"Never rely too much on someone, because you don't know when he will leave suddenly, and the day he leaves will take you with him, and you will find that you are only a shell. You can't imagine how panicked you can be, how comfortable you can be when you're dependent, and how painful you can be when you're lost. ”

This is the insight that Zhong Yinger got after watching a movie after planning her next new life after resigning recently.

In the movie, a girl with a great talent for painting gave up her dream of becoming a professional painter because of love, 28 years old, she does not work, and completely depends on her boyfriend to live, but her boyfriend who has been together for 10 years has not mentioned marriage, in fact, her boyfriend does not spoil women who rely on her, but admires self-reliant women.

These ten years must be a common frustration and fatigue for two people, the heroine has lost a lot of independent ability, and she is hesitant in the face of gradually distant feelings, but she doesn't know what the problem is, let alone how to recover it.

At the end of the story, relying on his talent at the age of 17, he reached the pinnacle of his life at the age of 28, not only began to pick up the brush again, but also held an art exhibition and became famous overnight. So the male protagonist pursued the female protagonist again and applauded her success.

After reading it, she felt that maybe everyone has a helpless and struggling side, and everyone is also self-correcting.

However, girls, at any time, must not forget to improve and enrich themselves because they are caught in love. You must know that a girl who has truly lived out her vitality not only has the hope of giving love, but also the ability to give love, she should be full of the charm of an independent personality, and she and her lover will fulfill each other and grow each other.

She used to be very independent, but she has lost herself in the past few years.

She has seen Zhang Aijia as a guest in Lu Yu's appointment, and there is a sentence that makes her feel very much, two people should never be so sticky together, don't be so dependent, because in this world sooner or later you will be alone, the more dependent on one person, the more unacceptable and unable to live when that person leaves, including psychology and life ability.

So, for yourself and for the people you love, you need to make yourself independent.

Zhong Ying'er's ignorance of Du Shaofeng's matter made Han Yi realize that he was a little salty and ate radishes, but in fact, the current Zhong Ying'er didn't need him to do anything for her at all, she could live well.

Everyone has their own life trajectory, just like Zhong Yinger doesn't need Han Yi to introduce her to a good job, just like Qiu Lang never regards money-related things as a big deal, just like Fu Bo and Feng Zhiyao are tired of doing programs, just like Han Yi worries about all kinds of things all day long······

Once upon a time there was a king who had a strange dream one night that the mountains of his kingdom had fallen, the rivers had dried up, and the flowers had withered.

The king was a little frightened and felt that it was not a good dream, so he asked the queen beside him to help him interpret the dream.

When the queen heard what the king had to say, she cried out, "Your Majesty, the general situation is not good! This mountain has fallen, which means that the country is going to fall; When the water dries up, it means that the people should be centrifuged, the king is the boat, and the people are

The water, when the water is dry, the boat cannot move; The flowers are thankful, which means that the good times will not last long. ”

The king was shocked by the queen's words and broke out in a cold sweat, and soon became seriously ill, bedridden, and did not get better after seeing many doctors and taking many medicines.

When a minister came to visit the king, the king told his heart on his sickbed, and when the minister heard this, he laughed and said, "Your Majesty, this dream is so good!"

The king was puzzled and asked, "The country is gone, where does it come from?"

The minister explained: "When the mountain falls, there will be no obstacles on the road, doesn't this mean that the world will be peaceful from now on, the river will dry up, and the true dragon under the water will appear, king, you are the true dragon emperor, this does not mean that you are going to make great plans; The flowers are grateful, and the flowers will bear fruit after they are gone, indicating that our country is going to have a bumper harvest this year! ”

When the king listened to the minister's explanation, he immediately felt relieved, and his illness was soon cured.

The same dream, after being interpreted by different people, has two completely different effects.

When the king heard the queen's interpretation, his heart was full of negative energy, and he fell ill, and when the king heard the minister's interpretation, his heart was full of positive energy, and the illness was naturally cured.

In fact, the truth of this story is very simple: your state of mind determines your state.

The reason is very simple, but in fact, many people do not adjust their mentality, and eventually become a slave to their emotions, complaining about their unsatisfactory life and work all day long, so that negative energy bursts, and they are always in a bad mood.

When Han Yi was worried about Zhong Ying'er being harassed by Du Shaofeng, he ignored one point, that is, Zhong Ying'er could solve it by herself. He should change his mindset from anger, because Zhong Ying'er's attitude deserves his joy for her.

Just like people from all walks of life, whether it is a high-paying, high-space development, or a high-status, idle job, everyone is dissatisfied with their work.

