Life is sometimes like this, no matter how hard it is, you have to resist it, no matter how tired and painful it is, you have to bear it yourself, and you would rather be silent than tell it, because no one can empathize with your difficulties and pain.

Just like Han Yi will not complain about the unfairness of feelings and work like others! obviously has nothing to do with Hao Yali, but inexplicably has an inextricable relationship, which makes Bai Xue suspicious of breaking up with him. Obviously, Wang Shuwen is competing for the prosperous world, Wang Kun is making false accounts and losing public funds, which have nothing to do with him, but they are all handled by him.

Qiu Minsheng trusts and reuses him, which he is convinced of, but at the same time, his selfishness Han Yi is also very clear. Even if Qiu Lang didn't want him to meddle in the matter of Darong, he, Qiu Minsheng, actually hoped that Han Yi would do this in his heart, because he wanted to protect Qiu Lang. A good company went bankrupt in the hands of Qiu Lang, which is not good for his reputation and bad for him to take over Shengshi in the future. And after Han Yi took over, he became the person who carried this cauldron, and it was naturally good to be able to save Darong, but even if he couldn't save it, it had nothing to do with Qiu Lang.

Han Yi is a smart person, it's not that he doesn't know, but he is willing to do it.

Qiu Lang, who has a worry-free life, has just married Keiko and started a family, and learns that Keiko is pregnant, also has his own unspeakable secrets, and he doesn't want to tell people about his suffering.

In life, there is always more tiredness than beauty, and I have to face it; In the relationship, there is always more pain than drunkenness, and it is inevitable that there will be heartbreak. If you can't figure out right and wrong, you can only taste it alone; Cut the constant wrong, wrong, right, right, only secretly shed tears.

The most bitter thing in the world is not Coptis chinensis, but a heart that bears silently; The most tired thing in the world is not a mule or horse, but a person who works hard. The unspeakable pain turned into a lonely person to bear; The tears that can't be shed become the wind and rain to block alone.

Every adult has an unshirkable responsibility, and his feelings and sadness cannot be described in words, and he feels powerless to say it.

When a person is tired, he can lie down and rest; The heart is tired, but you can't pretend not to care, some moods are unspeakable. Many times, with a smile on his face and tears in his heart, he pretends that he doesn't care because he doesn't want to worry the people around him.

What can be shared with others is always more happy than sad; What you can talk to people is always insignificant.

In fact, there are many things on my mind that I don't have to tell everyone. Someone who listens and understands and comforts you; Some people don't understand it, and they only become haggard.

In this world, everyone is very busy, everyone has their own troubles and sorrows, those feelings that cannot be spoken, they are left to themselves to digest, and only they can comfort themselves.

There are always some emotions that are indescribable.

When you have someone who cares about you by your side, sometimes you will shed tears and pour out.

But people like Han Yi feel that many times, not everyone is worth telling and explaining.

In the world, there are all kinds of people. Many times there will be such a situation, some people do not understand his experience at all and comment on it, and no matter what he thinks in his heart, they stand on his own point of view and accuse him of various demands.

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All kinds of misunderstandings and cold words, at first he may force himself to make changes, thinking about explaining to others, but after one or two times, no amount of patience and tolerance will be smoothed out.

Slowly I understand that for those who don't understand him, the explanation is a cover-up; For those who don't like him from the bottom of their hearts, no matter what he does, he can always pick a bone from the egg.

There are many people who come and go in life, and it is inevitable that some friction will occur in the process of getting along. For those who really care about themselves, there should be no estrangement between each other, but some inconsequential people can ignore it, after all, in this world, not everyone is worthy of his explanation.

You must know that people who really want to associate with him will naturally understand him and respect his ideas, while self-centered people, no matter how he moves his feelings and understands reason, and how he changes himself to meet their expectations, if he doesn't understand him, he won't understand after all.

remembers that Mo Yan told about his experience of inviting guests to dinner in his essay "Three Eating Things":

A few people went to eat roast duck together, and when Mo Yan settled the account first, when everyone finished eating, there were still a lot left on the table, so they thought that they were all good things, and it would be a pity to waste them, so they continued to eat.

At this time, some people ridiculed Mo Yan and said, "You have to eat his money back", and some people said disdainfully, "How can he eat so much?" Why is he eating so much? ”

Mo Yan did not refute, but only told his mother about the grievances he had suffered after returning home. When he went to the banquet again, Mo Yan changed his previous style, chewed as slowly as possible, ate gently, and frugally, thinking that he could be praised, but he never thought that some people still ridiculed him for "fake appearance, not enough of his true colors".

In reality, there are many such cases, and the experience may be different, but the essence of the reflection is the same. Han Yi has experienced this kind of thing a lot, and in all kinds of interactions, he will always meet some people who will indiscriminately say irresponsible things to him, point fingers, measure him completely by their standards, and even take pleasure in belittling and making fun of him.

Later, Han Yi understood that in front of these people, there is no need to be knowledgeable, after all, people's hearts are different, if he cares too much and wants to explain everything clearly, it will not only consume his time and energy, but also end up full of grievances.

