122. Bear your last name
Zhou Yu looked at me in a daze, didn't speak for a long time, and when he spoke, he said, "You have become the same person you were back then." ”
I frowned slightly, what was he talking about?
"When I first met you, you always had such a straight face, with only a deep coldness in your eyes, and a businesslike attitude towards anyone and everything, including me. That's why I say you're sophisticated, and I say you're utilitarian, because you've become like the Jia Xiaoru I know. Later, slowly there was warmth in your eyes, and there was softness behind the toughness, you would secretly find a kid surnamed Zhang for Li You, and you would stay up all night looking for surveillance videos for me. The more I came later, the more relieved I became, thinking that I had finally warmed your heart, how do you know that from warm to cold, it only takes one step. ”
The state of mind at this time is indescribable, and he really told me about my mental journey along the way.
Although he received the marriage certificate under impulse at first, his heart was cold, and only a faint small flame was flickering. Because after four years, everything about him is both familiar and unfamiliar to me, and I can't open my heart to him.
Later, there was friction and warmth in the collision of life, and gradually I regained my old feelings, and my heart began to become softer. Even though I often argued with him, I could see from the incident the integrity and sense of justice that I initially admired.
Disagreeing with his values and appreciating him as a person are not in conflict.
For example, he is particularly enthusiastic about Li You, I would admonish him to be warm-hearted, but in my heart I approve of his actions.
Xiao Dong said that he and I are the most suitable, we have the same values and concepts, our personalities are similar, and there will be no friction in our work. At the time, I thought it made sense, but now I think it's not.
That kind of life is too boring and spotless. There needs to be friction between two people to collide with sparks, even if there is an occasional quarrel, as long as it does not hurt, it is the spice of married life.
If Zhou Yu and I are the only ones along the way, then I have faith that I can smooth out his impetuousness, and he can also warm my heart. But it's impossible, no marriage is only two people, and the many relationships around you, from relatives to friends, are the chain reaction that marriage brings to each other.
We were silent for a long time, sitting on each other's couches in deep thought. When I raised my head, I saw that Zhou Yu was still looking lonely with his eyes down, and the gauze on his forehead was faintly red.
frowned, is the wound cracked? Thinking about his original finger injury, he always healed and cracked and tossed over and over again, so he didn't think his injury was like me.
"Jia Xiaoru, when was your first prenatal checkup?" Zhou Yu suddenly spoke.
I was stunned, but still responded: "It's just these two days." ”
Only then did he raise his head, his dark eyes were clear, but his eyes were firm: "I don't agree to give up the custody of the child." ”
My heart sank, I narrowed my eyes slightly, he had been thinking about it for so long just thinking about competing with me for this child?
But his next sentence was: "I won't come to rob you." ”
I don't understand this, what does he mean?
Zhou Yu said: "Everything about the baby's future, from his every life plan to your every prenatal checkup, I will participate." The baby is the crystallization of you and me, and it is owned in our marriage, and I believe that you know the legal effect better than me, and I have the right to participate in this. ”
I looked at him, gritted my teeth, and said, "I won't remarry you because of the child." ”
If he has this idea, then I will strangle this seedling in the cradle first.
But he said: "I don't want to remarry you, I just tell you that I will participate in the whole process of raising the child, just start with your first prenatal checkup, and then I will ask for leave to accompany you." ”
Unable to figure out his path, I frowned and looked at him for a moment, "What the hell are you going to do?" ”
I can't just mess with it, I have to get a clear answer.
He said: "I have already told you my plan, and I will accompany you every time you have a prenatal checkup in the future." ”
I shook my head and said: "I don't mean these, the baby is born to apply for a birth permit, take a name, and after birth, you have to get a household registration, these things seem quite far, but in fact they are very close." Pregnancy in October is just a general statement, the child will be full-term at almost 40 weeks, I don't want to wait until the future to make trouble with you, so I still talked about everything in advance. ”
This time, Zhou Yu was very straightforward, and only asked me: "Will you let the child take your surname when he is born?" ”
I didn't think much about it, I just thought about custody. I shook my head when I thought about it, it shouldn't be, and Zhou Yu is a certificate obtained through normal procedures, and the baby I gave birth to is naturally with my father's surname. Even if my mother has an opinion, I can persuade her.
So I said, "No, your last name." ”
I don't know if it's my delusion, Zhou Yu seems to be relieved. I don't mind, men care that these are normal reactions.
