Chapter 445: Either Desperate or Accept Your Fate
Waiting for Fu Bo and Feng Zhiyao to turn on the indicator light in front of the workbench seemed to be an ordeal! Han Yi thought a lot, he was more nervous than Fu Bo and them, and he wanted to succeed.
Loved ones, lovers, friends, life, ideals, future, and so on come to mind.
Along the way, he has worked hard enough, worked hard enough, and has never lacked all kinds of love from relatives, lovers and friends around him.
A long time ago, he hoped that one day, he would be able to complete his own trip without worrying too much about the cost.
I hope that when he chooses a partner, he will not have to consider the other party's financial ability because he is afraid that his married life will be too hard.
He hoped that he could say to his father, "I won't allow you to be so tired," or he could confidently say to his mother, "You don't need to be so provincial."
I didn't know what "the economic base determines the superstructure", and I also felt that it was too cheesy to talk about money all the time, until I tasted poverty and experienced countless days and nights of living with my wallet tight, I realized that although poverty is not enough to destroy us, it may trap our footsteps, so that we have to choose compromise and concession at some moment.
He used to work a lot of part-time jobs, and different jobs gave him different tastes. When you go to the waiter, you can say a few more words of thanks to the waiter, and when you go to the factory, you will understand that you should not respond to any worker's smile casually and indifferently.
Many times, it is difficult to really empathize with the hardships of others. Only when we stand in that position and experience that situation firsthand, will we know that everyone has unspeakable sorrow.
In this world, there are countless people who clench their fists and grit their teeth in order to live a better life.
The buses and subways are crowded and noisy, cheap sweaters are really not as warm as the more expensive ones, and the food that is eaten in a hurry because of the rush is really bad for the stomach, but no matter how cold it is in the cold wind, we have to run hard.
In fact, none of us have a difficult life, but fortunately, although life is tight, we still try our best to make ourselves happy, although the days are embarrassing, we still have the courage to persevere.
Milan Kundera once said, "Life is an eternal and heavy endeavor."
Maybe you are still trying to climb up at the bottom of this society, even if you hit your head and bleed, you never stop, because you know that people who are poorer and worse than you have not lost hope.
Maybe you have a high income, and you have set a higher goal for yourself, because you know that people who are better than you are still working hard. Those days when you look at the clothes in the window but are shy in your pockets, those days when you ask others for help with a shy face, those days when you clench your wallet and wronged yourself, will all pass one day.
And he hopes that after he has worked hard, he can be able to treat himself well who wants to wear beautiful clothes and eat a big meal; He can have the ability to save his future children from the constraints he has experienced; He can make genuine like-minded friends without having to confuse connections and friendships; He can stand proudly in front of his beloved, not deliberately close because he is rich, and not turn away against his will because he is poor.
He once personally experienced the days when he had to be careful to even eat a meal and visit the supermarket, that was when he graduated from high school and went to work in a shoe factory, at that time, it was so hot at night that he couldn't sleep, and there were many mosquitoes, and he wanted to drink a bottle of ice water but was reluctant to buy it, because he only had 20 yuan a day, and a bottle of water cost a dollar. It was the same when I first arrived in Chongqing, for fear of an extra expense, even a snowy shopping mall
I don't dare to think about dating, and I have to borrow two hundred yuan from Keiko when I go out once.
The lack of economic capacity is like a huge net that binds people to the point where they can't breathe.
We all say that money is not very important, just be happy. But that doesn't mean we don't have to work hard to live better. Life is a process of constantly renewing oneself, both spiritual and material. And we all have to learn to use our own hands to create an ideal life.
A poor person who does not seek to improve is like a frog sitting at the bottom of a well, and may never know how vast the sky outside really is. There are still many surprises waiting for us to explore in this world, many wonderful things waiting for us to explore, and countless people are moving forward and moving upward.
And he, he wants to live better. He loves money, but as long as his mentality is upright and his methods are above board, then his love for money is not a utilitarian heart that should be spurned.
"Poverty is not something to be ashamed of. I'm poor, but I'm really not afraid of being poor. I know it's going to be hard, I'm going to suffer a lot, I'm going to have a lot of bumps, I'm going to fall a lot, but I think I'm going to go on no matter what. I believe that one day, I will rely on my own ability to obtain all the good things I want in the world. ”
He had said this to himself countless times.
There are all kinds of people in this world, and you already know that you can't please anyone, and you can't like everyone around you, but so what?
