Chen Laixiang almost killed her because of yesterday's pain, so her body has not fully recovered, and today she sat in the car for so long, and when she arrived at the hospital and learned that she was terminally ill, she was hit hard, and she accompanied Xiangyi for so long at night, so after coming back from Yucai School, she was exhausted, originally she still wanted to chat with Yang Qianfeng, but Yang Qianfeng knew that she was too tired, so he coaxed her to bed, after Chen Laixiang went to bed, Yang Qianfeng was like she coaxed Xiangyi to sleep when she was a child, While gently patting and humming a lullaby on her, after a while, Chen Laixiang fell asleep with a smile.........

Chen Laixiang fell asleep for a while, and a nurse in her thirties came to make rounds, she saw that Chen Laixiang was sleeping quietly and there was nothing abnormal, so she stepped forward and touched her forehead.

Yang Qianfeng immediately said: "She does not have a fever. ”

The nurse smiled and said, "Let's take my temperature!" ”

Yang Qianfeng immediately took the thermometer from her hand and put it under Chen Laixiang's armpit, and the nurse said, "I'll come back in five minutes." ”

Five minutes later, the nurse came in again, took out the thermometer, looked at it, and said, "36 degrees 5, normal." Saying that, she habitually shook the thermometer on her hand and continued: "My surname is Yang, I am on duty at night, and I am called for something." With that, he prepared to leave the ward.

Yang Qianfeng stopped her and whispered, "Nurse Yang, Specialist Shen told me that the facility treatment plan will start tomorrow, with your experience, will the patient be very painful during the treatment process?" ”

Nurse Yang turned around and said, "There are some things I originally wanted to explain to you after the treatment plan is arranged, but since you asked, I will tell you about it!" ”

Yang Qianfeng immediately put a square stool in front of her and said, "Please sit down and speak." ”

Nurse Yang smiled and said, "Your lover is asleep, let's go outside and talk about it!" ”

Yang Qianfeng followed her to the outside of the ward, and Nurse Yang said: "Specialist Shen is the best oncologist in our provincial hospital, and he is also the head of our oncology specialty, and he is also very famous in the country. Expert Shen attaches great importance to your lover's illness, and has contacted outside experts for her condition, and will jointly give your lover a consultation tomorrow, and then implement the treatment plan after the consultation. Nurse Yang looked at the ward and continued: "Although your lover looks very good now, Expert Shen told us that in the near future, maybe tomorrow, her body will react, that is, labor pain, so treatment as soon as possible is the key." After the onset of the disease, the patient must be very painful, even the implementation of the treatment plan can not be completely avoided, but this is not the main thing, the main thing is her spirit, according to our long-term experience in nursing work, as a family member, first of all, we must have this psychological preparation, with us to do a good job of emotional companionship of the patient. ”

Yang Qianfeng heard the word emotional companionship for the first time and asked: "Emotional companionship?" ”

Nurse Yang nodded and said, "Yes, emotional escort." That's what I'm about to say to you. After a patient is diagnosed with cancer, there are often psychological changes, and in general, there are five stages of psychological changes in patients.

The first stage is the patient's nervousness and anxiety. Anyone diagnosed with cancer is undoubtedly a blow to the head, feeling frightened, frightened, nervous and anxious. In severe cases, they will be restless and lose sleep and food. From the point of view of the defense mechanism of psychology, this mental process has both advantages and disadvantages. When a person's life is threatened or distressed, anxiety is a good warning sign to respond accordingly to the threat or pain they are facing. However, long-term and severe anxiety can cause endocrine dysfunction, which in turn destroys the natural defense system. At this time, tension and anxiety will no longer play a protective role in the survival of the person, but will become a disease, so it will affect the treatment of cancer. I haven't seen your lover sleep so soundly, and it seems that her heart is very strong.

The second stage is when the patient's mindset moves from denial to recognition. When many cancer patients learn that they have cancer, they often deny this mental process to cope with the sudden influx of bad news. Denial acts as a buffer to soften the impact of bad news, while also calming the patient's mind so that they can prepare psychologically and physically for contingencies. Your lover is very strong, and there is no psychological process of denial, I think she has basically accepted and recognized this fact, as long as the psychology does not recur, she should be able to cooperate with the doctor and actively participate in various treatments.

The third stage is grievance and resentment. As far as your lover is concerned, you will definitely think that you are so young but you are about to come to the end of your life, you will definitely think that you still have many unfulfilled ideals, you will think that your parents and children still need your own care, and that your loving life is coming to an end, etc., you must feel very painful, especially when you see others enjoying the joy of family life carefree while you are locked up in the ward, in addition to doing various laboratory tests, you have to give endless injections, Taking pills, etc., all of this will make her feel aggrieved, jealous, angry, and resentful. Therefore, at this stage, your lover may feel that many things are not pleasant, so she may lose her temper involuntarily regardless of whether it is a big or small thing. Therefore, you should pay attention to her from now on, try to let her control her emotions, so that she does not damage her defense function after she has these emotions, and once there is such a situation, you have to understand her more, of course, we do the same for nursing work.

