Xu Zimo is one of the few reading lovers among young people today, she liked to read Zhang Ailing in middle school, and she also felt pity and worthlessness for her falling in love with Hu Lancheng. But she said, "Love doesn't ask if it's worth it or not." Hu Lancheng derailed, and she also sent the manuscript fee to help him escape, and went to visit him, but he encountered many cold eyes and unbearable.

The 23-year-old celebrity shocked the beach, the article was wonderfully written, and she had youth and beauty, Zhang Ailing should have had many young talent suitors at that time, why was she only tempted by a middle-aged man like Hu Lancheng, who was not good-looking? And Hu Lancheng already had a second wife at that time.

Later, she read Hu Lancheng's "This Life and This World" and "Mountains and Rivers Years", although she hated the pretentiousness of his writing, but she also understood that he understood Zhang Ailing in the end; I understand what it means, "Because we know each other, we understand; Because you understand, you are compassionate. ”

The more talented a person is, the more he can experience the loneliness that goes deep into the bone marrow, and Hu Lancheng is a person who resonates with her heart. Even if the ending is shattered, if you have such a mutual understanding and understanding, you may really be able to be compassionate to all the encounters and variables.

Mo Xiyan told her that in a relationship, the depth of the relationship essentially depends on the degree of understanding and understanding. So the best intimacy is that you understand each other's happiness and each other's pain; It is possible to share with each other and also exchange energy.

She also used the American drama "House of Cards" as an example, saying that many men like Claire and like her elegance, intelligence, and decency.

Claire, but she is not a stupid white sweet who is suitable for marrying home as a wife, she is actually ambitious; She was burned by her own ambitions and desires, and she was miserable. Most men don't like ambitious women, they prefer a beautiful woman with the "mind of a baby", simple, easy to control, and easy to enjoy.

Only the poor boy Wood understands this rich girl who is tormented by ambition, because he has the same ambition and desire, and the same pain of being tormented by ambition and desire. They are one kind, one nation: a relaxed life is pleasant, but happiness is so superficial and short-lived; The great longing of the heart could not be appeased by this superficial pleasure, and it was ecstatic in the middle of the night.

So what about so many people loving her? If it cannot be understood in essence, all love and admiration are vain and even a burden. Only when we truly understand each other can we accept and identify with each other, deliver our souls to each other, and have true intimacy.

Why do so many people flirt with you, but none of them really enter your heart?

She believes that as Mo Xiyan said, because love and understanding are unattainable.

Two people don't think on the same channel, the three views are opposite, and it is in vain to date many times. A person may like you because you are beautiful, rich, talented and many other advantages, but the real understanding is beyond these.

Understand that it is not about pleasing and pandering, not about eliminating differences, or about learning the Dafa of flirting with emotional experts, you can cultivate world-famous martial arts. It is the meeting of two souls, the essential identity of two beings, and the similarity of two people in the spiritual world

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So she agrees with the chicken soup, "In any relationship, choice is more important than hard work." ”

How do you meet someone who understands you? A person can only understand himself first, explore inwardly, straighten out the relationship with himself, and understand "who I am"; In order to solicit external information, find people who understand each other, connect with each other, and establish high-quality intimate relationships.

Everyone is unique. But also believe that you are not an island, there is always someone who understands you and will find you through the vast sea of people, even if you have spent all your luck to meet him.

Regarding AY's love for Han Yi, Xu Zimo didn't worry about it like Mo Xiyan, but she was very happy that AY could become happy because of a person she liked, because she hadn't liked anyone since her first love ended, and she hadn't been so happy for a long time.

As the best best friend, she should be happy for AY who fell in love.

AY likes a man like Han Yi who is arrogant and temperamental, knows what is important, and understands warmth and coldness, while Xu Zimo likes humor and can bring her joy.

How attractive can humor make a man?

Just look at Huang Bo.

Lin Chiling, the goddess in the minds of the majority of men, has said many times that Huang Bo is her ideal type. Many people are incredible, why does Bai Fumei like Lin Chiling like Huang Bo? In this era of looking at faces, Huang Bo is neither tall nor handsome after all.

Because Huang Bo is just a man who is so humorous that he doesn't need to look at his face! A man's humor, like a woman's good figure, is a natural attraction to the opposite sex.

With a man with a sense of humor, life is full of comedy, life is full of fun, and from time to time there is a little luck, full of happiness.

Some time ago, Xu Zimo met a couple on the bus, the girl was very fun-loving, and suddenly said to her boyfriend in front of the whole car: "Sunflower point acuman!" ”

At that time, everyone was waiting for the boy to react, but he froze there, and replied with great embarrassment: "Daughter-in-law, don't make trouble, so many people are watching, quickly untie it for me." "I was instantly warmed, and I felt that the girl must be very happy.