It seems that everyone is thinking about selling white fen and earning money from selling cabbage.

It's rare to hear someone say, "I like my current state and I'm happy doing my job." But when I heard it, it was my child who would do what he was going to do, and I wouldn't let him do what I did.

Is it really a bad job that makes them so unhappy?

Napoleon once said, "There are only small differences between men, but this small difference can make a great difference."

The small difference is whether you have a positive mindset or a negative mindset, and the big difference is success and failure.

Negative people see "danger", positive people see "opportunity".

Positive people always see hope and let the mind have a broader clear sky. Negative people always see a crisis, making people feel that life is full of shadows.

There is a very warm little story.

A little boy lies on the windowsill looking at the scenery in the distance, and when he sees the adults in the distance burying his beloved puppy in the field, he can't stop crying and grieving.

His grandfather saw it, and hurriedly led him to another windowsill, opened the window for him, and he saw a whole beautiful big garden, that

The sun was shining, the grass was green, the butterflies were flying, and the child's mood suddenly became optimistic and cheerful.

The grandfather touched the child's head and said to him kindly, "Son, you opened the wrong window."

There are always two windows in our lives, one window is sunny and birds are singing, and the other window is cloudy and stormy.

Actually, this is normal, Einstein told us early on: everything is relative.

There will be heavy rain on a sunny day, there will be dark clouds when there are birds singing and flowers, there will be joy when there is sadness, and there will be laughter and laughter when there is a reunion.

As long as there is sunlight in this world, there will be shadows.

The really smart people are not ignorant of the existence of shadows, but after knowing the existence of shadows, they wisely choose to open the window with sunlight.

As a teacher, why do you have to open the window of endless classes and homework that you can't play, instead of opening the window of many holidays and a high sense of achievement?

When you enter a public institution, why do you have to open the window where there are many struggles in the office and you can't see the room for growth, instead of opening the window with a stable job and high social status?

When you become a doctor, why do you have to open the window of sharp contradictions between doctors and patients, instead of opening the window that hangs the pot to help the world, and the medical skills are well loved?

When it comes to sales, why do you have to open the window where customers are difficult and the boss is ruthless, instead of opening the window where you can get a soft hand as long as the performance is good?

After entering the IT industry, why do you have to open the window with irregular working hours and few opportunities, instead of opening the window with good opportunities and prospects?

Everyone has the illusion that the things that can't be reached are the best, and the things that can't be reached are the most wanted.

Influenced by such an illusion, he is always looking up and searching.

Look up to things that seem close to them, but are not actually at their fingertips. Look for things that are out of reach, such as flowers in the mirror and moons in the water.

Looking up at things that are out of reach is actually an ordeal.

"If what you want is the fruit hanging high on the treetops, even if you stand on tiptoe, even if you bring a ladder, even if you find a long bamboo pole, and still can't reach the fruit hanging on the treetops, what will you do?"

Do you choose to give up or choose to continue?

People who live in the red dust will encounter the fruit hanging high in the treetops, and the wise man will circle the tree three times, pick it when he can reach it, think of a way if he can't reach it, and choose to leave if he can't reach it.

Those greedy fools will make three circles left and right three times under the tree, reach and reach, walk and be reluctant to go, be tortured to exhaustion, and finally collapse under the tree and be heartbroken.

Life is like a long-distance journey, in this trip, we will encounter a lot of people, we will encounter beautiful scenery, we will encounter a lot of things we want or don't want, such as

Such as flowers, wine, and applause, such as depression, depression, and despair.

Greedy people always want to keep everything for themselves, and never think about whether they can take too many things. Open-minded people always choose what they need most, and simple happiness is the good taste.

Some people may say that this person does not seek progress, does not want to forge ahead, Ah Q entertains himself, and is hopeless.

In fact, instead of touching those unattainable happiness and being tortured to death and schizophrenia, it is better to keep and cherish the happiness in your hands, touch those who can see and get real happiness, look up and see the blue sky, look down and smell the flowers, relatives are well, friends are happy, and good health are not all happiness that can be reached?

Are there fewer people who walk in the red dust, are lost by desire, and are defeated by material things and become slaves of life? Make room for the soul, let those happiness that can be reached reach arrive safely, and what you hold in your own hands is the real happiness.

The happiness you can reach is your own!

Qiu Lang seems to have been trying to change Han Yi by example, because he was worried that Han Yi would take everything on himself and have no life of his own. He wanted Han Yi to change his life, a simple and relaxed life, because he had a lot of choices now, and he was too stubborn.

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