First, the world is sophisticated

1. Many times, we are used to "cultivating", in fact, it is a wrong habit. Because not all "cultures" will have good results: the "cultivation" of tumors is big and kills, and the "cultivation" of good seedlings is big and the pillars. So, don't blindly "cultivate", but first evaluate the object of "training".

2. Don't try to hurt anyone, even if someone hurts you. Tolerance allows you to live calmly.

3. If you know that you are wrong, you must immediately admit your mistakes from your heart and correct them, and don't die because of face, because the result of death is often more face-saving.

4. Being forgiving and forgiving is easier said than done!

5. Don't let the anger last too long, as it's likely to hurt the innocent.

6. Don't take ourselves too seriously because most of us are ordinary people. To paraphrase a common sentence in elementary school writing: "So-and-so is very ordinary, and as soon as he walks into the sea of people, he disappears without a trace." ”

7. Put yourself in the shoes of others so that you don't be them.

8. In front of you, there are often pictures of the past. Many things, after which they have passed, can no longer be erased. Therefore, it is a blessing to be able to live simply.

9. When you are frustrated or unhappy, try not to deliberately create a sad and bleak atmosphere. Because, this will only make your bad mood worse.

10. Don't dwell on sad past, because tomorrow is what greets you, not yesterday.

11. Sometimes, reality is more terrible than imagination; Sometimes it's not. So, don't be blindly afraid of reality.

12. "When I was a child, my family was very poor, and many of my relatives didn't walk around with us. "It's not a sentence from a novel, it's something I've experienced firsthand.

13. I don't like to trouble people casually. In the same way, I don't like people bothering me when it's not urgent.

14. I consider myself a person who is resolute in doing things, but when it comes to emotions, I can't always cut through the mess quickly. So, my feelings are always failing. I know that feelings are my weakness, but there is nothing I can do about it.

15. In addition to the deeds of great men, every ordinary person can find his own shadow in different great men.

16. A colleague took his son out to eat barbecue, and his son ate happily, and his colleague was pleasing to the eye. He asked his son, "Son, is the barbecue delicious?" The son replied: It's delicious, it's delicious. The colleague then asked: Now that your father takes you to eat, what will you do when you grow up? The son replied without thinking: I will grow up, and I will take my son to eat.

17. The years have inadvertently become obsolete traces. Everything is so elusive, the past, gradually losing its color in the passage of time; The future can never be clear in the unpredictable imagination. Many people say that only reality is the most reliable, and I often think, is reality really reliable? Not really! The days of muddy reality always give people confusion.

18. The pursuit of an ideal you want, this ideal, there is an expectation of life, a vision of the future, and a plan for the spiritual world, which requires continuous efforts and struggle. Along the way, stumbling and stumbling, many times, you will lose your way and cannot find a shore to anchor. Why can you stand up and face it bravely? Not because of anything else, but because the light in my heart will always shine. The ups and downs on the road often make the lamp of hope light and dark, but it is never extinguished. In this way, he faltered on the road of life. I know that the future is still uncertain, but since there are so many hopes pinned on me, I can never say give up.

19. I'm a realistic idealist. This is caused by life experience.

20. True emotional experiences, by my standards, are very failures. This is the worst experience of my life since I became governor.

21. I don't know how others are, I always feel like I have a little monster hidden in my heart, and it will always come out to fight me from time to time.

22. The joy and meaning of life lies in the unpredictability of life, so don't think about figuring out the future through "astrological numerology". In fact, even if you use "astrological numerology", you still can't figure it out.

23. If I could, I would rather everything about me be simple, but the experience of thirty years is so complicated that this cannot be reversed.

24. Emotions are really a complex thing, every time I face emotions, I am at a loss, but I can't help but face them, and the result is often a mess.

25. Birth, old age, sickness and death are the natural laws that everyone must face, because we have emotions, so when we face all this, we will have all kinds of irrepressible touches.

