have to tell it clearly that you are unhappy, you have your own temper, and you also need it to understand. You can't always treat it like a child, it's always you who give in, you have to treat it like a real woman, and let it regress for you sometimes. But sometimes, you also have to treat it as a child, and guide it to form a correct world view, values, and even a code of conduct...... "Hua Ni said bitterly, probably she didn't think that she hadn't educated her own children first, and first gave others an "education guide".

If she hadn't taken care of the half-demon for so many years, she would have gained some experience, and she wouldn't have known how to explore it herself.

This education of half-demons is actually the same as humans educating children to adulthood, that is, it is more troublesome and complicated. Half-demons are not like human children, they grow up slowly, they grow at different speeds, like a twisted polygon, some of which protrude a corner here, and some of which are recessed in one piece. While you encourage their strengths, you also have to find ways to make them make up for their weaknesses.

You don't have to be the same height at every corner, but at least you can't reach the line that's too short to pass.

And in fact, where the passing mark is, no one knows at all. The only thing she can compare is to see where the average of most of the half-demons is, no matter how short it is, it can't be shorter than the average.