No matter how withdrawn people are, they have a few good friends, and no matter how delicate people are, it is difficult to have a few real friends, and it is precisely because of the different ways of making friends at the three levels of society that their circle of friends is also different.

High-level society is always at odds.

People in the upper echelons of society make friends, neither utilitarian nor purposeful, so they will neither pretend to cater to each other, nor pretend to be high and alienate each other, they make friends completely casually, because they know a truth: "Only true temperament can make true friends." And the interaction between the upper echelons of society is often informal, because they know that etiquette is artificially formulated, and the purpose is to divide people into high and low. As the saying goes: "There is a precedence in hearing the Tao, and there is a specialization in the art industry." "How can learning be ranked by the eldest and the youngest? How can a person's knowledge be judged by seniority? How could the high-level society use the rituals and laws formulated by these laity as a fetters for communication between friends? Therefore, making friends in high-level society, whether it is the initial encounter or uninhibited communication, it is difficult for ordinary people to understand, in fact, this is a real free and easy, this is a pure friendship, and only this kind of friendship can truly be honest and honest, so as to achieve spiritual communication. The high-level society does not care about the number of friends, only cares about the quality of friends, which is called "rather lack than abuse", so the high-level society has a very clear distinction between the concepts of "friends" and "acquaintances" at the beginning, "acquaintances" are just passable on face, and if necessary, they must make a show and follow the etiquette, but the high-level society always respects these "acquaintances", because these people are just passers-by in their lives; And only "friends" can have a heart-to-heart and a common language. Therefore, there is a saying called "There are fewer than a thousand glasses of wine for a confidant, and there is no speculation for half a sentence." The high-level society didn't even bother to say a word to those "acquaintances", because even if they looked at him more, it would be a waste of life.

The middle class has a purpose.

In fact, the middle class is the most popular person in the three social classes, but the middle class cannot make real friends, which is really a great irony for the middle class. Because the high-level society and the grass-roots society will not deliberately make friends, because the high-level society pays attention to fate, and the grass-roots society has never had the consciousness of expanding the circle of friends, only the middle-level society will deliberately know a person, because the middle-level society wants to use each other, even if it is not used at the moment, it will be used in the future.

Although this is the case, but the middle society is only made by some acquaintances, not friends at all, because the middle society makes friends with the use of each other as the starting point, even if you take a step back, it is at least based on the principle of mutual benefit, so the middle society from the beginning of contact is a naked use of the relationship, because they make friends with a purpose, so they can't make real friends, he wants to use others at the same time, others also want to use him, and as long as one of the two sides loses the value of being used, the friend relationship will end.

Grassroots society is rigid.

People in the grassroots society are the least aware of making friends, because there are few self-motivated people in the grassroots society, so their circle of friends is fixed, either they play mahjong together to kill time, or they are gossiping about others together, and they have never had the consciousness of expanding their circle of friends.

But because they have been called around for a long time, they have been called around

The psychology is often suppressed, so they want to release, and for them, the best strategy to release the pressure is to laugh at the person who seems to be worse than themselves, so once the people in the grassroots society hear that there is a friend's acquaintance who is more miserable, he will always get to know him, comfort and sympathy on the surface, but in fact, laugh at him psychologically, in order to obtain psychological balance; And some people simply omit the superficial camouflage and sneer directly at the side, this phenomenon is not surprising, because people in the grassroots society have all qualities. But the world is so strange, often really wise people will let themselves pretend to be very dull, because in this way they can really go deep into the grassroots of society, so as to further understand the society, these people may be writers, lecturers, critics, so you know why people always don't like to use their real names and use pen names, because this is more conducive to his integration into the society, understanding the society, otherwise when that person is mentioned, everyone knows that he is very famous, he is not conducive to integrating into the society. And people in the grassroots society originally went to laugh at others, but after a long time of contact, they realized how accomplished the other party was, so he made a 180-degree turn and wanted to make friends with that person. So he began to pull the relationship bluntly: if you have worked and he has worked, whether he works in the same unit or not, he will call the other party a "colleague"; If you live in the same city as him, he will call you a "fellow"; If you don't live in a city, at least in a country, then he will call you a "compatriot"; If it weren't for a nationality, he would say, "We are all earthlings".

This world is so contradictory, the more people who have no sense of making friends, but they want to have a backer to be friends all of a sudden, so there is often a saying in the grassroots society: "Rely on your parents at home, and rely on your friends when you go out." This sentence is wrong in the word "rely on", and this one word "rely on" completely changes the taste of true friendship. In fact, there are many contacts between people, naturally very familiar, ripe to a certain extent, naturally become friends, friends to help each other is also a very normal thing, this is the melon ripe, natural thing, but let this "by" word to pull out the seedlings to grow, as if the melon is not ripe to pull down the same. And the grassroots society is like this, just a few contacts, you have to make friends with each other, and even laugh at each other, but you find that the other party is much stronger than yourself, and you want to be friends with others, which is really ridiculous.

