In fact, every person with a smile on his face has a wound in his heart that is difficult to confide in; People who can talk to everyone on the surface may not be lonely deep down.

Grow in stumbles and be strong in bumps. After a long time, being strong has become a mask that grows on the face, and even if you encounter big ups and downs, you are used to smiling and saying that it's okay.

Many times, there is no choice but to be strong.

It's not that Han Yi hasn't thought about letting go of all the baggage, just like at this moment, he doesn't care about anything and is the truest version of himself.

When you are happy, you laugh out loud, and when you are sad, you cry uncontrollably. But many times, there is no choice but to be strong, but to bury all the emotions deep in the heart and digest them slowly alone.

Life is not a drama, when he is desperate, no one will come to help, everything has to be carried by himself. Gradually, he became an emotionally stable adult, and he didn't easily reveal his true thoughts, let alone rely on anyone. In the eyes of outsiders, he seems to be doing well; However, there is some pain, only I know.

If you figure something out, it's good, he's who he is, unique.

He laughed, and everyone laughed with him; He cried, but no one wanted to know why he was crying, except for family and friends. Don't blame others, don't pity yourself, he has to live his own wonderful life, and it has nothing to do with anyone.

Even if you're really tired, you can't just throw in the towel. You can only wipe your own tears, you can only walk your own way, there is no turning back in this world, you can only continue to move forward bravely.

He knew that many, many people were the same. This is true for both men and women, as long as they are beginning to become independent.

is like Zhong Ying'er, who runs around outside during the day, works hard to make ends meet, and when she comes home at night, she has to deal with a lot of trivial things at home. Although she seems to be casual every day, in fact, she really feels tired.

wanted to take a good rest, but this fast-paced society couldn't allow her to stop, and she didn't even have a respite. No matter how many difficulties there are in her heart, she still has to have a smile on her face, because no one will get used to her little temper.

"I'm tired, but I have no way back," she would say helplessly. It seems to be cheering himself up, but there is a deep sense of exhaustion and sadness between the lines.

This society is so realistic, if you don't work hard, no one will feel sorry for you. If you slack off at all, you will fall to the bottom, and then no one will reach out to pull you, but you will think you are useless. If you are not strong, who will you show cowardice?

No matter how hard and tired you are, you have to grit your teeth and resist, others are not you, so naturally they won't care about your feelings. There are some hardships, only you can understand, don't expect others to understand you and comfort you, everyone is very busy.

Because I don't like to shout tired, more and more people understand, and because I am not used to complaining, no one is hurting. It's a mistake to be strong for too long, and even to occasionally show vulnerability. But if someone protects you, who is willing to charge desperately

No one is really so invincible, but after going through too much right and wrong, he was forced to make his soft heart invulnerable

In this way, I have the power to fight against the whole world, but in fact, too often I just wronged myself.

And then over time, I forgot my original self and just wanted a simple happiness. When you are tired, there is a harbor to live in; Sick and with a shoulder to lean on. But I don't know when these hopes began to turn into luxury.

Even if there is a lot of pain in my heart, I still force myself to look sunny. If you can, I hope you can meet someone who understands you, can see through the sadness behind your smile, and understand your pretense of being strong.

Who doesn't want someone to treat themselves as before, hurt themselves to the bone, and never be disappointed

When I looked at Tiantian Upward before, there was an anxiety disorder test in one period, and Da Zhang Wei showed that he had a history of anxiety for ten years. And Da Zhang Wei, who appeared in front of the public, always looked happy and happy, and everyone was surprised by such a contrast.

There is a kind of sadness called pretending to be happy

Later, Da Zhang Wei explained that because others have no reason to see your sadness and unhappiness, negative emotions can only be digested by themselves, and even if they can't be digested, they can only stand up.

He said that he read a book that told him to "pretend to be happy" even if he was not happy, so that after a long time, he could be really happy.

I don't know if this method is really useful, but I feel inexplicably sad when I hear it.

The so-called growing up may be the process of muting sadness. No longer show your heartbreak to anyone, and lick your wounds quietly alone.

It's like getting together with a few friends, not eating much food, but remembering that there are a lot of beer bottles sleeping on the table and on the floor.

After checking out, walking in the cool night breeze, I don't know who asked if you are happy

What I got was all kinds of complaints about life, and I couldn't remember the specific plot, but I just knew that everyone had a lot of depression and unhappiness in their hearts.

When they are sober, everyone has a smile on their faces, but when they are drunk, they seem to become miserable.

Actually, they are pretending to be happy.

Facing all kinds of pressures in life, parents' urging to marry, comparison of friends, financial embarrassment, and emotional wounds.

What many people want is a free space, an environment that belongs only to them.

The disguise also needs to be faded and the mask needs to be repainted.

In the variety show My Kid, when the host Qian Feng was taking flat photos, he specially disguised himself as a clown, because he felt very similar to himself.