26. People in the world like to say that "things are impermanent" and "human feelings are impermanent", but in fact, it is our hearts that are "impermanent". If you look at the world with a normal heart, everything is normal.

27. I remembered the teacher Hu who taught me for two and a half years, and at that time, he often scolded students with foul language and swear words. Thinking about it today, those rough language violations should be condemned by professional ethics. But in the countryside, who cares about that?

28. When I was a child, I had many evil factors in my heart. I don't need to defend myself, because no matter what, there was no distinction between good and evil at that time. Today, I don't need to be deliberate, and I feel guilty when I think of some of the events at that time.

29. In July 2009, I had the pleasure of going on a business trip to Xi'an, and my impression of Xi'an was better. At that time, jokingly, it was better to come back. Although it is a joke, in my heart, there is really such a sense of belonging. In fact, whether it was there, Xi'an or Xiamen, I was just a passerby. Perhaps, just because I am from Shaanxi, I will have this so-called sense of belonging to Xi'an. After wandering outside for too long, it becomes a kite with a broken string, and returning to the hometown is it culturally or psychologically? Perhaps, my mentality is really a little old.

30. Everything is over, and everything in the past has turned into smoke. There are no regrets, no reluctance, and no sadness. The only emotion is that it can't be forgotten in a short period of time.

31. Utter despair is not manifested as a lowest, most painful emotion, but the complete absence of any emotion.

32. You can't use the rationality of a philosopher to deal with reality or demand life, then everything will fall into nonsense.

33. Tolerance is the premise of calmness.

34. Don't think about trying to please anyone, most people are like that, please him/her ninety-nine times, once without pleasing him/her, all your efforts have turned into a cloud of smoke.

35. Don't deliberately make enemies of others.

36. There is no permanent love, only permanent marriage.

37. If you enter into emotion, you can be hurt, and it is impossible not to enter into emotion, and for that reason alone, life is complicated.

38. It's not that the emotion is over and it is detached, if it were so simple, where would there be any crazy men and women in the world. Emotions are too complicated, and as the old saying goes, the simpler the happier.

2. Cranky

1. The word end, although not derogatory, is implicitly desolate to all. Therefore, in order to wash away the bad luck brought by "ending", many people must add the word "consummation" before the end. I would like to ask, isn't "a happy ending" the end?

2. Actually, the end is not a bad thing. In the words of the philosopher: the end means another new beginning.

3. It takes a lot of courage to commit suicide. So, please don't look down on people who commit suicide.

4. Don't commit suicide out of whimsy or impulse. Because, many times, you may even lose the opportunity to regret it forever.

5. Don't scare people with suicide repeatedly, everyone has heard the story of "the wolf came" when I was a child. If no one pays attention to you, you may be bored; You can also miss - one misstep can become a thousand hatreds!

6. Although there is a specialization in the art industry, the principles are all the same. If you can't be flexible, you can probably only become a "craftsman", but not a "family".

7. The world is originally simple, but too many people like to complicate simple problems, so the world is complicated.

8. Back then, when I was in college in Hanzhong, there was no pressure, but I was worried; Now, there are so many unsatisfactory aspects, but I can calmly deal with them. "Say sorrow for the new poetry" and "But the weather is cool and autumn", Xin Qiqi will inevitably taste it.

9. People who have money and no culture, look down on people who are educated and have no money; However, he gave birth to children, and he always thought that Fa'er wanted his children to study more. I think it's about a kind of intergenerational compensation psychology.

10. Why are pop songs popular? I think one of the reasons may be that pop songs tailor an outlet for every emotion that needs to be vented. It can also be said that every emotion that needs to be vented can find an outlet in pop songs.

11. There is a movie called "The Beauty of the Country", which conveys a message to us in the context of the forcibly placed theme of war and fighting: childhood sweethearts can't compete for a one-night stand!

