Chapter 165: Filial Piety and Marriage
"Didn't you just send some food to Gangzi?"
Du Jun remembers very well that this matter was discussed not long ago, why did he bring it up again today.
"I guess, my mother is worried that Gangzi won't be able to eat at all, don't you know who our father is? As long as the milk wants to be eaten, it will definitely be sent to the upper room", Zhao Yan also said her guess.
"Eldest sister, I have also discussed it with my second sister, but I can't think of a good way to think about it, you are so smart, you must be able to solve this problem!"
Zhao Xiu's eyes blinked, and she looked admiring.
"What can I do, you two don't know how stiff my relationship with that family is, if I intervene easily, it will be worse than now", Du Jun sighed and said helplessly.
Going around and around, it seems to be back to where it was.
Du Jun's words were also true, and the faces of the two younger sisters collapsed in an instant.
It's not that I can't guess the thoughts of the two sisters, that is, I want her to take a step back, but if she takes this step, what about the next, is it necessary to step back.
The two final plans, one is that the Zheng family often goes back to take care of the young son, after a long time, it is very likely that he will continue to live with that "father", Du Jun has been pessimistic about this problem, if the Zheng family agrees, Du Jun will not be this bad guy.
Another plan is to take Zhao Gang, a young child, and most of the "father" will come with him, when the time comes, how to face that father, how to arrange it on the farm, call him master, and give him a good day?
Du Jun asked herself if she could do it, her personality was already clear about good and evil, and she couldn't look down on the foolish and filial "father" who would only be in the nest, and she had no love for her wife and children, and to put it bluntly, she was selfish.
Taking a step back, just because he is a "father", no matter what he has done, as a child, he must forgive and be filial?
Is this a kind of moral kidnapping!
The atmosphere was a little solemn and silent for a while, and Zhao Xiu, who mentioned this issue, also secretly regretted it.
But what Mr. said, "the son wants to raise but the parent is not there", "the son is not ugly to the mother, and the son is not to be poor" is also very reasonable, what should I do?
It started with her, and in the end, it was she who changed the subject.
"Eldest sister, I just said it casually, don't take it to heart, our sisters are just guessing, and I don't know what my mother thinks."
Relying on the youngest, Zhao Xiu took Du Jun's hand and was coquettish and cute, and finally covered up this matter.
Then he raised a question that made Du Jun feel incredible.
"Eldest sister, my mother asked me to follow the second sister to start preparing the dowry, and said that I would show the second sister my in-laws after the New Year."
Du Jun looked at the second sister Zhao Yan for verification, Zhao Yan blushed and nodded yes.
It seems that this thing is true.
In this era, women are married at the age of fifteen, and since they can't be reversed, let's tell them what marriage is.
Although the time of marriage is short, it can't stand what we have seen in modern times, and it is absolutely crushing in theory.
Du Jun rubbed his abrupt temples in resignation, and said with a wry smile: "Say, then what are the plans of the two of you." ”
"I'm still young, don't worry, you let the second sister say it first."
Zhao Xiu threw this hot potato on Zhao Yan's head with a change of hand, and grinned.
Zhao Yan glared at the third sister fiercely, and Zhao Xiu stuck out her tongue mischievously, not caring at all.
Her two sisters have been very good to her since she was a child, and they don't care about Zhao Yan's threat at all.
"Marriage can be said to be a woman's second reincarnation, the first time we can't choose, but the second time we must be cautious."
Du Jun looked at Zhao Yan and began to induce him earnestly, only when he understood the second sister's thoughts, could he prescribe the right medicine.
"Eldest sister, what you said is so reasonable, I want to write it down and show it to my mother, and see if my mother dares to let me find my mother-in-law's family in the future", Zhao Xiu said exaggeratedly on the side.
"The children's family, go aside, don't affect your second sister."
flew a white eye to the third sister, Du Jun then looked at Zhao Yan with encouraging eyes.
Zhao Yan blushed shyly, pinched the corners of her clothes, and shouted tactfully, "Sister! He turned his back to Du Jun.
It's really not ashamed, and the girl is embarrassed to say what she wants.
Men and women marry, only since ancient times, it has been matchmakers, parents are in charge, and they obey themselves.
Can..... Why?
There is a feeling called unwillingness, lingering in the mind, lingering?