Those who accompany you when you are sad, those who help you when you fall, those who share your joy, those who live with you and eat at one table every day
Their presence is what really constitutes a more important part of your life.
Some-for-tat calculations are actually pointless, because that will only make you more and more narrow-minded and unhappy. For those you don't like, you don't need to complain or hate too much, you just need to stay away silently, because you should focus more on the people you love and the things you like to do than on them.
Slowly, before he hates and hates a person, ask yourself, is this person really that hateful? Do you have to remember this unhappy thing?
He knows that life is not martial arts, not so many people pay attention to his grievances and grievances, and when he is still thinking about an unpleasant thing, maybe others have already put aside the past and entered a new life.
He remembered that the friend who had just recovered from a serious illness told him that life was full of uncertainties and that he should be kind to himself; He also remembered that he came home not long ago and found that the old and strong grandfather next door was no longer there, and his mother told him with emotion that in this life, in just a few decades, it is better to live happily than anything else.
It may take something to realize that putting the cart before the horse is really a very cost-effective approach. I always say that there are too many unsatisfactory things around me, but I ignore a very important point: you could have lived a very happy life.
On our way forward, there will always be some unpleasantness, which is inevitable, but how to digest and deal with it is up to you to decide.
There are no people in this world who have never been hurt, but there are people who are haunted by it, and some people know how to make trade-offs.
In the final analysis, it is just a difference in choice, but this difference makes our mood good and bad, and also makes our quality of life high and low.
When your mindset is different, many things will be different. In fact, sometimes you can forget something
Unpleasant things, in fact, you can also forgive those occasional unpleasant. If that makes your life easier, then why not?
Don't turn it over and chew on those things that have passed. The way it exists is to make you a better version of yourself after going through the grind. You should be stimulated by the reverse environment to grow, not add a little more anger.
Rather than learning how to fight back from damage, I hope you know how to effectively prevent and avoid damage before it happens, and also let it pass as soon as possible after it is done, so as not to delay your current life.
There is a saying in "Braveheart": "All people die, but not everyone lives a meaningful life."
In fact, you and I will have times when we are very tired and speechless, in fact, we all feel that it will be much better to complain and complain/emotionally, but try not to bring this bad mood to the people around you repeatedly, because few people are willing to listen to you all the time to say unhappy things, and quickly self-digestion and problem solving is the most important thing you should learn.
In a rare gathering with friends, he hopes to share something more meaningful, rather than just blindly confiding and complaining; In the little time he gets along with his family, he hopes to talk about happy things instead of repeatedly complaining in front of them; In the short decades of his life, he also hopes to focus more on the people who love him and the people he loves, and hopes to use more brain capacity to remember those better moments in life.
Are you also in such a situation now, you want to have better abilities, a better life, a better future, but you always have no self-control, you are sleepy after reading two pages of the book, you always put off the good plan and think about it tomorrow and then implement it well, and if there is anything bad, you always say that you will pay attention to it next time.
You say, you are not willing to be a waste, but you have no ability to get ahead; You say, you're really lost, but you don't know what to do.
In fact, there are countless ways of life in this world.
Some people work overtime until the early hours of the morning every day, and they have to seize the time to make an accumulation vocabulary on the way to the subway;
Some people stay in a small city and earn two or three thousand yuan a month, and they feel that their life is also very fulfilling;
There is no right or wrong way to live either lifestyle, it's just that everyone's pursuits are different.
Those who look clear and move forward without stopping will not be lost;
Those who are at ease and don't care about other people's doubts and ridicule will not be confused.
People who are confused are those who don't want to accept their fate and don't want to work hard.
Maybe they are in an ordinary company, doing an ordinary job, doing so-so work, and coping with things.
They laugh at those who rush forward with all their might, and think they are all fools;
They also look down on those who covet comfort, and feel that they have no dreams;
They kept changing their goals and thought of many ways to make money, but in the end, they gave up one by one with many reasons and excuses.
Han Yi has known for a long time what the most terrible thing in this world is!
That is, you have obviously chosen a life that does not require hard work, but every day you accuse the world of being unfair to you, complaining that you have not joined a rich second-generation family, feeling that other people's success is just because of a moment of luck, and fantasizing that you can become a master one day.
Everyone gets lost because you've never really looked into your own heart, and you've never thought about what kind of life you want to live. 2k reading web