120. Two options
Suddenly, I was shocked to find that I had gone from the shock when I first learned about it, to the irritability, to this moment, from beginning to end, I was thinking about the impact and effect of giving birth to the child, and I never thought about it...... Not raw.
And what I think about the most is, should I tell Zhou Yu about this?
I shouldn't have hidden it from him; In the legal sense, I can't hide it from him. Sooner or later, I have to tell him that even if I really don't want to give birth, then he, as the other half, should have the right to know.
I am a student of law, and I have my own legal awareness in many matters, and it is against my character to make some small actions.
can predict the sequelae that will occur after telling Zhou Yu, I am afraid that he will be more stubborn and more difficult to let go. And these are all the troubles that are classified as mine, how can I drag Xiao Dong into the water again?
That night, I went back and checked it online, and the first prenatal check-up was probably between 8 and 12 weeks of pregnancy, that is, when I was more than two months old. I plan to tell Zhou Yu before this that there is less than a month to buffer in the meantime.
In addition, since I decided to give birth, I must also tell my mother that I kept the previous marriage from her, and I can't hide it from her, and I can't hide it. You can't find a place to give birth to the child and take it back, so the mother must not be scared and faint.
I also checked a lot of things to pay attention to during pregnancy, as well as the preparation that needs to be done for the postnatal checkup. When I saw that radiation would affect children, I couldn't help but be shocked, so wouldn't it be difficult for me to come into contact with computers and mobile phones every day?
The next day, I took the initiative to find Xiao Dong, and when he saw me enter the door, he raised his eyebrows and said jokingly: "It won't be that I regret thinking of my goodness after I go back, I'm a very principled person, not so casual." ”
He knew I wasn't going to turn around and regret it, so he ran back to him, so he deliberately made fun of it.
I got straight to the point: "Are there any cases at hand lately?" ”
Xiao Dong: "What? Planning to devote all your energy to work and use it to relieve your pain? ”
"No, I just want to confirm with you that if there are not many cases, then I will be temporarily transferred to the archives department?"
Xiao Dong's eyes flashed, and he asked in surprise: "Why do you suddenly have this thought?" Didn't I mention to you that you might be promoted to prosecutor in the second half of the year? As long as you successfully handle a few more cases, there is basically no problem with this promotion. ”
I forgot about it, and my biggest goal in studying law and working in the courts was to become a prosecutor. Now, if I had given up my current position to go to the Archives Department, that goal would have been far away.
Xiao Dong is a master of observing words and feelings, and when he saw my hesitation, he spoke: "I'm afraid you haven't thought about it, think about it carefully and then discuss it with me." However, I'm curious why you suddenly asked to go to the Archives Department, where the work is boring and boring. ”
"Let me think again." I sidestepped his question.
After returning to the office area, I pondered for a long time, on the one hand, it was a career, and on the other hand, it was a personal matter, it was difficult to measure which was more important, and I would regret giving up either side.
Before I got off work, I went to the office to look for Xiao Dong, he was on the phone, and I stood next to him for a while.
After he finished calling, I asked first, "Can I apply for an assistant?" That is, if there is a case, I will try my best to handle it, but the collection and sorting of relevant information will be completed by the assistant. ”
Xiao Dong was noncommittal, only looked at me scrutinically, and only opened his mouth to ask when he looked at me uncomfortable: "Xiaoru, don't you think you should report the reason before making these requests to me?" ”
I groaned for a while, but I still didn't want to tell the real reason, and only said ambiguously: "It's that I may not be able to use the computer conveniently lately, so I want to find an assistant to help me do these chores." ”
Unexpectedly, Xiao Dong's eyes sank, his eyes slowly narrowed when his gaze swept over my face, and he asked coldly, "Are you pregnant?" ”
"......" I was speechless for a moment, which eye did he see that I was pregnant? Or did I slip out of my mouth?
Xiao Dong stared at me, "That's why you rejected me?" ”
It's all like this, and if I don't admit it, it will become a deception, so I have to helplessly say: "Yes, I'm pregnant." Your parents want you to get married and hurry up and hug your grandson, I'm afraid I can't do it. As for work, I really shouldn't hide this from you, if you think that I am not qualified to occupy the promotion quota after pregnancy, then I will retire and transfer to the archives department. ”
Nowadays, many employers do not want to find unmarried girls, because they are afraid that they will suddenly get married and pregnant while working, and they will have to give maternity leave and pay additional salaries. Even unkind units will dissuade employees from quitting after they become pregnant, these are social formations.
Although it is impossible for the court to do so, since the pregnancy involves work, it can no longer be concealed.
