In society, people always have to face all kinds of "struggles", some active and some passive; Some chase fame, some chase profit; Some are for the needs of survival, and some are for the sake of achieving further goals. In fact, there is no right or wrong in the "fight" itself, and how to fight is a problem worth thinking about, so let's analyze the strategy of "fighting" among the three social strata.

There is a contention between the top and the top.

When high-level society encounters disputes, the first thing that comes to mind is whether it is worth fighting, and if it is worth fighting, then think about how to fight. Because there are so many things in this world that are not worth fighting about, and many people are fighting over them, and as a result, precious time is wasted. Therefore, there is a saying called "it is better to be angry than to be angry", and the high-level society is not to fight with others, but to fight with oneself, and the high-level society is not to find a way to share the limited cake with others, but to make the cake bigger, to make a difference to fight.

I'll give you an example: there is a farmer in the United States who has been ranked first in the country for his crops, and that's not the most important thing, the most important thing is that he gets the first place every year. A reporter came to interview him and asked him the secret of his success, and he said, "Because I give the seeds of my crops to everyone every time!" The reporter was puzzled and said to him: "If you share your crop seeds with everyone, won't everyone's crops be as good as yours?" So how can you still win the first place every year? As a result, the farmer said: "If I don't share it with everyone, only the crops in my field are excellent, and the crops in the field next to me are of inferior quality, then their pollen will inevitably affect my crops." And I can only guarantee that my crops are excellent if they are excellent. ”

This is the wisdom of the upper society. Let's take a closer look at the benefits of doing so.

1. There is a saying that "the wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it." "The better a person is, the more important it is to keep a low profile. The richer a person is, the more he must let the people around him get his help, and only in this way can he maintain his existing interests. Therefore, there is a sentence in Lao Tzu's "Tao Te Ching" called "If you sharpen it, you can't keep it for a long time; The house is full of gold and jade, and Mo can keep it; Rich and arrogant, self-blame. "In fact, if a person wants to do something, it will have to go through many setbacks and challenges, but if a person wants to destroy something, it is very easy to do. Just like those high-rise buildings, they are all painstakingly built brick by brick, but if you want to destroy them, you only need to install a few explosives packs. The farmer followed this principle, he knew that the reason why his crops were so good was because he had studied them for a long time and had worked hard to grow them, but if others wanted to destroy him, it would be too easy, just sprinkle something into his field while he was not paying attention, and ensure that he would not get any grain; This is still a more polite approach, and there are people who secretly sprinkle poison on his crops when he is about to have a good harvest, and whoever eats his grain will be poisoned, so he will wait to go to court. You ask, "Is there such a bad person in the world?" "I don't believe that there are people in this world who are born determined to be a bad person, but people often do bad things, because you are too good, so many people will blame you, because if you don't get down, others can't take the first.

Second, the true value of doing things is to benefit mankind, not to be alone. In fact, the state encourages the cultivation of excellent crops, the purpose of which is to benefit more people, and whether it is the development of a new product or the improvement of a crop, its fundamental purpose is to benefit more people, not to let a person "show" there. Therefore, when only one person contributes to more people, he will also maximize the value of his life. Therefore, people, the greatest achievement is not how much money they make, but how many people they have helped. People, the greatest honor is not how many medals have been obtained, but

How many practical things you have done for everyone. So throughout the ages, there have been countless people who have been in and out of the picture, and they can be said to be prominent at that time, but how many can be remembered by future generations? On the other hand, those who have made contributions to mankind, although some people did not meet at that time, they are remembered by future generations, such as how poor Cao Xueqin who wrote "Dream of Red Mansions" was, and "Historical Records" was completed in prison after Sima Qian's imprisonment, they did not receive much praise and encouragement at the time, but their names were remembered by future generations. Therefore, the farmer frankly shared his research results with everyone and benefited more people, which in itself has surpassed any honor given to him by the government, which is the embodiment of his life value.

3. In fact, if we think about it carefully, we know that when he sends out his seeds, his crops cannot be the best every year. People, who is not much smarter than others, who is not stupid than anyone else. In fact, the mystery of many things is like a layer of window paper, once pierced, everyone will understand. His land cannot be better than others, and it is the same seed, how can he guarantee that he will be the first every year? So his crops may not be the best every year, but people have a conscience, your seeds are given by others, are you embarrassed to compete with others for the first place? Therefore, everyone will promote him as the first in the future competition, and if anyone dares to compete with him for the first place, it will cause public outrage, so he has always been able to maintain the first place. This is what Lao Tzu said in the "Tao Te Ching": "If it is indisputable, the world cannot compete with it." ”

You will find that the grass-roots society often fights to the end, and the middle-level society often repays each other in the end, and only the high-level society fights to the end. Therefore, the high-level society will make the cake bigger, so that everyone can have a mix, and they will be very safe.