12. What kind of realm is "Zhuang Shengxiao Dream Butterfly"? This time I had a cold, I couldn't sleep well, I was groggy, lying in bed, I couldn't tell which was the bed and which was me. After waking up, I thought about it, and probably this was how Zhuangzi felt at that time.

13. Buddhists say that "there is no writing", why "do not establish writing", because writing is a limited expression. Because the expression of words is limited, there may be limited room for leaps of thought.

14. Why do Chinese keep saying that "rich can not be more than three generations", I think, is probably because money is not an eternal thing. What can be inherited for thousands of years must be the spirit, which is expressed through words, and words are only the carrier of spirit.

15. Don't think about performing in front of me anymore, I won't give you a stage, and I'm not interested in being your audience.

16. At the end of all this, the emotions are very complicated, and the handling of the ending is still satisfying. Didn't hurt others because of personal anger and resentment. In the process, although there were some storms, I still tried my best to calm the storms. At least, when I think about it, I won't regret or feel guilty.

17. Actually, not everyone has the kung fu of meditation, and not everyone can achieve the state of pure mind through enlightenment.

18. The end result of attachment may be darkness rather than understanding.

19. In this world, there are two kinds of people who can enter the realm of transformation: one is the supreme wisdom and the other is the supreme foolishness. The wisest know everything by heart, and there is no need to draw snakes; The foolish do not care about the state of the world, and are not disturbed by troubles.

20. In this world, there is a kind of person who is the most difficult to save: a half-understood person who is forced to see all things.

21. There are two endings for a person who thinks about life with a philosophical mind: one is to become a philosopher, and the other is to go into a madhouse.

22. Those who learn from Li Ao without Li Ao's talent and writing skills will eventually become ignorant and arrogant.

23. There are many people who are engaged in art, but they have no attainments in art, so he changed his way and first made himself very "artistic", with long hair, cross-dressing, and piercing ears...... Thought to be a label of art.

24. If the inner essence is not full, many people compensate for it by modifying the outside, which may also be a balance.

25. Speaking of this question, and thinking of the "cultivation of nobles", people say: "It takes three generations to cultivate a nobleman". I said, not necessarily, it depends on who cultivates it, if it is those "earth dogs", it will be "earth dogs" if they are cultivated for five generations.

This makes people feel a little angry, I know that I have long passed the age of angry youth, and I say this calmly, I don't envy any power and wealth.

26. The more nouveau riche you are, the more you want to make something infamous to show off your wealth. Sticking a wall with money is not a joke, it is reality, and it is a satire of ignorance.

27. Messing around outside, the messy things you eat are all invited by those "earth dogs". (It's not that I don't have a good mouth, and I don't get rid of those strange things, so I'm right; Even if it's rare, it's still right. ）

28. Anyone who deals with the official family knows that the northern official is angry, a few glasses of wine, and a few elevated words; There is no problem that cannot be solved; The officials in the south do not see the rabbit and do not scatter the eagle, drink the wine, eat the meal, and say flattering words, but it is useless, money is the real thing. From this point of view, you will know why southerners make money in business and live a prosperous life, because from officials to the people, they all understand the truth that "cash is king".

29. Northerners are more bold than southerners, which is the consensus of people in the world. Northerners serving food to Southerners will scare Southerners to death; Serving food to northerners in the south will make the northerners angry to death.

30. The horror of the world is unknown to many people, and it is good to live in a muddled way. The faint-hearted, if they know too much about the dark side of the world and don't say anything else, may be scared to death. Why do the officials of all dynasties keep singing and dancing to promote peace, in addition to paralyzing the people, perhaps, it is also for the people not to be scared to death by reality.

31. Some people say that public opinion has amplified the shady curtain of power-for-money trading. In fact, people's imagination is still very limited, standing in the big vision of history, you will find how kind the people are.

32. As long as you know the word "let go", in fact, the world is very simple, but in this world, how many people can let go.