Xiao Dong's eyes rarely became very serious when he looked at me, and I was beating a drum in my heart, thinking that most of the prosecutor's affairs were yellow, so that I would not look forward and backward, and I would have to give up.
After a while, he heard Xiao Dong say: "I will arrange this matter, let Xiao Zhou come to the office later, and I will dispatch her to you." ”
I was stunned, "You agreed?" ”
"Isn't that a particularly difficult thing to do, and does it need to be so surprising? And in the later stage, someone on your side will have to take over temporarily, and cultivate Xiao Zhou to praise your position. As for the prosecutor's recommendation, it is definitely still valid, mainly depending on the cases you have handled in the past six months. "Xiao Dong knew what I was worried about, so he gave me a reassuring pill first.
Then he changed his tone and said, "After talking about business, let's talk about private matters." Listening to what you mean at the moment, you want to give birth to this child, right? Did you tell him? ”
I shook my head: "I haven't said it yet." ”
Xiao Dong raised his eyebrows, and then said with a smile: "Jia Ru, don't you want to swallow this account alone, do you?" Or is there something else going on? ”
"I didn't think about it that way, I had to tell him about it."
"Tell me, what exactly are you going to do?" Xiao Dong pointed to the chair in front of him and motioned for me to sit down.
But I haven't sorted out the specific plan yet, so what can I say?
Xiao Dong saw that I was silent, tapped my finger on the table to make me look up at him, and then asked, "Will you remarry him because of the child?" "I instinctively shook my head, divorce is not the product of impulse, it is a dead knot between me and him, even if I have children, it does not mean that this dead knot can be untied.
"Then you plan to be single with a baby? Do you think Zhou Yu will agree? ”
Xiao Dong's question hit the nail on the head, and I can almost imagine Zhou Yu's reaction when he learned about it, and he must have been even more stubborn and unwilling to let go. I heard Xiao Dong call me: "Xiaoru, come, let's analyze the current situation." You're pregnant, and you're going to tell him yes, but have you ever thought about the aftermath? Like, to whom does this child belong? ”
I was stunned, who does the child belong to?
Xiao Dong smiled when he saw my expression, "You didn't even think about this?" In vain, you are still a lawyer, where has the most basic legal awareness gone? Jia Ru, Jia Ru, as soon as you touch Zhou Yu's matter, your brain will become paste. The child is owned by you in marriage, which naturally has legal benefits, and to put it mildly, he has the right to fight with you for custody after you give birth to the child. Will the head of his family allow their Zhou family to be left out, let you be a single mother, or let you marry someone else's family? ”
These words didn't confuse me, but they shocked my heart, and I was really fascinated by the authorities, and I didn't even think about these things.
Xiao Dong hated iron and said: "Wu Mi's divorce case a few years ago is the best example, let's not comment on who is right and who is wrong in this case, is it because of the child's dispute and went to court?" Zhou Yu wants to make trouble with you like this? ”
"He's not going to mess with me like this." I subconsciously denied it.
But Xiao Dong bluntly pointed out: "He doesn't make trouble? That's the inheritance of his blood, especially if it's a boy, I'm afraid it won't be too late to rob you at that time. Even if he doesn't make trouble, can you guarantee that his family will not fight? He should be a filial son. ”
I can guarantee that Zhou Yu himself will not go to court with me because of the child, but I can't guarantee his family, from Zhou Nian to the second elder of the Zhou family, especially Zhou's mother, with her love for Zhou Yu and dislike of me, I am afraid that there is a high probability that she will use all her strength to compete with me for this child like Wu Mi's parents.
"So what should I do?" I asked, feeling a little exhausted.
It's just that it's a pregnancy, but it gives rise to many problems. From living habits to work scheduling, to communication with people, now I still have to think about the custody of the child after birth.
I often hear people say that it is not easy to have children, but now I really understand the origin of the word "not easy".
Xiao Dong looked at me secretively and said: "There are two options for you to choose from - the first is that you have a showdown with him and are ready to find the best lawyer to fight a lawsuit, of course, the premise is that you want custody of this child." ”
Facing Bo Gong with Zhou Yu and turning against each other? I didn't even think about it. I thought that divorce was the worst possibility for me and him, but now because of the child in my womb, I have to think about this possibility.
"What about the second one?" I wish there was another way to turn around.
But I heard Xiao Dong say: "As soon as I hide it to the end, I immediately find someone to get married." At present, it is only a few weeks pregnant, and it is enough to prepare for the wedding for a month, so that he will not come to entangle you anymore if he is dead set on you, and secondly, the child can be born in a normal environment, without considering the problem of single-parent families. ”
couldn't help but be stunned, he meant that I would never tell Zhou Yu? even cut off all contact with him from then on, and never got along! Is he and I really going to break up like this?