She remembered that once after work, her colleague's husband rode a motorcycle to pick her up at the subway entrance, and the colleague asked before getting on the bus: "How much does it cost to go to XX Garden?" Her husband said, "I'll take you for free if I kiss it." The colleague kissed him shyly and got into the car, and saw the taxi drivers soliciting around him dumbfounded.

If you meet a man who has no sense of humor, it is estimated that he will only say "What a fuss!" "The fun of one person becomes the embarrassment and depression of two people, and the ending will only end unhappily.

For Xu Zimo, who is too introverted, it may only make the world of the two of them snowy and cold everywhere. Her choice in love is to hope that the other party is a humorous boy.

Small contradictions, small frictions, and small embarrassments are inevitable when people get along with others, but people with a sense of humor can often easily resolve them with one sentence.

No matter how happy a marriage is, there are 100 thoughts of divorce and 50 times of the urge to strangle each other, and the boyfriend or husband

A humorous experience is that each fight lasts no more than 10 minutes.

During the meal, when they were having a conflict, he picked up a big chicken leg and put it in front of her flatteringly: "Oh, I give you my favorite." ”

She asked rhetorically, "Isn't your favorite me?" ”

He pretended to be profound: "I'm talking to the chicken legs, what do you say you are talking about." ”

When she heard this, her anger disappeared.

This is the sense of humor in love, which makes each other's feelings more natural and comfortable.

Xu Zimo once talked about a long-distance boyfriend, who was similar to Mo Xiyan, and they broke up shortly after she studied abroad.

But that boy, she likes it very much, and she thinks about it from time to time.

One day during the summer vacation, they had a fierce quarrel, and she kept crying, and he said that he would buy her chocolates and eat sweets in a good mood. The next morning a package arrived at her house: "Sign it!" ”

She was wondering if the delivery boy was too fast this time, and when she looked up and saw him take off his hat and smile at her stupidly, she pounced······

Once they were arguing, he suddenly squatted down, pretended to be distressed, and put his head in his hands in a painful motion: "Why, why, why can't I learn to communicate with good-looking people until now?" ”

At that time, it also attracted many passers-by to watch.

With such a boyfriend who has both a sense of humor and awareness, and has been amused by him before he is really angry, where can he still quarrel?

However, after all, there is no rival to a long-distance relationship, and there is no perfect ending. But even so, it didn't change her criteria for choosing humorous boys.

Humor is not only the lightest concoction, but also the highest level of defense, and a person with a sense of humor can always refuse, without leaving a trace, to refute gracefully and forcefully.

One day, George Bernard Shaw, a master of humor, was walking along a narrow road when he met a disgruntled colleague who wanted to insult him and said to him, "I never give way to fools." George Bernard Shaw replied, "And I am the opposite," and got out of the way. An easy sentence leaves the person who insulted him speechless.

Her father is a person with a great sense of humor and a special love for her mother. Probably because of this, she is especially fond of people with a sense of humor like her father.

Humor can not only make people laugh, but real humor can also make people laugh with tears.

George Bernard Shaw said, "Humor is like a spring in a carriage, without which a pebble can jolt you up." ”

Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory, but humorous people can laugh at the unsatisfactory and make fun of it.

Once in a shopping mall, her mother said that her father's colleague had a coat that cost thousands of dollars, and persuaded her father to buy an expensive one, but her father looked up and said, "How thousands? Oh, I'm worth tens of thousands of dollars when I'm naked! ”

Xu Zimo thought to himself, he has two heart stents, and he really doesn't know that there is hair······

And the highest level of humor is to face death with a smile.

In the Wenchuan earthquake, a buried person was rescued by the Russian rescue team, saying: "Lao Tzu was dug up and saw foreigners, and I thought that Lao Tzu had been shocked to a foreign country."

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Tang once said: An open-minded outlook on life, a frank and unpretentious attitude, coupled with perfect skills, and then expressed in a relaxed and happy way, this is humor.

More than ten years ago, Xu Zimo's grandfather had cancer, and when he was dying, he called all their relatives to his side and said a lot of words, and in the end, his grandfather was short of breath and died. However, when they were crying and grabbing the ground, Grandpa suddenly opened his eyes and laughed at us: "Funny you, I'll see who isn't crying." After saying this. Grandpa left and never came back.

The sense of humor is like her family tradition, grandpa and dad are humorous, and she doesn't, she wants to meet a guy who loves her with a sense of humor.

Humor is not a technique, but an attitude to life. Humorous people can make fun of the small depression of life and the big ups and downs of life, and can find the little joy of life in both good and bad times.

In her opinion, understanding is the premise of love, and humor is a charm that can attract her.

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