"It's all our own sisters, it's not a shame to say it, and we won't tell outsiders, besides, your brother-in-law and I will also help you consult, don't have any crooked melons and cracked dates, you can marry our virtuous, virtuous, shrewd and capable second sister, isn't it, Zhao Xiu, what the eldest sister said is right?"
"Yes, what the eldest sister said is right, we all know that a matchmaker can turn a person into a flower with a mouth, and he can also step on it into mud, and he can't believe it at all."
The two sisters persuaded each other, and Zhao Yan's heart gradually collapsed.
After a cup of tea, Du Jun and Zhao Xiu said that their mouths were dry, and they were even ready to give up.
Zhao Yancai opened her mouth with a twist, and her mosquito-like voice sounded, "I..... I'm looking for ...... Brother-in-law like that? ”
Du Jun pushed Zhao Yan's head hard, crying and laughing, "Look at your little bit of talent, just such a sentence will suffocate me and the third sister." ”
"Yes, second sister, you have to give me money for tea, my throat is smoking", Zhao Xiu said coquettishly on the side.
Zhao Yan's face was even hotter, her head was lower, and she couldn't speak no matter how much she persuaded her.
was ashamed to death, and actually put forward conditions in front of the eldest sister and Xiu'er, as if he wanted to get married.
But the words have been spoken, and it is impossible to take it back, and in addition to being shy, there is also a faint expectation, I don't know if my sister will laugh at her.
My sister and wife are very good, take good care of my eldest sister, and treat people kindly, such a husband is what she wants.
"Of course your brother-in-law is fine, otherwise your sister wouldn't have married him."
Thinking of the "silly boy" at home, Du Jun smiled unconsciously.
Come back to your senses, organize your thoughts, and organize your language.
Du Jun said to Zhao Yan slowly: "Your brother-in-law is good, but he is not perfect, and he also has his troubles, such as his family background. ”
Seeing the two of them listening carefully, Du Jun continued: "To choose a husband, you must first understand your temperament and temperament, don't be ambitious, and don't be arrogant, and recognize your identity and status. ”
"I've summarized a few aspects that you can both learn from"
"One, men should be responsible..."
"Sister, what is responsibility?"
The train of thought was suddenly interrupted by Zhao Xiu, and with a blank look at her, Du Jun explained in the current language as much as possible: "The sense of responsibility is that if he marries you, he must be good to you, to the children in the future, and to your little family." ”
"Second, you must have the ability to earn money to support your family and the ability to support your wife and children....."
"Third, you must have a good character, you can't look down on women, and you can't beat women....."
"Fourth, be filial, but not be foolish, listen to your father's ..... everything"
……
"Fifteen, the most important point is to like each other......"
In total, Du Jun summarized fifteen points, and after finishing speaking, he found that the two of them were even more confused.
Why is it so troublesome to get married, not only should this husband be good, but also observe the conduct of the in-laws, don't meet the eccentric mother-in-law that the eldest sister said, the best sister-in-law.
And that "Voldedemon", I don't know how the eldest sister came up with it, "Voldedemon"! Hee-hee, it's so vivid.....
"Eldest sister, how do I feel that the kind of man you are talking about, there is no one in the Great Xia Dynasty!" Zhao Xiu lay on the bed and said dejectedly.
Du Jun also realized this, and what she said was a little too much, but as soon as the topic was opened, she couldn't hold it at all, so she wanted to instill what she knew, saw, and thought to her sister, for fear that her sisters would suffer if they were inexperienced.
Slightly embarrassed, he said: "What I'm talking about is a big framework, but specific people have to be analyzed specifically to know if they are the right person for you." ”
"I ask you one more weak question, you ...... That one...... Is it coming? ”
"What's this...... That's? ”
Zhao Xiu looked ignorant and asked quickly.
And Zhao Yan looked at Du Jun's playful face, and instantly understood, her face was brushed, like a steamed prawn.
"Eldest sister, you ...... How dare you say anything!? ”
"What is this, you have to go through this experience, come here, I'll tell you about it again......"
"Big sister!"
"Haha...... Someone is shy! ”
In another room, Zheng wiped the needle in his hair and continued to make the children's clothes in his hand.
Hearing the laughter and laughter from next door, he couldn't help but raise the corners of his mouth, and sighed in his heart, the relationship between the three sisters is really good, and in a blink of an instant, he thought of the young child who was still in the old house of the Zhao family, and his eyes dimmed again.
"Hey!"