In fact, the competition of the high-level society is also reflected in the college entrance examination, when everyone dreams of getting a college diploma and squeezing the single-plank bridge, the high-level society thinks about whether it is worth going to college. I don't deny that you can learn real skills at many universities, but too many college students are mixed up there. At this time, going to the university entrance examination is a retreat but not pragmatism, and when everyone goes to retreat, you are pragmatic, learn a skill solidly, and accumulate achievements in a field over time, you will stand out. If you go to the university to hang out with them, play with them, and get sex with them, and get nothing but the waste paper for that college diploma, you're done with your life. Therefore, no matter how "fighting", the purpose must be to realize the value of one's life, not to get vanity like the clouds of the past.

The middle class of society hides a knife in a smile.

The greatest advantage of the middle class is that they are confident in their own IQ; And the biggest disadvantage of the middle class is that they are too confident in their own IQ. In fact, there is nothing wrong with a person knowing that he is very smart, but don't take others for fools, otherwise he will be smart and mistaken by cleverness. Therefore, the "struggle" of the middle class often uses some small tricks, small means, and some clever tricks, and he thinks that others don't know, but in fact, others are the same as Spiegel in their hearts, but they don't break him on the surface.

If the farmer in the above example is a middle-class person, he will also give the seeds to everyone, but many of the seeds in it are already steamed, so he can still take the first place the next year, because the yield of others will not be higher than his. But this kind of trick can only be played once in a lifetime, and the second time no one falls for him, and others will secretly sabotage him to retaliate against him, he will lose even more.

Therefore, many people who are engaged in real estate know that those developers are very careful before competing for bids, and they obviously order food in that restaurant when they have lunch at noon, but go to another restaurant to eat, in order to prevent competitors from plotting. Therefore, the middle class society believes in a saying called "People die for money, and birds die for food." "As long as you are given a certain amount of chips, you can let it."

You betrayed the world. "People in the middle class don't believe that there is true love, friendship, and love in the world, they only believe in money, and it is this value that allows them to do anything for money.

In this world, I am not afraid of stupid people, nor are I afraid of smart people, I am afraid of the kind of people who are half-stupid and think they are very smart. If a person is stupid, everyone will understand him, and it will not be difficult for him; If a person is very smart, he knows how to hide and restrain himself, and he can also get along with the people around him. And the most terrible thing is the middle class, which is self-righteous every day. Therefore, if you observe it, you will know that if the thinking of a company president is still at the level of the middle society, he will not be able to lead any cadres, and in the end he will be bankrupt because he owes a lot of money to the bank, and some even go to prison because of huge debts; If the middle-level cadre is the thinking of the middle-level society, he will never get along with the employees and will never be appreciated by the superiors, but fortunately, he does not have much power, so he will not bear too much responsibility, but whether it is life or work, it must be constrained everywhere.

Grassroots society is fighting fiercely.

People in grassroots society are fighting fiercely. I am fortunate to have met many typical people who have inspired me a lot. I once met a man who kept a dog without a license and kept his dog until he barked at anyone he saw and chased you and barked, and the owner of the dog not only did not tie the dog up, but hid in the house to watch jokes, and once I tried to hit the dog, but the dog came back and came out, and it looked like he was going to quarrel with me. It is understandable for people to love pets, but people love dogs excessively, and they love to the extent of indulgence and doting, which is no different from dogs, especially when they see dogs harassing people outside, but they hide in the house to steal fun, this kind of behavior is not complicit with dogs. It is the dog's ignorance to bark at people, and it is the responsibility of people to indulge the dog, and it is the fault of the person that his own dog is not good at managing it but wants to come out and quarrel with others, which is equivalent to lowering his personality to the same standard as the dog. A person who doesn't even understand this logic is not worthy of us arguing with him, because if you quarrel, you will lose, and that will lower your personality. Therefore, the grassroots society will often say: "It depends on the owner to beat the dog." So there's a saying, "Don't fight with pigs, or you'll get dirty." "I really don't know what's there to quarrel with him? Am I talking to him about the merits or giving examples of how people and dogs are different? Isn't this kind of quarrel funny? There is no way to quarrel, you can only stay away from them. Their ignorance will continue, and it will affect their children's education, so let their family's ignorance be passed on from generation to generation, maybe this is the punishment they deserve.

There is also a phenomenon that we often see: when you go to the train station to buy a ticket, you will see a kind of person, he just does not queue up, he has to squeeze to the front to buy a ticket, this practice is both low-level and boring, it is completely "bandit logic". If he is really in a hurry, as long as he explains the problem to the people in front of him, I think he will be helped, because our nation is not a people who lack compassion, and there will always be someone who will take care of him. But he is shameless, his style of doing things is very disgusting, and as a result, he took a temporary advantage, but he lost people, and his life was very unhappy.

So there is a very enlightening fable: the lion, the king of beasts, was often bullied by the beasts when he was young, and the little lion would not pay attention to them, because the little lion knew that one day when it grew up, as long as it roared, the beasts that had bullied it would be scattered. If the little lion is so young and fights with the beasts, how will he be the king of the beasts in the future? A few years later, someone asked, "Where is the lion, the king of beasts?" An old monkey said, "That lion fought with a group of monkeys when he was young, and he was worthy of being the king of beasts, and he bit several monkeys to death!" As a result, he was outnumbered and beaten to death by a group of monkeys! "What is this like? Therefore, if you think that you are a person, you must not be like the people in the grassroots society, because they are not worthy of having anything to say to you.

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