As we mentioned earlier, there is a strong speculative psychology in grassroots society. And this kind of speculative psychology is also reflected in making friends, when people in the grassroots society see that a once brilliant person is in trouble, and believe that he still has a chance to make a comeback, the grassroots society begins to be courteous to him. If that person is so poor that he can't afford to eat, a steamed bun can help him solve the problem, but the grassroots society wants to invite him to a big meal, and the best thing is to show sincerity, even the money for the treat is borrowed. This does not belong to the category of making friends at all, but is completely an investment, so when that person really makes a comeback, the grassroots society dares to ask him for a villa, a famous car, and will say to him in a hearty voice: "When you were down, I smashed the pot and sold iron to invite you to a big meal." "If the unreasonable demands of the grassroots society are not met, the grassroots society will publicize that incident everywhere and ruin the reputation of that person. Therefore, people who really have the ability, or those who have a little dream, even if they are down for a while, are far from the grassroots society, because accepting the help of the grassroots society means burying endless hidden dangers for their future development.

Therefore, the more people who don't work hard, the more they think about how to get rich overnight, and the more lazy they are

The more lazy people like to take shortcuts, the more they love to laugh at others, the more they want to make a friend who can give him great help, and the middle society is to take advantage of the whimsical characteristics of the grassroots society, which really makes the people of the grassroots society fall into a lot of tricks, and finally let the people of the grassroots society steal chickens instead of eating rice. Therefore, the crash course in all walks of life in society is very popular, and this is all a trap from the middle class to the grassroots society. I don't believe you run a training course, if the target customer is people from the grassroots society, do you dare to try without adding the word "quick"? Guaranteed to let your business fall out in the cold; But if you add the word "quick", customers will flock to you. In fact, there is only one thing in this world that can be done quickly, and that is suicide, as long as you want to die, you can do it quickly; But apart from suicide, there doesn't seem to be anything else that can be done quickly. Any industry, any technology, if you don't put in a lot of effort, it is difficult to achieve great success in time, the so-called "quick success" is just a superficial effort, but you must not talk to the people in the grassroots society about this kind of truth, because they can't listen to it, they only pay the money, fooled, only to know that they have only learned some superficial things. That's why there is a joke in this world that "three months to train a good chef, two months to train a good driver, and a month to train a good tailor". Don't say anything else, just talk about driving, a person is not a qualified driver, the real driver is driving for several years, all kinds of emergencies have been encountered, and summed up a set of improvisation strategies, barely qualified. And a raw melon who just got a driver's license from a crash course thinks he is very good at driving, which is really self-deception. That's why there is a sentence in my "Vertical and Horizontal Theory": "A slow drop of water can pierce a thousand-year-old stone." The fire is urgent, and it is difficult to destroy the roots of the grass. "If you don't have a spirit of doing things, you can't have great achievements.

As soon as the company is about to go bankrupt, it begins to release shares to the employees of the grassroots society, and pats its chest and says to the grassroots society: "We are friends, and everyone makes money!" If you buy the company's shares, you will also be shareholders in the future, and you can pay dividends! "It's not easy to use this kind of talk to deceive ghosts, but if people believe it, you know how wonderful this world is. You may ask: Don't private companies release shares? It is not impossible for private enterprises to release shares, but it is for talents, the purpose of shares is to retain talents, if you are an ordinary employee with no skills, is it worth spending so much to retain you? Therefore, there are often two signs before the collapse of private enterprises, one is desperate to buy goods on credit, and the other is desperate to release shares. If your partner is desperately buying your goods on credit, or your boss is desperately encouraging you to buy the company's shares, you have to be careful, and it may not be long before he declares bankruptcy. The so-called "bankruptcy" means that the enterprise goes bankrupt and the individual makes enough; It's a legitimate excuse for him to owe you money and not pay it back. If a company is bankrupt or not, then what does bankruptcy mean? There are very few successful people in this world who share the fruits of victory with you, but there are many failed people who pull you to back. Therefore, the more the other party buys goods, the more careful you must be, and the more you release shares, the more vigilant you must be.

So in the final analysis, people, is to keep learning, if you become the boss of a company, but only have the wisdom of the grassroots society, it is very dangerous, maybe because you do not understand the social attributes of the middle class of society and make friends carelessly, you will lose a lot of wealth at once, although you have an experience, but the price you pay is too heavy. I could have read the book and learn the things that I could understand, but I just let the facts of failure tell you, which is really not worth it.

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