As he grew older, Han Yi had more and more "ideas". Sometimes he will find that when he is tired, many people will say to him, don't do it if you are tired, but who is willing to give him money to spend? When he was sick, many people would say to him, "Take some medicine, but who really gave him medicine?" When he encounters difficulties, many people will say that if he persists, it will pass, but who can really help him?

This is real life, and he is no longer the "ideal person" who only lives in fantasy.

Who will make him worried? Who understands his life? Who can understand the bitterness behind his smile? In this life, the number of people I have met is unknown, but there are only a handful of people who can stand up to each other.

Some people have a smile on their faces, but they are hypocritical behind their backs; Some people cater on the surface and calculate behind their backs.

Some people, who are close to you, are only for profit, not really want to make friends with you; Some people, shushing the cold and asking for warmth, just ask for you, rather than really want to care about your life.

These hypocritical people are just passers-by in your life journey, and they have not really entered your heart and understood your suffering; I won't empathize with your story and understand your hardships.

Don't think that just a few kind words from the other party will give you everything; Don't think that if you have a common topic, you can put it in your heart; Don't expect to be sincere and get what you deserve, get along with others, and remember to keep your eyes open.

As the saying goes, adversity sees the truth, and over time it sees people's hearts.

Whether a person is good or not, you will know after getting along for a long time, a heart is really not true, and you will know when you encounter something.

A true friend is not how sought after you are when you are proud, but how much you help when you are disappointed. People who are good to you are not afraid of any test, and will lend a helping hand when you are at your most depressed and give you charcoal in the snow.

The real affection is not the sweet words of the sea and the rocks, but the willingness to be displaced with you when you are poor. The person who takes you to heart will not leave you when you are most lost, accompany you through the hardships, and give you warm support.

Only those who are hypocritical will be afraid of trouble when you need it most, and disappear when you are most helpless.

At first we pretended to understand, and then we pretended to understand.

So, it's good to have heard some words, don't take them seriously; It's good to know some things, don't break them; Some people just see it clearly, don't debunk it; Some feelings are good with fate, don't be obsessed.

Time is selfless, and it will make you see clearly who is deliberately disguised and who can help each other in the same boat; It will also keep sincere friends for you and send away false passers-by.

Hardship sees the truth, not everyone can do it.

After Han Yi returned home, he felt bad in every way, and wanted to make up for sleep, but he couldn't sleep after tossing and turning.

Like him, Bai Xue was not happy, and after lunch with Keiko, she tried to contact Han Yi on the way back to the hospital, but to no avail.

When Keiko ended her last relationship, she said to Bai Xue: It is enough to scratch the prize to scratch a thank you word, and love is the same, there is no need to scrape the four words thank you for patronage cleanly before you are willing to put it

Hand. Therefore, even though she was very hurt at the time, she resolutely broke off all thoughts with her ex-boyfriend.

Keiko was in a long-distance relationship at the time, and in that relationship, she hardly felt half of her boyfriend's care and liking.

Every time she chatted halfway, her boyfriend suddenly disappeared without saying a word, leaving her alone anxious but helpless; Every time, she struggled to find a topic, and her boyfriend just replied coldly with "um" and "oh"; Every month, my boyfriend disappears and I can't be reached for several days, and I don't reply to text messages and calls.

Because of love, because of liking, I endured it. Later, I learned that he had split his legs, and I just didn't tell her. She thought that her boyfriend would see her tolerance and love, and then slowly get better. However, the reason why scumbags are scumbags is because they all feel that they deserve to be scumbags.

Her repeated tolerance and concessions did not make him relent. A discerning person knows at a glance that her boyfriend doesn't like her, after all, the mood of liking someone can't be hidden.

If you like someone enough, you will be afraid that she will think too much; There are always endless topics to talk about with her; If you can't see her, you can't help but want to find her.

It's like playing a game, and a person's hard-fought battle will eventually be defeated. Feelings are a matter of two people, and no matter how hard one person tries, it won't help.

There is such a saying on the Internet: If you like this kind of thing, even if you cover your mouth, it will run out of your eyes.

Yes, it is actually very obvious whether a person likes you or not, what he does, his eyes, will tell you.

Many people like the relationship between Sanmao and Jose. Sanmao also wrote in "The Story of the Sahara" that there was a beautiful neighbor who always chatted with her Jose. At first, Jose would talk to her, but later he saw that Sanmao was not very happy, so he stopped caring about the beauty, and his eyes didn't fall on her.

This kind of Jose is both cute and touching, because he gave Sanmao the best love, and he used his actions to make Sanmao feel at ease and happy.

In reality, how many people have the current one, but secretly develop a spare tire; How many people can't hold back the blandness, and at the same time are ambiguous with several people; How many people can't find a sense of security in love, always suffering from gains and losses, cranky thinking, and eventually leading to the breakdown of the relationship.