There are too many such people in life, and he can't explain them one by one, and he can't change the deep-rooted concepts of others. When you encounter some self-respecting people who judge him, or sneer at him, and criticize and scold him for no reason, you don't have to explain anything, because it's not worth it.

The best way to walk on a journey full of people of all kinds is:

Be brave to go your own way, do what you should do, don't judge the strengths and weaknesses with fools, only compete with your peers, expand your own pattern, and live your own real life.

Others eat a very small cake with a knife and fork, chew it slowly for ten minutes or half an hour, but he gently squeezes it in his hand, and then stuffs it into his mouth, because he has never had such an elegant dining habit since he was a child.

The recent troubles and confusion are self-evident, and many times he doesn't know where to improve himself

I don't know how to solve all kinds of problems.

He couldn't help but wonder, is there a ability that can solve all the troubles?

The answer, of course, is no.

So what is the most important ability of a human being?

If someone told him that he had the ability to maintain peace of mind at all times, then Han Yi would have to say it was! How can a living person be at peace when something bad happens?

The first thing that came to his mind at first was "persistence", at least for the past few years.

Now he thinks that "persistence" is only a necessary ability for success, not the most important ability in life, nor the most lacking ability.

The purpose of perseverance is to succeed, and the purpose of success is to be happy. However, he has seen many people who can succeed but are not happy, such as Qiu Minsheng.

To discuss the most important competencies in life, we must look at life as a whole: what exactly do people seek?

This is a profound question, at least Han Yi feels that he is not qualified to express any immature opinions, this may have to wait until he is seventy or eighty.

Many people will say "I want a successful career", "I want to make a lot of money", "I want to find someone I love for a lifetime", and all of these desires are appealing to a common pursuit: happiness.

When Han Yi often wrote a diary, writing, playing the guitar, and singing, he said that it is difficult for people to achieve the ideal state of happiness, because most people understand happiness as: I can do whatever I want.

But just think about it, if a person can really do what he wants, he can get whatever he wants. Then all he has left is boredom. At this time, he will look everywhere for things to do, looking for new desires.

He'd seen millionaires with millions of dollars, buying bag after bag, playing with woman after woman, but instead of happiness, they showed insatiable anxiety — buying one bag after another, and putting it away for a few days, because he had taken a fancy to another, more beautiful one.

He has seen retired old cadres, and the old couple have a salary of tens of thousands of yuan a month, but they often worry about their son's failure to find a job as a civil servant, his son's marriage to a daughter-in-law, and his grandson's education. When their son is not around, they are worried about "what to do if the lights in the hall are not turned off", "whether the door is locked", "when will my high blood pressure be cured, and how long will I live".

They are constantly anxious and uneasy, in other words, they have not achieved the happiness they imagined.

On the other hand, when he was young, he looked forward to going to college soon, so that he would not have to go to school every day and listen to his parents nagging about his grades. Later, when he entered the university, he looked forward to coming out to work early, because work brings salary, money, and money can be free.

What now? He didn't even know what he wanted.

Maybe. Watering the flowers, taking a walk, reading a book, watching a movie, listening to music, you must be happy all day long, right?

If a person does not deliberately cultivate, he will never be able to be at peace if he becomes a mess in this dye vat of society. He always felt that this was the moment

The most painful time, and his current pain, is for the light of tomorrow, and tomorrow will definitely be better than today.

In fact, this is an illusion, this is how Han Yi feels now! Tomorrow won't necessarily be better, it could be worse. A person who is not at peace, no matter what conditions are given to him, will not be at peace, because he is not capable of attaining happiness.

As a human being, we can neither live in the past nor live in the future, and all we have is the present when every minute and second is passing. Therefore, grasping the moment, this minute and second of calm is the most important.

After going through so much, perhaps Han Yi's inner peace that he thought was very nonsense is indeed a very important ability.

Someone said, "I don't think your so-called peace is enough, what I want to pursue is to be happy every day."

What we often call happiness is the pleasure of the senses. The same is pleasure, but the happiness of doing AI and reading is different, and the happiness of the former is also the happiness of the senses, which makes people fluttering, dazed and overwhelmed. The latter, on the other hand, is long and long, with an endless aftertaste, because he is calm.

If a person is easily happy, then correspondingly, he will also cry easily, because he is emotional and has great mood swings. And the same thing often brings much more pain than happiness. Think about it, the same 10,000 yuan, is it more joy when you get it or more pain when you lose it?

When you are young, be cautious about everything that makes people happy: such as staying up late playing games, such as sexual AI, such as smoking, such as drinking. In the end, they will find that everything that makes him happy will pay a heavier price behind it.

A person who knows how to judge the situation should learn to avoid unnecessary pain instead of blindly pursuing happiness.

This topic is so big that it can be summed up in one sentence, that is, "the joy of a moment is better than the tranquility of a moment".

In just the past few years, like countless mornings, Han Yi has shown a very busy appearance, sitting in the car, sitting on the plane, constantly pressing his mobile phone and making calls.

When will he be able to sit there quietly, with his hands resting quietly on his knees, motionless, like a tree, without fighting, without impartiality, and growing quietly?

As it is written in a poem: the grass is bearing its seeds, the wind is shaking its leaves, and we stand and do not speak. It's wonderful.

(End of chapter)