The fourth stage is the patient's disappointment and struggle. After the implementation of the treatment plan, there are many uncertain situations, such as: pain and torture for a long time; After the implementation of the program, the efficacy was not significant, and the disease fluctuated. These can often lead to feelings of discouragement, physical weakness, and the impact on loved ones, resulting in feelings of guilt, disappointment, depression, frustration and loneliness. In addition, many patients are often touched by feelings: when they think of the family they have worked so hard to build, they are full of infinite nostalgia for their past lives, and they see their relatives being considerate and caring for themselves in every way, etc., and these emotions make patients sometimes have the courage to fight the pain, and sometimes they struggle in despair. Despair and struggle are serious psychological reactions for cancer patients, and your loved one may be no exception, so we need to work together to help her get rid of this mentality.

The fifth stage is the patient's distress and acceptance of death. It's cruel to say, but here we have to face reality. Many patients come to us and are haunted by the constant bothering of death. Everyone's attitude towards death is different. When some people think that they have this disease, they feel that they will leave this beautiful world and never see their relatives again, and the tragic scene of life and death will be presented in front of them, and their hearts will be filled with infinite melancholy, panic and sadness when they think of themselves going to death alone. Some patients think that they have lost the battle of life and death, and can only accept death, no longer struggle, no longer have any hope, and completely obey the facts in front of them. There are also people who accept the advice and comfort of doctors, relatives and friends, climb out of the abyss of despair and despair, love their limited life again, no longer complain about others, give up on themselves, no longer fear death, and accept the doctor's treatment with a calm mood, hoping to obtain miraculous results.

In general, under normal circumstances, the five stages I talked about will happen in the hearts of cancer patients, and I don't know if you understand it when I talk so much in one breath? ”

Yang Qianfeng nodded and said, "Thank you for telling me so much, otherwise I wouldn't have understood that there would be so many changes in the patient's mind." ”

"No thanks, it's our job to do this with every patient's family." Nurse Yang continued, "Emotional companionship, in our case, refers to providing emotional counseling and psychological help to patients. As a family member, we should focus on two aspects:

1. Help your loved one overcome their fears. First of all, we should actively cooperate with the treatment, but we should not pin all our hopes on the treatment, and we should fully mobilize our own energy to curb the cancer. Second, both you and we need to understand and tolerate your lover's emotional needs and mood swings. Third, try to help your loved one not to imagine the end result of the disease in the worst case. If she always thinks like this, she may give up on herself, and in that case, it will exacerbate the deterioration of her physical condition. Fourth, your lover's illness is actually very serious, and recurrence and labor pains will definitely occur, but you should help her summarize, especially the changes in her life and emotions, whether there is any difference from the past, which is helpful to find the cause of the recurrence, and also to help her adjust her beliefs and change her lifestyle.

Second, it is how to enlighten your lover. First, venting and comforting: take the initiative to warm your lover. Especially if you are nursing with us, you must be by your lover's side, listen to her anxiety in her heart, and show her understanding, so as to eliminate her loneliness and let her realize that she is not suffering in isolation. At the same time, give comfort, comfort should be just right, cancer is a difficult disease, comfort should not only emphasize the promising aspects, but also help her analyze the recurrence of pain, the analysis of the recurrence of pain is mainly up to us, your focus is to accompany your lover to talk more about topics other than the disease, to divert her attention. Second, we still have our methods to enlighten your lover, such as: suggestion therapy. Suggestion therapy refers to a method in which the therapist uses an implicit and indirect way to have an effect on a person's psychology and behavior. That is, to use the authority of Specialist Shen and our nursing staff to make your lover accept the concept of Specialist Shen and us, so as to relieve the psychological pressure and burden, so that the symptoms can be reduced. Third, this is also what I am most reluctant to talk about every time I publicize with the patient's family, but I have to talk about it. It's unlikely that your lover will be cured. However, a stable mood, a good mood, and mental relaxation can all increase her tolerance to pain. You know your lover best, so you and we also have a task to help her correctly understand the natural laws of birth, old age, sickness and death, and understand that the true value of life lies in quality, so as to help her get rid of the fear and anxiety of death and face death calmly. Fourth, you and your family must care, help and support your lover, so that she can accept treatment and face the reality easily and happily, and the psychological state of your family will have different degrees of influence on your lover, especially you, you must have a stable psychological state. In addition, we allow other people in your family to visit your lover at any time, but cooperate with us to take care of your lover's psychological care and reduce her psychological pressure. Speaking of this, she smiled and said: "I have said everything that should be said to you, I hope my words will be helpful to you, and we will work together to do a good job of your lover's emotional companionship in the future." ”

Yang Qianfeng said gratefully: "Thank you, Nurse Yang, I will carefully digest and appreciate every word you say." ”

After Nurse Yang left, Yang Qianfeng returned to the ward with heavy steps, looked at the sleeping Chen Laixiang, sat down beside her weakly, looked at her, he really wanted to cry, he really wanted to shout: "Oh my God! Why are you so cruel to take my most beloved away from me! ”

But he didn't cry or scream, he knew that he should be calm and should be by his dearest Ah Xiang......