Then I heard him say: "That's okay, the child is with my surname, and the household registration is under your name, as for the child's name, we will discuss and think about it before deciding, and tell me anything else you feel uncertain about." ”
He is the director of the police station, and his knowledge of hukou is stronger than my consciousness, and he went to move my hukou with him after he got the certificate. Then this divorce, no one had the heart to think about this, so it has been delayed until now.
Since the issue of the child's household registration has been brought to the case, I groaned and said: "I will go to the hospital tomorrow for a prenatal examination, and when the prenatal examination is completed, your police station will move my household registration out first, and it will be easier for the child to register in the future." In addition, since you have decided not to fight with me for custody of the child, then draft and sign the agreement so that you or your family will not have any disputes with me in the future. ”
This belongs to the lawyer's self-awareness, and everything is based on legal effect, so as not to have disputes in the future. I don't want to go to court with him one day because of the child's affairs, it's too ugly, and it will wipe out all that friendship.
Zhou Yu was silent for a moment before nodding: "Okay, I'll pick you up tomorrow." As for the agreement, let me write it, and you will look at it later. ”
I was stunned, I'm a lawyer, shouldn't I be the one to draft the agreement? But since he readily agreed, I had no reason to bother him with that.
It seems that everything that needs to be talked about here is over, and it is much smoother than I expected. Except for the beginning when he rushed to Xingshi to ask for the guilt, he behaved sensibly and communicated in the future. It seems that since the divorce, he has become much more mature than before, in fact, who is not, he has more life experience after experiencing one thing, how can he stay in the same place.
I got up and said to the man who was still sitting on the sofa: "Then let's stop here today, you come a little earlier tomorrow, maybe the hospital will have to queue up." Also, don't forget to bring the household registration book. ”
After going through the divorce procedures last time, it was he who put away the household registration book, which should be at his house.
He also heard my eviction order, got up with a sneering expression, took two steps and turned his head, "It's so late, can't you let me spend the night on the sofa?" ”
The clock on the wall was already pointing to eleven o'clock in the evening, and it was dark outside the window, but I shook my head at him: "No." ”
He still wanted to encourage me: "I also slept on this sofa before, it won't affect you." ”
I said, "This time and that time, no." ”
He slept on the sofa before we divorced, and no one lived under the same roof after the divorce. I know him, give him a piece of eaves to tear off your tiles, give him a piece of cloth to open a dyeing workshop, this time I relented and retreated, then he will have to inch in, and will ask for more in the future.
In the end, Zhou Yu left lonely under my gaze, I wanted to remind him to go back to the hospital to re-bandage his head, but after thinking about it, forget it. Now that the line has been drawn, let's not get too involved.
Zhou Yu came early the next morning, and I was walking out of the bedroom with sleepy eyes, when I heard the sound of the door and he walked in.
When he saw me, he asked naturally, "Up?" Hurry up and wash up and we'll go out, I've already registered a number before coming, and I shouldn't have to queue up when I get there. Also, you can't eat breakfast, we'll buy it outside when you're done. ”
I couldn't help but wonder, how did he know that he couldn't eat breakfast before the prenatal checkup?
On the way out, I heard him say that he didn't sleep when he went back last night, so he took a notebook and looked at it in bed for a night, and typed all the things to pay attention to in the memo on his mobile phone.
I subconsciously glanced at his trench coat pocket, and for a moment I wanted to take out his phone to see if it was true, and then what did he record? Even I didn't think to do my homework so carefully.
The first time I had a prenatal checkup, I was actually nervous.
Zhou Yu registered early, and when we arrived, there was only one pregnant woman waiting in front of us. It was Zhou Yu who took the number to ask the nurse in front of the doctor's office first, and after a while he came to call me, and the nurse took us to another department first, and told the doctor inside that we wanted to build a card.
I have checked this on the Internet, and when I am 12 weeks pregnant, I will build a "Maternal Health Care Handbook", which belongs to the file of prenatal examination, and it is said that it will be used for every prenatal examination in the future. After filling in the relevant items, the doctor asked us to take the health care manual to the prenatal doctor, and it happened to be my turn, Zhou Yu was stopped outside the door and could not enter, so I had to push the door alone.
But I couldn't help but be stunned.
In addition to a desk, there are two small beds in the doctor's office, on which two pregnant women lie on each other, and a device is connected to their stomachs to monitor something. At a glance, I saw that the person lying on one of the beds with a big belly was actually Wei Lai.
She saw me, too, with the same suspicion in her eyes.