The sun was shining, and I didn't know where to go or what to do after dinner. Thinking that it was close to home, Liu Xiyao would have to go to a brand store in a shopping mall to work part-time later, so Bai Xue took her to her home to sit down.

"Why don't you answer the phone?" Liu Xiyao took a sip of watermelon juice and asked curiously, "I see that you haven't answered several phone calls, did you quarrel with your boyfriend?" ”

Bai Xue is a person who hides everything in his heart and never tells others. Somehow, I can be so open to a person who has only known each other for a few days and has only met three times. She said aggrievedly: "His ex-girlfriend stayed at his house the night before yesterday, in fact, he said something to me, and it didn't feel like it was okay, but he lied to me, and he never panicked about me······"

Bai Xue suddenly felt very annoyed, lying on the table, and gently pounding the table, "Now I feel that he has a lot of things to hide from me!" ”

"Do you two live here?" Liu Xiyao glanced at the huge and beautifully decorated living room, not to mention how envious she was.

Bai Xue is very conservative and introverted, even with such a simple sentence, she became shy, "What do you think!" We don't live together, it's nice to see each other twice a month, and he doesn't know where he is yet! ”

"What do you mean? Didn't you just say that you've known each other for eight years and talked for four years? Could it be that it has always been a different place? Liu Xiyao knew that her boyfriend was Han Yi, and she overheard it from the conversation between Li Jia and Liu Xiyao, but she didn't know what kind of person Han Yi was, and she didn't know the love story between him and Bai Xue.

"Almost! There are so many things in it, I don't know where to start, how to say it, in short, it's annoying! I can count the number of times I stayed together after returning to China, because his company is getting bigger and busier, and I can understand it at first, but after he proposed to me, I somehow suffered from gains and losses, and even felt that this kind of day was no different from being single······"

Bai Xue said a lot in one breath, and she was quite logical, and she suddenly felt that she was speechless and brainless.

"Do you think he loves you? Do you love him? Liu Xiyao was like a person who had come over, picked up Bai Xue seriously, and sat cross-legged on the ground face to face, "Tell me, I'll help you answer your questions!" ”

"You little brat, what do you know!" Bai Xue said disdainfully.

"Cut! I don't understand? Liu Xiyao said: "Don't underestimate me!" I'm a few years younger than you, but I'm not a little kid, you just talked about such a boyfriend, and I've talked about five, what a warm man, a scumbag, a little wolf dog I've met, I know that there must be a lot more than you! I definitely know more about a man's mind than you! ”

Bai Xue looked at Liu Xiyao in surprise, "Really? She didn't expect that a girl in her early twenties would have talked about five boyfriends, but she was twenty-six, and Han Yi was still Han Yi in love.

"Don't judge people by their appearance!" Liu Xiyao smiled, "It may be that the boyfriends I talked to are too young, and I don't have anything to do, and many times it's really just hot-headed."

, hormones are at work, and they never think about what the future holds, so the passion comes and goes quickly, and in the end it doesn't come together. Obviously, you are not the same, otherwise you would not have loved him for eight years. Let me tell you what I think, don't hit me! I think, you're too arrogant, too cold, is he the same as you? ”

Bai Xue pretended to reach out and pat Liu Xiyao, she shrunk back and put her hands above her head, "Don't be angry when you say it!" ”

"He's good! He is very single-minded in his relationship, but I am sometimes very afraid of his single-mindedness, because he used to love his ex-girlfriend very much, but by accident they couldn't get together, and I got together with him after they broke up······"

Bai Xue told how she started to get together with Han Yi, why she studied abroad, and everything after she came back. It was the first time she had confided in someone else, and she started crying as she spoke.

"What are you doing!" Liu Xiyao took a tissue and wiped it for her, "That's good!" It's good that such a good man holds on tightly. Oh no, you don't need to catch it at all. You see, he can wait for you for three years, which is something that no one who loves you can do. And like you said, he has a successful career now, and there are beautiful women around him, but he hasn't changed his mind about you, he has already proposed to you, what are you still struggling with? ”

"Do you know why I'm looking for Hao Yali?" Bai Xue stopped halfway through speaking, "Forget it, don't say it!" ”

At this moment, Liu Xiyao knew exactly what was going on. Knowing who this Han Yi is, what kind of person he is, the relationship between him and Hao Yali, and how did the child in his belly come about······ But knowing more things is not a good thing.

Liu Xiyao covered it with a smile, smiling evilly, "I think it's not that there is a lack of hormones between you, it's not that it's bad to be bland, it's just that you all have to make some changes appropriately." I guess you don't have very many of that, right? ”

"Which one?" Bai Xue asked stupidly.

"That's it······ Fish and water or something······"

As soon as the words fell, Bai Xue seemed to understand something, relieved herself, picked up a pillow and threw it at Liu Xiyao, "At a young age, don't learn well!" ”

Liu Xiyao said seriously: "Why can't you learn this well!" Sexual happiness and happiness are inseparable, you just lack that little passion! ”

But it seems that Liu Xiyao said it, Bai Xue actually thought about it.

