Someone has said to me more than once: People are hedgehogs, you can't get too close, and when you get close, the thorns on your body may hurt each other. The person who said this also emphasized: Even husbands and wives are no exception.

I don't think much of that man's words and opinions. Although I also believe that it is necessary to keep a certain distance between people, as a husband and wife living together, it is also necessary to do this, and it will be very difficult to come; Second, it seems very difficult to keep a distance from each other every day when you face each other and share the same bed. Based on the above thoughts, I think that person's statement is a bit unreasonable.

Some people always like to find all kinds of "theories" to annotate their right or wrong way of life and attitude towards life, and they often excite loudly: Didn't so-and-so experts and celebrities say it...... How, how...... For such people, probably all we can do is be silent. Everyone has their own way of life, and we can't and don't have to force everyone to agree with us.

I've never believed in the so-called "hedgehog theory", especially when it comes to how couples get along. Husbands and wives who exist in name only are not on the list, so they don't need to be left alone. As long as there is affection, the so-called "hedgehog theory" cannot be used to talk about things.

"Everyone is an island," Kutcher said.

Because of this, people feel lonely. So, in a person's life, one must look for the other half. Perhaps, this other half will not completely eliminate a person's loneliness, but after a long night, a difficult life, and someone around you, the soul will get some comfort. Although this solace is not enough to detach oneself, it is the only way that most people choose.

This is an emotional explanation. Of course, there are also social reasons for the union of man and woman, and a series of other complex reasons. It is not discussed in this article, so I will not repeat it here.

I also believe that people sometimes resemble hedgehogs. In fact, the husband and wife are the two hedgehogs in the wilderness who are shivering from the cold, with no relatives and no help, in order to keep warm. But here's the problem, because everyone has different backgrounds, different personalities, different growth backgrounds, and different living habits, this kind of difference is like the thorns on a hedgehog's body, so two people are together, about like two hedgehogs together: when they are close to each other, they will prick and hurt; If you don't get in, you will be far away, and it will be cold and cold.

If the husband and wife are really like hedgehogs, are they just like that, they will either die of pain or freeze to death?

The "hedgehog theory" mentioned above has never been identified with by that person. Monofilament, for the differences between people, and the conflicts and contradictions caused by differences, this is real, and I agree. Based on this, when it comes to the so-called "hedgehog theory", I am a little confused, because even I can't think of a good solution to the problem of pain and cold at the same time.

Fortunately, people are not hedgehogs, people are people after all. People can always come up with a way or a trick to deal with everything and solve a problem.

In the TV series "Halfway Couple", Jiang Jianping's mother said: Only each hedgehog has half of the thorns cut off, so that when they are close together, they will not be pricked, nor will they be cold, but you must endure the pain of stabbing them.

What a word to wake up a dreamer!

Life is so simple, and it won't be too difficult for husband and wife to get along, it depends on whether you are willing to ninja your own "pain" to get each other's "warmth".

Yes, the way to get along is to have the sacrificial spirit of "cutting thorns", so that we can be harmonious. If, all you know is that you are cold, you are always afraid that you will hurt, and you ask the other person to cut off half of the thorns, then you will eventually freeze to death. Think about it, compare your heart to your heart, when you let the other party cut half of the thorns, the other party may readily agree, every time you feel cold, you lean towards the other party's side, the first time, the other party hurts, endure it, the second time, the third time...... Year, month, day...... People's hearts are made of flesh, but what would happen to you if it were you?

If you want to sharpen the thorns, you will cut them, and the pain will only be for a while, and in exchange for it, it may be eternal happiness.

People, it is not easy to walk in this world, it is not easy for two people to come together, and it is even more difficult to go together for a lifetime. Two people living together, where will there be no bumps? The teeth are so close to the tongue that sometimes the teeth bite the tongue accidentally.

Everything is fair and equal, and everyone has to cut the thorn, and if you don't cut either, you can't cut one, and you can't cut one without cutting the other.