33. These days I have been reminiscing about the past, and suddenly I feel that many things cannot be expressed in a few words.

34. These days are a bit stuffy, so to paraphrase the popular saying: I don't write words, I write loneliness......

3. Flesh and blood relatives

1. When I was young, I studied Buddhism with my grandmother. At that time, my grandmother's expectation for me was that I would go to a Buddhist college when I grew up. Before I could get into college, my grandmother died. Later, I learned that only when I am a monk can I go to the Buddhist college. Come to think of it, if my grandmother had known, she wouldn't have let me go to the Buddhist college.

2. When I was young, my mother-in-law (grandmother) told me a joke. There was a squire, who was old, and married a young and beautiful wife. Once, his wife had an affair with a young long-term worker, and the conversation between the two happened to be overheard by the squire. While the two were lingering, the young woman said to her lover, "Holding you is like holding a catfish; Holding the old man is like holding a bundle of firewood. After hearing this, the squire did not make a big fuss about it. Later, in front of his wife, the squire made a poem, the content of which is probably "catfish", "dry wood" and so on. She can say the poem word for word, but I can't remember half a word stupidly. Thinking about my age, such a story seemed inappropriate to hear. I remember that my mother-in-law was full of smiles when she finished speaking, and she said to me that this story is to persuade people: the old man should not marry the young daughter-in-law.

3. I remember when I was a child, my mother often scolded me: people often say, remember old at the age of three, why are you so unproductive, you don't have a long memory at all! Now that I think about it, I will never forget the scene when I was three years old.

Why is it said that the earliest memories are under the age of four? Because, my eldest brother is four years old, and my younger brother was born in his current home, and I still remember the scene when my younger brother was born. Because of this, the memory of the old house must be under the age of four.

At that time, my family, my parents, my sister, and I lived in the same house where my uncle would live. Due to the cramped space, there was no kitchen, and the stove was in the same room where he lived. The countrymen call it "pot and kang".

I remember when I was a child, when I offended my uncle's cousins and cousins, they would laugh at me as a "country stick" and laugh at our "pot and kang".

The memory of that time has survived to this day, and the clearest thing is the appearance of the old house - although the old house has been demolished for many years and there are no tiles left. Everything else is already blurred. For example, an uncle who was very good with my father gave me glucose powder to eat, and for example, because my mother saw my aunt quarrel with my third aunt when I was milking goats, and I went home to describe the scene, such as ...... It's all vague and unreasonable.

4. Dad's temper is very big, and he gets angry at every turn, but when he is running outside, so many people invite him to do things together. Dad often said: First, you must have ability, and second, you must be real. With these two items, you are not afraid to go all over the world.

5. Dad has been tough all his life and has never bowed his head to others. I don't have a father's toughness, but I don't bow my head to people either.

6. My father told me that there was an old man in a neighboring village who had beaten his father when he was young, and when he was old, he was in a miserable situation. Once, when his son gave him a stick, the old man burst into tears: "Son, I am your father!" His son responded: My father is also your father. My father said that this generation is not as good as the result of the generation, not fate, but the result of hearing and seeing, so the life of a person must be upright.

7. Dad said that "marrying a bad daughter-in-law will harm three generations", which makes sense. Therefore, you should be cautious when getting married.

8. When I was a child, when I didn't behave well, my mother would scold me: "Why do you teach so little!" ”。 At that time, I only knew that it was a curse, but I didn't know what it meant. Later, I found out that it was a lack of education. What my mom asked me for when I was a kid still feels very useful to this day.

9. Mom hasn't studied for a few days, but she has to be "particular" in everything she does. I don't know why my mother has so much "knowledge".

10. I grew up in my mother's tears, so I belong to tears. Although my tears were many, they were not indiscriminate—they all came from one source: moved by family affection.