"I'll tell you a few more points, it's not a charge anyway, you listen to it! What about you, don't hide everything by yourself, it's wrong for you not to answer his phone, if you're unhappy, you have to tell him! Also, send more loving text messages. Finally, and crucially, keep your body in close contact. You're a good boyfriend and girlfriend, and you've agreed to his proposal, it's not something unspeakable or unseemly······"

Liu Xiyao's words are indeed quite reasonable, confiding, for lovers, maintaining regular and in-depth communication is the key to determining the length of this love

key.

Many people treat their relatives and friends often as they report good news but not bad news, because they don't want them to worry, and second, they may lose face. However, with your lover, you may wish to tell the other person about your unhappiness, he may not be of much help, but he will feel that you do not treat him as an outsider, which will help build an intimate relationship. Not only that, but speaking out about your inner unhappiness is also a process of self-decompression and release, and if the brain exceeds the tolerance of the outside world, the body will also be inexplicably damaged.

Whether it's a teacher who criticizes him for not being motivated, a boss who doesn't raise his salary, or a colleague who has an awkward quarrel, or a friend who says bad things behind his back, you might as well tell him sincerely and directly. If he gives you some unpleasant advice or criticism after listening to your complaints, you should not feel offended, after all, he is also putting himself in your shoes. Saying your unhappiness will make your relationship closer, but if you have some negative energy every day, it will definitely make the other half unbearable, and complaining should not be too frequent, no one wants to fall in love with Xianglin's sister-in-law.

In the fast-paced modern society, work and socializing have become the norm, and it may be difficult for you to find time to go shopping and watch movies with your lover, and sometimes you can't even speak three sentences a day, let alone really enjoy the quality of your time together.

This fast-paced lifestyle is eating away at your love little by little, and you will feel that you no longer have anything to do with him, and you seem to have become the most familiar strangers. However, you don't have to worry too much, modern technology has opened up more possibilities for you. Take a minute or two out of lunch at the company, wander away during class or meeting, and send him an affectionate text message or WeChat, such as "I miss you", "How are you doing today, do you miss me" and so on.

Alternatively, you can send him an e-card and choose a template of your choice with the music he loves to listen to. In addition, you can also buy a small gift online and send it directly to his company or go, even if it is a bouquet of flowers, it can have an unexpected effect. It doesn't really matter what you say or what you buy, the key is to let him know that no matter how busy you are, he always has a place in your packed schedule

To maintain a relationship, it is not enough to say "I love you", it is also essential to ensure physical contact between the two. "Intimacy" doesn't necessarily mean sex, but holding hands, touching, hugging or kissing. Before going out every day, remember to give him a kiss goodbye; On the road where traffic shuttles, hold his hand tightly; When you hear a familiar song, you might as well hold him and dance with flying steps; After a busy day, give him a massage on his stiff shoulders...... The pace of modern life is getting faster and faster, and the intimacy brought by frequent physical contact is a powerful supplement to love and the glue of a stable relationship.

Bai Xue and Han Yi are undoubtedly in love with each other, but they don't seem to be good enough, and they each have their own shortcomings. The reason why Bai Xue is so entangled like now is because she regards love as her everything.

In a relationship, both lovers want to be 100% committed and strive for all opportunities to stick together, but this

Sooner or later, you'll get bored. There is another kind of people, they give up everything for love, they are plain-faced, they value sex and ignore friends, give up hobbies, have no intention of working, and even change their diet, clothing, and hairstyle in order to blindly cater to each other...... Both men and women are becoming less confident and socially afraid. If this continues, the other party not only does not appreciate it, but empathizes with it.

The whole of life cannot be without love, but love is not the whole of life, no matter how close two people are, you are still two separate individuals; Secondly, learn to love yourself in order to love others, care about your own happiness, your needs can be satisfied, in order to balance the balance of love and be loved. In love, don't forget to leave a little time for yourself once in a while, flip through your favorite book before going to bed, play a game of billiards with your friends, ask your girlfriends to go shopping in the mall, and occasionally buy a small gift to treat yourself...... Don't forget your own growth in love, and people who know how to love themselves will become more attractive.

Liu Xiyao seemed to have become best friends with Bai Xue, and she didn't regard herself as an outsider, she took a bottle of drink from Bai Xue from the refrigerator and said to her: "There is such a passage that people always forget to cherish these three kinds of people, one is easy to get, the other is to leave forever, and the third is the one who has been silently paying by your side." Any idea what that means? Love is to be managed, when there is a problem, you should not let it develop freely, but to find a way to solve it, you must know how to cherish each other. ”

In the relationship, there is always no shortage of people who forget to cherish and regret it, I thought that some people would not leave when they came to their own world, and thought that the happiness in front of them would not disappear, so it was easy to ignore the other party's contribution to you, and only woke up after the loss, it turned out that they had missed what a beautiful fate.

