The words have to start from a long time ago, saying that it is "a long time ago", and it is not necessarily how far away it is from now, because as Chen Chen, as a memory, I rarely think about it anymore, so I will feel that it is something that I hate for a long time.

A while ago, there was a celebrity who, when he was in his eighties, tied the knot with a lady in her twenties and granddaughters. First, it is the influence of this celebrity; Second, everyone has mixed feelings about this grandfather's and grandson's marriage and love.

It's very influential, of course, it's easy to understand - the so-called celebrity effect! To take a very simple example, the "celebrities" burp after eating, and the demented boring reporters and the unpopular media can report for three or five months, or even a year and a half.

What about mixed feelings? It varies from person to person: young ladies and wives who yearn for fame and fortune hate that the person who climbs high is not themselves; The young men and uncles who are greedy for beauty are jealous that they are not married to a newcomer; Curious red men and green women use this matter to do all kinds of whimsical ideas; People of all kinds who talk a lot can talk about right and wrong everywhere and everywhere with this matter......

The sensational effect of this grandfather and grandson's marriage is really a bit dizzying. As for the impact of this incident on that day, looking back today, it seems that it is not too much to say that it was a "national uproar".

At that time, when I talked about it with my friends, I was generally calm. I think that all living beings are equal, everyone has their own way of doing things, and everyone has their own attitude towards life, just as everyone has their own face and heart, and we can't force others to be like me and their hearts to be like me; In the same way, we don't have to be asked to do the same. As long as others do not violate morality, do not touch the law, do not harm others, do not harm themselves, what kind of lifestyle they choose, what kind of life partner they choose, we can reserve our own opinions, but, first of all, we must respect them and respect their right to live.

For the combination of grandparents and grandchildren, as bystanders, the most we can do is to comment on the points, discuss and discuss. As ordinary people, even if we have many hidden complex emotions in our hearts, we just talk about it, laugh out loud, and everything will pass away with the wind. After today, who will remember tomorrow?

Although newspaper articles, or verbal criticism, or singing and singing about this matter, have since left traces on paper, but because this is a trivial matter in the long river of history, it will inevitably be inaccessible to the tempering of the years, and finally indifferent and traceless.

The reason why I still remember this incident and mention it to this day is because after all, this incident has remained in my memory, and it did cause fluctuations in my thoughts and affect my thinking about the emotions of life at that time.

To summarize my thoughts on this matter, it is nothing more than the following:

First, this matter is a private matter of the grandfather and grandson, as long as they are satisfied, others have no right to blame (can be commented), the man has no wife, the woman has no husband, does not violate the law, does not exceed human morality, marriage and love are completely their personal freedom.

second, if the grandchildren of the women run towards the celebrity halo of the grandparents, the women are a little despised; If the previous guess is true, and the man does not see the woman's true intentions towards him, then the man has also lost his reputation for a lifetime.

Third, as far as my shallow understanding of this marriage is concerned, I am not very optimistic about its ending. However, I still respect their union.

In addition to my opinion, other people's opinions on this matter, briefly summarized, there are about two kinds, one is ridicule, and the other is invective. There are very few who can really look at it with peace of mind. This is not surprising, it is very much in line with the national situation.

Among the others, there is also a strange man. She is the most radical of all the people I have come into contact with about grandparents and grandchildren. At that time, calculating her age, she was probably four or five years younger than the heroine of her grandson's marriage. She kept sighing, sighing that she was not blessed, that she had no fate, that she was not lucky, that she was not lucky...... This implication naturally understands: she hates to replace the heroine of her grandson's marriage and love.

This strange man claims to be a person who puts love first. I don't know, he didn't see the man in his grandfather's marriage, she didn't even know other people's habits and preferences, she didn't even know other people's attitudes towards marriage and love, why did she think about marrying someone? I don't know how her love supremacy is reflected in this rash desire to marry?

Later, after careful observation, I found out that this strange person's so-called love supremacy is just a self-centered "love first", and her yearning for the male protagonist of her grandson's marriage and love is just the selfishness of coveting the "halo".

My friends and I once inadvertently talked about the love marriages of so-called great people. Talking about the women in the marriage of the great man. I sighed at the time:

How great are these women, who have dedicated their lives to the men they love, silently supporting their careers behind the men.

The strange man spoke:

What's that? If my boyfriend or husband were as great as they were, I would be willing to dedicate my life to silently supporting him, but are they worth it?

After hearing this at the time, I thought that this strange man made a lot of sense. Oh, yes! Are they worth it?

Later, the more I thought about it, the more I felt that something was wrong with the strange man's words.

Don't? Are only great men worthy of their wives' support for them?

Should ordinary people be ridiculed, ridiculed, and betrayed by their girlfriends or wives?

Through the study of the experience of strange people, I finally found that the so-called "dedication of my life" of strange people has conditions attached. That is: the person who is her boyfriend or husband must have an "aura", and if she can't see the "aura", she will never give, and she will feel that the effort is not worth it. From this point of view, the love of strange people is nothing but money and power.

Acquaintances between people are very accidental. Love, marriage, and too many accidents. It's accidental, it's not chaos, it's not that there's no choice. Everyone makes a choice after making a judgment, and then enters into love and marriage.

Since each other has chosen each other seriously, it should be treated and cherished carefully, and not to dislike his or her appearance, accuse him or her of poverty, and find fault with his or her knowledge after the relationship has been established...... Don't be nitpicking! Because in this era of freedom of marriage and love, everyone enters love and marriage without too much external intervention and without coercion. It stands to reason that in such a love and marriage, everything done by both parties should be "worthwhile", and this "worthiness" should not be denied because of breakup or divorce.

The main reason why she denied the statement that the strange person was "not worthy" was that she had preset conditions for marriage. That is:

If you were a great man, I could have been kind to you, helpful to you, and giving, but you are just you, ordinary you, so you are not worth it.

What absurd logic this is.

First of all, let me ask: how many great people are there in this world? Aren't we all ordinary people?

If ordinary people's girlfriends or wives act according to the logic of strange people, won't society be chaotic?

Besides, do you know that your lover will not make a difference in the future?

What should you do if your lover is successful?

Do you want to be like the legendary Mrs. Ma of Jiang Ziya, who hanged himself after Jiang Shang paid homage to him?