11. My grandparents died early, my mother didn't go to school for a few days, and she couldn't even write her own name. I remember when I was a child, every household in the village raised pigs, and my family had a flour bran machine to help people with flour bran and flour. Every time someone comes to finish the chaff and ingredients, my mother will ask me to help her settle the account. I took out a pen and paper, and before I could make a list, my mother had already calculated it. Later, I asked my mother, how did you figure it out, and my mother told me a set of things. I sighed and said, "It's a pity, if my mother had a good time, she would definitely be able to go to college."

12. When I was born, the agricultural society had not yet dispersed, and everyone had to work in the fields. I was born in the morning. According to the work and rest time of the agricultural society, you have to work in the field as soon as the morning dawns, and you have to work for a while before it is breakfast time. At that time, my mother-in-law (grandmother) was angry with my mother and went to my aunt's house. In the morning, I finished work and went home to cook, but my father hadn't come back yet, and my mother had a stomachache and was screaming alone in the house. When the third aunt heard this, she came in and looked at it, and was shocked, and said, "You are really capable, you have a child at home alone." At that time, the third aunt and mother did not talk to the tenth wife (midwife), and the third aunt was embarrassed to invite others. Dad came back, let Dad invite, Dad was afraid that he wouldn't be invited and would lose face. I really had no choice, so I went to invite the third woman (an old man who knew a little bit of common sense about midwifery), and when I invited the third woman, I had already given birth. Heaven favors, mother and child are safe!

13. Mother's life experience is all suffering. It was this situation that made her old man aware of the world, and this naturally affected me to some extent.

14. In the interval of a business trip, I took the time to go home. Dad and Mom have lost a lot of weight, Yueyue has grown taller and lost weight.

15. Mom and Dad are old, and we are not by the side of the second elder, which is really ashamed. Worthy of being a son of man, unfilial!

16. Tutoring is very important, this is what parents have always emphasized. Recently, I read Chen Yinke's "A Brief Treatise on the Origin of the Sui and Tang Dynasties", and I can see some of the ways, one of which I understand is the inheritance of family learning.

17. A few days after my brother was born, the umbilical cord dried up, and my mother smeared it on him with vegetable oil. I asked my mother what she was doing with it, and she said that it wouldn't dry if it was oiled, and it would be softer.

18. When I was not sensible, I often bullied my younger brother.

19. Once, because my brother made a mistake, I punished him in a very cruel way, and now I often think about it, and every time I think about it, I feel numb in my back.

20. My brother and I have taken different paths, although my brother does not read as many books as I do, but there are many things about him that I admire very much.

21. Perhaps the earliest memory of the home where we live now is the birth of my younger brother. At that time, although there were two houses to live in, it was common for a family of four to live in one house and the other house to be empty. I remember one night, I woke up in my sleep and found myself and my sister on the kang in the empty house, and in the next room was my father and ten mothers (the grandmother next door who specializes in delivering babies in the village) talking, and my younger brother was probably born at that time. I remember very clearly that there were no mats on the kang in the empty house, and my sister and I slept on the "bags" that we used to store food.

22. When I called home on the weekend, my niece answered and he said, "Uncle, you can ask the teacher for a leave." I said, "What are you doing on leave?" She said, "Go home and buy me some sugar cane by the way!" I said, "Okay." I don't know when I'll be able to go home. The innocence of children is touching when they are read.

23. When I went home during the Spring Festival the year before last and returned to Xiamen after the New Year, my brother, younger siblings, and nieces sent me to a family of three. The younger brother joked: Yueyue, I went to your uncle's house, they gave you New Year's money, it's not that you won't take a hundred. They ask who taught you, and you say that your mother taught you. The niece looked at her brother, and at her brother and sister, and at me, and said, "I will say that my uncle taught me." Everyone laughed.

24. A few days ago, I called home, and my niece hurriedly ran over to pick her up and said a few words to her, she said: Uncle, you can give me a few hundred yuan. I said, "What do you want money for?" She said, "I have a wallet. I understood that she was asking for money not for anything else but to fill her purse.