Every relationship has a deadline, and it is difficult to warm up when the heart is cold. Someone has paid for you, please don't turn a blind eye to it, and cherish the person who takes you very seriously.

Zhang Haochen once said: "People who are really good to you, you will not meet a few people in your life, someone lights up the world for you, and someone lifts the dust in your heart." But between people, a little more distance, it is easy to become the absurdity of losing contact, the more independent we are in our hearts, the fewer important people, you are not sure when you will lose them, the only thing you can do is to be better for those who are still with you. ”

The person who values you is one of the few lucky people in this world, and it is a treasure in your life.

He will take care of and accompany you as the most important person in his life, and know how to give you the purest love, which can make you feel down-to-earth and at ease.

He can not only see your shining point, but also understand that no one is perfect. Others only force you to be perfect in everything, but he understands that you also have your own weaknesses, others always think you ask too much, but he always feels that you are not enough.

"At a young age, I know a lot!" After Bai Xue said it and cried, her mood was much better.

After listening to Bai Xue tell her love story with Han Yi, Liu Xiyao was envious and said with a smile: "No matter what, he won't lose you easily, he always takes it silently."

You take it to heart. You also said that he can always be there for you when you need it most, be good to you wholeheartedly, and be willing to give all his heart to you. How happy this is! People live a lifetime, no one knows whether there will be an afterlife, it is not easy to be together in this life, and it is a rare luck to be able to stay together. Sister Xue'er, call him back, or he might worry about you. ”

"Okay, got it, I'll call him back later."

The third time they met, Bai Xue was really impressed by this Liu Xiyao. I thought she was just a girl who loved to do more things, but after a few contacts, I saw a beautiful and sensible girl who was completely out of age.

Some people say that whether a relationship is good or not is to see if two people can talk, if they can talk, it means that the relationship between each other is still very close, and there are still a lot of intersections, if you say a few words, you are tired, and it is embarrassing to find a topic, which means that the person in front of you cannot make you feel relaxed and free.

As a friend who has known each other for a short time, Bai Xue and Hao Yali can talk very well. She is very grateful, not everyone is willing to spend energy and listen to you complain about some trivial matters, even if someone listens to you complain, maybe you are not in the mood to tell him, it is really not easy to have someone to talk to, especially those who have endured the warmth and coldness of human affection.

I don't know if Liu Xiyao's words have the effect of answering questions, but no matter what, Bai Xue is in a much better mood.

Liu Xiyao can be her emotional mentor, "Tell you, it's useless to be angry secretly, it's better than you to quarrel!" Anger is a one-person's business, and one person's accomplishment is fine. And quarrels are a matter of two people, and two people need to participate together. So, you get angry like this and it only makes you feel like he's going to get farther and farther away from you. In fact, if you don't quarrel, dissatisfaction will secretly ferment, and one day the relationship will be directly broken. Quarrels, on the contrary, give you a chance to resolve your differences and grievances. So, instead of breaking the relationship, arguing will save it. When you live with a person, you can't hide your illness from the doctor, cover your ears and steal the bell, and pretend that it doesn't have it by not knowing his dissatisfaction, right? At the same time, you can also express your dissatisfaction. Regardless of whether it can be solved or not, at least say it, and your mood will be relatively comfortable. You live with a person, there are a lot of dissatisfactions, you can't hold it all the time, let him be happy with a person who has nothing to do, right? In short, a quarrel is the beginning of your resolution of each other's dissatisfaction, and then see how you can solve it together. When you voice your grievances, that's the first step. There is only dissatisfaction, and if there is no treatment, it is a secondary injury. Therefore, resolving dissatisfaction is the ultimate solution to quarrels. People who are afraid of quarreling don't dare to take a step, they just want the other party to hold back and not say and don't do it, or they can't help but say or do it. After all, it's much easier and easier to avoid quarrels than to resolve grievances······"

Liu Xiyao really spoke in a way, and her head was the way, which made Bai Xue have to reflect. Thinking that they have been together for so long, they have not really quarreled over the relationship between the two, because Bai Xue has always been running away, and Han Yi is just blindly pleasing her,

scolded her, and as soon as she was unhappy, she immediately took the initiative to admit her mistake. A quarrel is an expression of dissatisfaction and demands. When a person expresses dissatisfaction, it is difficult to notice whether the posture is unsightly. Everyone is hungry, and you still ask people to pay attention to whether they eat dignifiedly? It's a bit harsh. Then you will gather all the dissatisfaction of the other party with you. This process is to scrape the bones to heal the wound, although it is very painful, but it is very construction.

"Thank you! After talking to you, my heart is much more comfortable. ”

Bai Xue never thought that there were so many problems between her and Han Yi. Shu Tan is comfortable, but Han Yi's problem of lying to him is still a stab. She is open to Zhong Ying'er and can be friends with her, but she is still afraid, because of Han Yi's single-mindedness and nostalgia, they used to love each other so much, how can it be that they don't mind at all!

(End of chapter)