2019.9.29

Our lollipop sharing session in three groups talked about whether children can fight back when they are bullied at school.

Rui's mother said that she received a WeChat message from the teacher today, saying that her classmates bullied Xiao Rui, and Xiao Rui finally fought back. Rui's mother said that from childhood to adulthood, Xiao Rui was bullied and never fought back, and she was very distressed.

Fear that their Tang Bao children will be bullied at school is one of the biggest worries of parents.

Peng Peng is generally patient-oriented, and he will fight back when he is annoyed. Peng Peng will look at people, beat if he can beat it, and shout if he can't beat it, so that teachers and classmates can hear it.

The teachers of Pengpeng Primary School are very protective, and the class will choose classmates to be "Xue Peng Guards" to protect him. Anything that bullies classmates should be stopped immediately and told to the teacher. There was a girl who injured her hand in order to protect Peng Peng. The junior high school only cared about the grades and did not take special protective measures for Peng Peng. So he had to rely on himself.

He once smashed a female classmate who was bullying him on the head with a water glass, and I was called to school to be criticized. That was Peng Peng's most fierce one. He was furious. Peng Peng accidentally touched her water cup, she disliked Peng Peng and threw her water cup away, and asked Peng Peng to compensate her for a water cup. At first, Peng Peng reluctantly apologized, but the female classmate repeatedly asked Peng Peng to compensate her for the water cup.

I said to the female classmate: "If the water cup was thrown away by Xue Peng, we should compensate you." It would be unreasonable for you to throw away the water cup yourself but ask Xue Peng for compensation. It's Xue Peng who hit you on the head, we apologize, and if there is anything wrong with the hospital examination, we will take responsibility. ”

Parents have reported that our children are not good at expressing themselves and do not explain problems when they occur. Teachers often judge a child's behavior as unprovoked.

In fact, how could our Tang baby hurt others for no reason? Their empathy is so heavy that they are unwilling to do things that hurt others, unless they are forced to do it as a last resort.

So it's important for us to teach our children to express themselves from an early age. I usually talk to him softly. They like this kind of talking environment, and if they are willing to speak, they will encourage him and don't interrupt his expression. If the child does not know the order of words, parents should teach the child. It's not a correction of every sentence, it's okay to make a mistake once or twice once in a while. The attitude of correcting mistakes should be good, the tone should be kind, and our children are particularly sensitive to criticism. It can be changed to a funny way, a relaxed way.

Ya's mother said that Xiaoya is also very good at school, she will cry when she encounters a child who can't beat her, and the teacher will usually look at the crying child. Today, there was a boy in her class who said, "I'm most afraid of Yamei crying, there is too much water." ”

Ya's mother also said: "Ya told me yesterday that she must not be naughty in the future, and she must be well-behaved and obedient!" This well-behaved is what I learned by reading and used it. So, it's important to read and understand correctly!! ”