"Sometimes I'm in a bad mood, but because of work, as long as I stand on the stage, I have to show my happy side, and the sad side can only be digested alone."

Qian Feng's mother said that if it weren't for this show, she would never have known that her son had so many sad moments alone.

She always thought that her son was the happy big boy.

Many people say that because they don't want to be underestimated, don't want to be sympathized, and don't want others to say that they are selling badly, they must pretend to be happy and bear these sadness alone.

People with a sense of responsibility are very tired. But more

, is helpless.

For adults, pretending to be happy seems to have become a habit, both men and women.

I don't want to talk about my troubles, because I don't want to turn one unhappiness into more. You can't speak out about your sorrow because you have an obligation to pass on happiness and hope to others.

The whitewashing in the circle of friends has never been the whole of life, and the pain and bitterness that you have not spoken about are the real life

Han Yi is a person who loves him, and when he saw such a sentence before, he felt that it was very wonderful, and the fish would die if it lost water; If you lose a fish in the water, it is still water. Indeed, there is nothing in the water, it is water, there are fish in the water, there are aquatic plants, he is the river.

Life is like water, so that it can be safe and warm.

For a while he was like this, in life, learning about this property of water.

There are always a lot of things in life that make us entangled, can't let go, and even lose our original selves for it, and let ourselves be decadent and forget to live a good life for a lot of unworthy things.

And life never waits for you to wake up all the time.

You only have to stay true to your original intention, not to lose yourself, no matter what you face, sad is enough, but to be strong.

In the first half of my life, Tang Jing had her own career and ability, no matter whether the congratulatory letter left or not, she could live her life well and walk her own way, although she was also sad and confused, but for her, taking care of herself, so that she never fell because of anyone, anything, and could not be knocked down, this is what she really wants to do.

Our whole life, whether it is finding a partner or working, is ultimately for ourselves to live better, maintain our true self, and not sink for unworthy people, and not fall for unworthy things.

Don't forget the original intention, you have to always.

Don't spoil yourself because of anything bad, don't bully yourself because of any bad person.

In the micro, the fish said to the water You can't see my tears because I'm in the water. The water says I can feel your tears because you are in my heart.

It's really a good relationship, maybe it's like fish and water, you don't need to say it, I can understand it.

And people usually lose at the starting line, because before they understand, they even forget to take the initiative to understand and take the initiative to care.

It is true that people will change with time, age, and environment, but no matter how they change, they should know how to give understanding to the people around them.

Yishu wrote in the Cambrian: "People have the right to change their minds, but when they change, they should also be considerate of the other party's mood and situation." ”

In the TV series I Love Male Girlfriends, senior marriage consultant Fang Jun is a person like water. In the play, Liu Huiyun, who is over fifty years old, once encountered her husband's cheating after becoming famous, Ye Shan neglected her family because of her eagerness for quick success and quick profit, and her sister Fang Yiyi got married and divorced, and he used his purity to guide them and make them believe in love again.

After Ye Shan and Fang Jun fell in love, because of the disparity in the status of the two people, Fang Jun once only wanted to make money desperately, after working during the day, he had to set up a stall to sell skewers at night. Ye Shan was very distressed, she told Fang Jun at this time that she didn't care how much he earned, because of his understanding heart, he didn't give up easily, but worked hard

If you want to create for her, it is already something that countless men can't do.

A person who understands your tears is better than a group of people who understand your laughter. A person who is willing to do his best for you is better than someone who is rich but stingy with giving.

Life is like swimming in water, sometimes facing difficulties, sometimes going with the flow.

Han Yi is not a saint, sometimes he is too himself.

It's good to have the courage to face difficulties, and it's good to have the ability to go upstream through cultivation, but sometimes, it's not a bad thing to go with the flow.

No matter how smart a person is, he can't be a school of his own, and he can understand everything by himself. There must be predecessors to teach and teachers to guide. There are many things, you have to listen to the voice of the public, and there are some things that he really wants to be lazy, so it doesn't hurt to listen to the advice of people who specialize in this matter.

Stretch yourself too tight, the strings will break if they are too tight.

Mu Xin said, "If you are not free, you are unnatural." ”

Maybe he can't help himself, maybe he has a lot of helplessness, but he is always in deep shackles, and he will only let himself even live a natural life.

If you don't feel comfortable doing anything, and you always have a lot of worries before you do it, you're not just downgrading your life, you're throwing it away.

In such an unfree life, he has to learn to find a way out, make room for himself, let his mood fly, and give himself a little warmth.

Life, a little as you like, a little as you like.

Don't think too much about it, sometimes it's good to be a "casual" person.

The height of the career is also occasionally put down, and those burdens that are forcibly put on themselves are also put down, and they will also solve it by themselves. Now, he just needs to be himself once, no mobile phone, no job, only the people he wants to see and what he wants to do.

After this chapter, I want to talk with more like-minded people to start liking you in the future, WeChat, talk about life, and find confidants