Fourth, relatives and neighbors

1. The land where I was born and raised is changing day by day, and now that I have returned to my hometown, many things have become unrecognizable. Every era will have its own rural memory. Every place will have its own traces of the past. These are either from figurative images, or from perceptual words, or from serious historical records.

2. My rural memories also have many good times, many times, I want to use this weak pen in my hand to write them out, but my talent is limited, and my memory is incomplete, so I discard them day by day. It's a shame to think about!

3. The earliest memories are left in the old house. At that time, I had just broken up, and I must have been under the age of four.

4. Mom is a reasonable person, but when she meets an aunt who fights the world with two fists, she can only consider herself unlucky.

5. It is said that the aunt scolded people for three days and three nights, renovated the tricks, and did not repeat a sentence, it was really called a god.

6. In our family, my aunt can be said to be invincible all over the world: my mother-in-law (grandmother); middle to aunt and mother; Even her cousin has been poisoned by her.

7. I was timid when I was a child, and seeing my aunt was like seeing a wolf.

8. Uncle moves. My grandmother believed in Buddhism all her life and thought that moving required God to keep her safe, so she burned a lot of paper money. The aunt had a lot of opinions, saying that she was taking the money to shoot frogs.

9. The grandmother next door has delivered babies all her life, but she has never given birth herself.

10. When I was a child, my neighbor's grandfather often sat and chatted with the old people in front of the door. My son is hungry and my bowels are broken, and you are hungry and your heart is broken. Although this has some fatalistic view of karma, it is somewhat conducive to filial piety. I think so a lot.

11. The grandma next door is grandpa's sequel. The grandfather next door died a few years earlier than the grandmother, after the grandfather died, the grandmother often lost her temper with the family next door, in fact, it was not that the family treated her badly, and the desolation caused by not giving birth was the biggest pain before her death.

12. Some of the houses in our current home are still old from more than 30 years ago. Although there are no major changes, many old traces are difficult to find. I have the impression that the head gate has been renovated, but I don't remember the old door at all.

The current home was lived in by a family who was in the queue back then. Queue cutting is a unique term in China, and now many people probably don't know what queue cutting is. This is a relic of the political movement, which was eventually resolved by political means.

After the people who cut the queue left, our family moved in.

Why don't you live in an old house? One is that the place is cramped, and another important reason is because so many people are crowded in the old house, right and wrong, disputes, quarrels and even fights are endless.

The eldest son of the family who cut the queue was called "Mao Mao", and the villagers called his mother "Mao Mao's mother". A few years ago, after returning to the city, she also came back to the village, to my house, which was also her original home, to do household chores with my mother. I can't remember what they said, but what impressed me the most was "the people in this fort are very bad", they cut the queue here, orphans and widows, people in the village had xenophobia, and some boring people looked at them and bullied them.

My father had a terrible temper all his life, but he was honest and righteous, so he had a good reputation. "Maomao's mother" said that in this village, there are only a few good people, and my father is naturally one.

Back then, there were many people who wanted this house. Because the neighbors on both sides are very powerful people, no one can get in. My father didn't ask for help, didn't go out, and moved in here smoothly. I've heard that I changed my home, and I don't know if I can live here.

13. "Mao Mao" said "The people of this castle are bad", I believe. My father often scolded the people of "this castle", but my father himself, including our whole family, were people of "this castle". Both "Maomao's mother" and father have opinions about the people of "this castle", and it seems to be the same. Actually, "Mao Mao's mother" is a person who looks at "this castle" from the eyes of outsiders, because the people of "this castle" have bullied them and treated them badly, so there is some hatred in this. My father is different, he has a deep affection for the people of "this fort", born in Si, raised in Si and regardless of power, the things that my father did for his fellow villagers and neighbors proved my father's feelings for "this fort". My father is not used to some bad habits of the villagers, and he often scolds them, according to me, it is actually a kind of "angry and indisputable" care.