Fu Bo often chatted with Feng Zhiyao about how he met Han Yi, sharing meaningful or boring things between them.

Thinking back to what Qiu Lang said, he began to feel that maybe he really didn't understand Han Yi well. All he saw was the infinite scenery of Han Yi, and his pressure, the bitterness behind it, as an old friend, he never seemed to really empathize.

In his impression, Han Yi is a person who is cold on the outside and hot on the inside, and among familiar friends, he is actually a very cheerful and laughing person. And now, it seems that there is really no longer the feeling that I had at the beginning.

It's mature, right? And with a tired sadness.

It's apathy, right? I also care about my friends and family.

Maybe everyone will experience this kind of growth.

I don't know when it started, but I like to be alone more and more, not to be disturbed by others, and I don't want to disturb others.

I don't know when it started, I became more and more accustomed to thinking alone, I don't want to tell my grievances everywhere, and I won't solve my grievances with others.

I don't know when it started, the smile became less and less, and the heart became more and more.

I don't know when I started, I tasted all kinds of tastes by myself, and I carried a thousand kinds of pain.

A person's happy expression does not represent a person's true happiness; A person's talk and laughter are lively, which does not mean that a person has no hidden intentions.

It turns out: the smile is lying, but the tears are surrendering; The mouth is strong, but the heart is hurting.

When there is no one to accompany him, he learns to sing the song alone; When there is no one to help, I learn to walk alone; When no one understands, he learns to be silent; When no one hurts, learn to bear it alone.

It turns out that every time no one is there and no one loves, we understand that life is our own, and our mood is also our own.

The hot tears in the corners of his eyes were wiped away by himself, and he no longer won the sympathy of others; The pain in my heart, I slowly sewed it, and I no longer longed for others to feel distressed.

Under the not strong appearance, there is a strong heart; In a very hard life, he tempered a tenacious and unyielding person.

Those who have gone through the storm are still afraid of great difficulties; The heart that has experienced the vicissitudes of the world is still afraid of the gathering and dispersion of red dust.

The more you grow up, the more lonely you become, and the experience you have in the meantime is only you know best; The more mature you are, the more silent you are, and only you know the pain best.

The end of time: we have all changed from a person who loves to laugh to a person who does not dare to cry!

Is this growth?

Everyone must learn to live strong and live persistently.

Fu Bo seemed to be able to see Han Yi's helplessness when he was joking, but at the same time he behaved so persistently.

Compared to Han Yi, Fu Bo felt that he was simply too relaxed. He thinks he is just an ordinary code farmer, what people call a programmer ape (member) and a kicked (it) dog.

From resigning from a large company to start his own company, to bankruptcy and bankruptcy, and now to the comeback, in fact, he didn't feel much pressure during the whole process, even if Han Yi didn't take the initiative to find him, he would still continue to be alone in a small dark room

, eating instant noodles and frantically doing programs on four or five computer screens.

He is such a person, and he has always been a very good talent in Han Yi's eyes! This even made Han Yi ashamed.

It is common to hear people complain about the boredom and tedium of life, and it seems that everyone is disappointed in the life in front of them, and everyone dreams of putting on a backpack and going on a trip.

They are always here, their hearts are elsewhere, they live elsewhere, as if this is the only way to dissolve the loss of ordinary life. In fact, life is really bland, not boring, but some people have a too simple attitude towards life; When the heart is not at peace, you can't maintain a calm and calm mind anywhere, and you will always envy the life elsewhere.

In Fu Bo's view, the good or bad of everything depends on his own attitude. Life is like a mirror, he faces it positively with a smile, and it will return him with a smile.

Life, everywhere is the same. But what makes his life different from someone else's depends on how he chooses to live it.

A person who loves life, a person who is calm and calm, will not feel that every day is repeated, because they can always live the same life in other people's mouths as they want.

It seemed that he saw something from Han Yi's expression, vaguely deviating from life's sadness.

In the English "One Man's Pilgrimage", there is such a passage: the land between the ridges is undulating, divided into squares, surrounded by high and low hedges. He couldn't help but stop and look at it from afar, feeling ashamed; There are so many variations of deep shades of green, some as deep as black velvet, and some as light as almost yellow. The sunlight must have caught a passing car or a window in the distance, because a bright spot came into view through the cascading hills in the distance, like a flickering starlight. Why didn't you notice any of this before?