Bai Xue saw such a message in her Weibo backstage private message: "My boyfriend is very good to me, but he likes to mess with flowers and grass, and he always fights with other girls, which makes me feel very insecure." I talked to my boyfriend, but he still didn't care. I feel like I can be replaced at any time. ”

Actually, she is not good at helping her game fans answer their emotional doubts, but she is good at listening and comforting others.

Even if she is not good at it, she can clearly feel that in such a relationship, the boy does not love the girl much, otherwise he would not still fight with others when he learns that his girlfriend is unhappy, to put it bluntly, what he loves is himself after all.

Why should a lover who makes you insecure insist on it? Two people are worse together than when they are alone, so why be together? A paragraph can only be given to you

Why should the feelings that bring negative energy continue?

Life is long, and you can't waste your life by drowning in the mire; Life is short, and you have to put your heart and feelings into someone who really likes you.

The person who reminds you to dress, the person who makes you fat, the person who brings you boiling water, the person who cooks for you, the person who touches your head when you cry, the person who makes your alarm clock, the person who complains that he smiles at you;

The people who will give you encouragement when you are tired, the people who always watch you, the people who like to listen to you sing, the people who send messages back in seconds, and the people who look forward to your safe return are all people you should cherish, aren't they?

So, Keiko broke up and gradually came out.

These Bai Xue knew it, because they had nothing to talk about with each other.

She once said that the final result of a long-distance relationship is to develop the relationship between two people into a relationship of three or four people.

That is, there will always be someone who will change their mind, and even two people will change their mind.

When Keiko said that, Bai Xue didn't understand it, because she hadn't been in love at that time, but she was just secretly in love with Han Yi. After returning to China, there were constant contradictions between her and Han Yi, and now she may be able to feel it slowly. The nature is similar, but she can't be as crisp as Keiko, so she struggles. If you don't want to be entangled, you can only stop thinking about Han Yi and live your own life.

Live your own life, live your own life, she has always given herself such psychological hints.

She doesn't compare, and she never envies other people's delicacies and luxury goods, it's simple. She has always been like this, and she has never needed others to worry about her.

There is a sentence in "Hello, Old Times": "The happiest life is someone else's life." ”

In most people's cognition, it is true that other people's lives seem to be better than their own, so they always appreciate others, find fault with themselves, and try to trim themselves into the appearance that others like. Gradually, I forgot my own life, habitually stood in my own world and looked up to the happiness of others, kept comparing, and constantly forced myself to catch up, and as a result, my life was exhausted.

Bai Yansong said: "When people are not pursuing happiness, but being happier than others, happiness will be far away from us." ”

And Han Yi, after experiencing a lot of things, he is indeed different from before, and his thoughts and concepts are also different from Bai Xue.

If a person always looks at the world of others, how can he see his own happiness.

Life, once you are burdened with comparison, whether it is material or emotional, as long as you stay for a while, emotions such as worry and fear will follow.

From a certain point of view, Bai Xue just has emotional baggage, while Han Yi has both material and emotional baggage, and he lives a very tired life.

Sometimes, I want to stop and rest, but there are too many burdens, and I don't know how to put them, and in the end I can only hold on to my tired body and mind.

There are many people, just because they compare how others are doing and how they are doing, so that their hearts carry a lot of undue loads, and as a result, they miss the simple beauty of life.

Sometimes, comparisons don't bring much surprise to our lives, but more annoyance and hurt.

Life is like drinking water, knowing whether it is warm or cold.

There is no need to compare yourself with others, let alone stand in your own troubles and look up to the happiness of others.

In life, the most important thing is to live your life well and live the way you want.

There is no need to envy others, sometimes, what you think you don't have may be on the way to come, and what you have, others may not have.

Bian Zhilin said: "You stand on the bridge and look at the scenery, and the people watching the scenery are watching you from upstairs." ”

When we appreciate others, we often don't know that in fact, we have become the scenery in the eyes of others.

There are many times when we envy the smoothness of others' journeys, others may envy the colorful scenery along our path.

When we envy the idleness of others, others may envy the fulfillment of our busyness.

When we envy the freedom of others to be single, others may be envious of the company of our loved ones.

There are many kinds of life, each with its own merits, and it is not said who lives well and who lives poorly, but the experience is different.

"In life, you don't have to compare with anyone, how you are and how you continue to be, you work hard to live, not for anything else, just for that unique self." This is the concept of white snow.

In the world, everyone has their own characteristics and personality, blindly imitate others, no matter how good you do, you will lose, you can only win the life you want by focusing on the road under your feet.

There is no next life in life, it is enough to live well in this life, live well, do not compare with others, live a good life, and live up to the life that cannot be repeated.

Even if Han Yi knows these truths, in this world, everyone's life is different, each has its own difficulties, and each has its own advantages.

But he is a man after all, is it wrong to pursue a career and money and live a better life?

(End of chapter)

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