For the first time in his life, he received a "letter" from his father - there was no postmark, just a piece of letter paper that had been folded twice, Feng Nan solemnly opened it, and a piece of paper was densely written. She took a deep breath and read under the lamp.

"My Daughter Nan:

After much thought, I decided to write to you. Because you replied to me in a message on WeChat, it didn't seem to understand what I meant. If I think about it, I'd better write it down. When I'm older, I think about this end and forget that one, and write it down more clearly and completely. I hope you read it carefully.

You are my Feng Mourao's daughter, from childhood to adulthood, except for the years when I was in college, we were all together. I know you better.

As for you, you're so bad, you don't have a city, you haven't let me worry about your mother much, but you haven't achieved much. Temperate personality, three-minute heat in doing things, basically nothing to persevere to the end and make achievements. (For example, you lose weight over and over again — to see the big.) ）

Your biggest problem is the lack of ability to live independently. Your mom and I understand that you have a busy schedule and spend most of your time on your brain and phone. Don't be full, you can't even take care of yourself.

Above, I'm not scolding you.

Regarding the question of "gnawing the old" and "giant baby" that you have repeatedly mentioned to me, I also checked Baidu and figured out the meaning of these words. I don't think you need to worry about that.

Most of your generation, especially the only child, I don't think it's realistic to completely disconnect from your parents.

With the intensity of work like yours, it is impossible to talk about the balance between family and work on your own. (Unless you don't work, but I don't think you're going to want to be a stay-at-home wife, right?) We old people can help if we can, and we are happy to do so.

On the question of Li Man's upbringing. You don't have to talk about him left and right. Since we are leaving, we must be dissatisfied with our children, otherwise there is no need for this. Your mother doesn't understand this, but I do. Generational parenting has the disadvantages of generational parenting, and I don't agree with your grandmother taking care of you when you're a child.

However, we will help you with the child, and there will definitely be no big mistake. So should you weigh the pros and cons?

It was also based on the consideration of weighing the pros and cons that I made preparations to help you take care of the children for a few more years. Your child will still be yours after all, and when he is older, goes to school, or after the age of ten, and his physical fitness is mature, you can take it yourself. Child, if there is an accident, there is no way to regret it!

I also need to say a few words about Li Feng, although you may not like to listen to it.

After you and Li Feng got married, there was almost no time to live together, you lacked the experience of living together, facing the experience of chicken feathers, and you were like a young man, with beautiful things in your mind.

Li Feng has been my son-in-law for a few years, and it can be seen that he is not a person who can carry all the trivial things in the family (he is in my house, and he doesn't do any housework!). ）。 If you really go out and live independently, do you think he can share the burden with you? I'm afraid it's too much of a good idea.

You haven't encountered any ups and downs since you got married, and it's also because everything is going well. He's pulling you out now, and he's playing with fire in a way. In my opinion, it is not necessarily beneficial to your marital relationship.

Of course, I understand your thoughts, especially Li Feng's thoughts (to be honest, there are still some who don't quite understand you). Then I would like to give you some advice:

You have to live your days first. You don't know how to make money. If I were Li Feng, I would definitely not live like you.

He should come back and take on the responsibilities of husband and father. But if you don't hate making less money, you are burdened by money, and you have to go out, then I think it's okay for you to go out to him. I agree with that.

When you're all stable, we'll talk about taking the child away.

If you can really take care of yourself, how can we not be at ease. Your mother and I should be liberated as soon as possible.

I hope you can make a sensible, deliberate, and responsible decision.

Bye! ”

It's a strangely formatted letter, a bit of a half-letter, half-WeChat message. Feng Nan could read his father's pretended relaxed appearance in his heart.

She was actually very moved, even though she didn't approve of many of her father's words and hidden attitudes.

Feng Nan has not written with a pen for many years, and the notes he usually makes in meetings are also ghost drawings, remember the same as a ball of yarn.

So she chose to turn on the computer, log in to the Antelope Brain Gambling WeChat, found her father's avatar and typed on the keyboard:

"Dad, I've read the letter. Thank you.

I understand your concerns, so let me conclude my thoughts.

Li Feng and I didn't do what we should have done in this family in the past, and we didn't find a reason for this, because we didn't do it well.

But I think we still have the ability to live independently – just do it, and you can wait and see.

The advice you gave us was safe, but I couldn't take it. Because Li Feng and I are Li Man's parents, it is the two of us who are really responsible for him.

In the past six months, I have worked in Shanghai and traveled between the two places. I don't think this is a good family atmosphere for children, this kind of urban left-behind state, I believe that parents with conditions will not take the initiative to choose. It was because of this experience that I wanted to change.

Reality has its cruelty, and I have made some preparations. But we should not be held back because of the existence of an imaginary enemy. In fact, there are many only children who can handle the problem of independent living. When we all step out of this circle, we can all see it. For example, you and my mother, if you don't bring your grandchildren anymore, you go to the university for the elderly to write and play chess, and you may find out.

I know that you and Mom are the best people in this world to me, the most selfless people. Chinese are not interested in emotional expressions between family members, and I don't come out, but it's okay to write it down.

I love you, but I have to grow up to love you better. ”

After the news was sent, Feng's father did not reply to Feng Nan - neither of them got the answer they wanted.

During this period of confrontation, Feng Nan relied on his own persistence and saw a different scenery from the compromise. There was something strange about her, similar to a sadness mixed with confidence. She put away her confidence and didn't show it to Li Feng, but treasured it as a secret between father and daughter.