Why didn't you notice any of this before? I believe that many people will feel this way when they look back on the road they have traveled in their lives in their old age. After a 627-mile, 87-day hike, Harold Sr. realized how he felt about life, and how life would give back to him. The beauty of life has always been there, but most of the time we choose to be stuck in a mediocre and busy life, never slowing down, stopping, and taking a look with our hearts.

The famous Brazilian writer Paulo Coelho once wrote in his book: We must unearth the secrets that we are blind to in the things that we are used to in our daily life. If you observe the world with good eyes and enjoy life calmly, you will always be able to see the faces of angels.

Before Fu Bo's company collapsed, one of the few employees in his company was a girl, also a programmer, who had lived in Shenzhen for nearly ten years and was in her 30s, when she suddenly walked up to him and put down a letter of resignation, so she resigned from her job with a monthly salary of 6,000 yuan.

Because Fu Bo is a very casual person, he never has any shelves, although he is a boss, he gets along more like friends with his employees

Friend.

He asked her worriedly, "How are you going to live?"

She smiled and joked with him: "Go to the street and shine people's shoes."

At the beginning, she stood out from four or five job seekers for this job, and put in a lot of hard work!

In order to create performance, in this small company, she goes out early and returns late every day. Of course, her hard work has also paid off - a salary increase, 800 yuan, although it is not much, but it is not bad for Fu Bo's company. In everyone's opinion, this older literary and artistic young woman is living a good life now, but she won't do it if she doesn't do it.

Of course, she didn't really shine her shoes, she chose another job that she was completely unfamiliar with, went to a dim sum shop, as a student, the salary was not as high as her salary as a programmer, but she enjoyed it, she didn't have to pile up all night, didn't have to face the computer screen all day, and there was no pressure at all.

In her spare time, she studies food, and instead of going to the supermarket to buy vegetables and meat, she goes to the vegetable market, because she says that life in the vegetable market is full of fireworks. She began to learn to cut her hair in front of the mirror, bleached her hair, and even designed her own beautiful hairstyle. If you want to read a book, go to the library; If you want to watch a movie, you can rent a DVD and return it when you finish watching it, and never hoard unnecessary items; Ren Xin even learned to dry jasmine by himself, and then buy herbs to mix different herbal teas; He also made brocade cushions to decorate his room. Every time friends get together, she will make some beautiful and delicious cookies to entertain her friends.

A few months later, when she returned to Fu Bo's company to visit her old colleagues, her temperament changed, and she seemed very peaceful and calm. "In the past, I wanted too much, so I always felt tired," she lamented. Now I try to simplify my life as much as possible, but I have a lot of fun every day. ”

During the Mid-Autumn Festival last year, she sent a photo of the Mid-Autumn Festival pastries she made to her colleagues in the company, with a sentence: "Eating her own dim sum with her family, admiring the moon, and her heart is full of happiness."

A colleague asked her in surprise: "Aren't you traveling abroad every New Year's holiday to let your soul fly?"

She smiled: "I used to love to run out, I felt that life elsewhere was the most beautiful, the scenery elsewhere was the best, I preferred strangers, and I was somewhat rebellious in my bones." However, after calming down, I found that there was the most cherished beauty hidden in my daily life with my family. Even in your own backyard, you can see the most beautiful scenery, which is the best life home. ”

Life, in fact, is the same everywhere; What is different is how she chooses to live.

She couldn't predict whether it would be good or bad when she made a decision, but no matter what, she was content and happy.

For such a person, happiness is a state of mind, and it has nothing to do with how much wealth he has, what kind of house he lives in, or what kind of car he drives.

Everyone should take the initiative to choose their preferred lifestyle, rather than being passively chosen by life. Because smart people know that life is not to live for others, but for oneself.

If you want to be happy, you should strive to live your life the way you want

。 Maybe on the surface, we don't get much, but our hearts are always full. When the heart is full, the soul will be happy, which cannot be exchanged for material things and money.

Life, in fact, is the same everywhere, what is different is your choice, the key is how you look at life. If you choose to live in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, as long as you have a dream and don't follow the crowd, you can live your own life; If you choose to live in seclusion in the mountains, as long as you maintain self-discipline and a calm mood, and maintain a passion for nature, you can also live a poetic life.

Fu Bo chose the job he liked, in fact, he didn't know how much wealth he could bring him as a programmer, he didn't know at all, but he enjoyed it.

What about Han Yi? Is this the life he wants now? So why is he so tired, sad, and without a smile?

Perhaps, Han Yi should really put down all the work at hand and go to travel, photography, guitar playing, and writing······ That way, he should have a happier life and have enough time with the person he loves, right?

(End of chapter)