Getting married is a major event in life. It is both a farewell to the teenage years and the beginning of a new life. This will allow the newlyweds to start a family, start a family, have children, and carry the burdens of life.

Because of the meaning of marriage, many ethnic groups on the earth have to hold solemn ceremonies when they get married, as a way to express their wishes and prayers for their future life. This solemn ceremony is called a wedding.

In this world, the weddings of various ethnic groups are different. Within the same ethnic group, people in different regions have different weddings. People of the same ethnic group and the same region, because of the long history of development, the wedding is also different.

In fact, weddings are always evolving and changing. Even from the evolution of weddings, we can vaguely see the evolution of human marriage, the development of the human family and the pace of human progress.

Just from the wedding ceremony, you can see the ancient custom and dig out its profound meaning.

When did humans start having weddings? It's hard to find an account of this in writing. However, some enlightenment can be found in archaeology and anthropology.

In some tombs of the late primitive society, male and female burial holes began to appear. From the death and the same hole, it can be deduced that the deceased was born and lived together. From the relative fixation of marriage, it can be inferred that primitive people at this time began to have families, and may also have primitive weddings.

In the ancient human sites of early matriarchal societies, men and women were buried separately, and it is conceivable that there were only clans and no families in matrilineal societies, and therefore there must have been no weddings.

Wedding is the product of the development of human society to a certain stage and the development of marriage to a certain stage.

In today's world, there are still people who don't know what weddings are. No one ever had a wedding in their place. The union of two people is sufficient as long as both the man and the woman agree. It's easy to get together, and it's easy to break up, so there's little point in a wedding.

It can be seen that only when the marriage gets rid of the unstable stages such as group marriage and couple marriage and tends to be relatively stable, will the wedding happen. The birth of a wedding is closely related to the birth of a family.

Because Ning Xiao was not very enthusiastic about the wedding, Cheng Ziyang felt quite annoyed. Song Dai managed to find an old scholar who specialized in the study of Chinese weddings. He gave Ning Xiao a special day of lectures about the evolution of weddings in human history and the necessity of weddings.

This old scholar is a very rigorous scholar. Therefore, he really detained Ning Xiao in the office and told her a lot of changes about the wedding, until Ning Xiao thought that the wedding was not optional and had to be held.

As a result, Ning Xiao asked many questions to the old scholars. I never thought that the old scholar would answer reasonably.

For example, what does the most primitive wedding look like? Obviously, this is already difficult to investigate. But it's certainly very simple. According to an old scholar, he once saw a wedding ceremony on a pristine island where the main ritual was the burning of torches, and the other was that the groom was prostrated on the bride's lap.

This kind of wedding may seem simple, but it is very meaningful. First, fire is the first trophy of primitive man to conquer and transform nature. The joy of learning to use fire will stay in people's memories for a long time. Fire once illuminated the path of primitive people's life, bringing them warmth and light, and people also hoped that fire would continue to illuminate their path of life after marriage, drive away darkness and demons, and bring them hope.

Second, the birth of weddings is the result of the replacement of matrilineal society by patrilineal society, but the early weddings could not get rid of the imprint of matrilineal society, and the worship of women was still deeply engraved in the minds of every man. The bridegroom prostrates on the bride's lap, which not only shows his thoughtfulness and tenderness for his wife, but also expresses his reverence for women.

However, the old scholar changed the conversation again, from marriage to divorce.

Because a wedding is the beginning of a union, a new family is born. However, the original wedding was the beginning of the divorce. He said that in a certain ethnic group of Sun Asan, girls had to marry men as soon as they reached adulthood. However, after such a wedding, the married man cannot become a husband, and the woman cannot become a wife. The wedding ceremony is actually the beginning of a free life. As soon as the wedding is over, the relationship between husband and wife ends immediately.

In this nominal marriage, the parties do not maintain a husband and wife relationship. However, when the husband dies, if the "wife" is still alive, she mourns for the "husband", and her children also hold a memorial service for the titular "father". However, the wife who has actually been married to the man does not participate in the memorial service. The real biological children will not ask about their father's funeral.

This kind of wedding is very strange. But it's a very primitive wedding. It marked the beginning of the monogamous family, which was gradually giving way to the monogamous family. Marriage gradually developed from instability to stability.

But the development of marriage, like the development of all things, is spiral, wave-like, with advances and partial regressions. This primitive wedding of the Sun and Ah tribes shows that free couple marriage is still quite powerful. It has not yet been replaced by monogamous families. People are also accustomed to living a private life in which freedom is overflowing. Divorce after marriage is a reflection of the struggle between the two marriage systems.

In fact, it took a long time for fixed monogamy to replace free marital marriage. There is also such a wedding in a primitive ethnic group in China. After the wedding, many women still go back to their parents' homes to live a free life of watchman.

As the old scholar spoke more and more deeply, Ning Xiao gradually became fascinated.

Modern weddings are mostly filled with a harmonious atmosphere. However, at the weddings of some primitive ethnic groups, there is a tense atmosphere. The struggle between the man and the woman is fraught with symbolic struggles. In a small country, when a wedding is held, the bride's relatives throw stones at the greeter. Are they against the marriage? No.

When people hold a wedding somewhere in the sun, a group of relatives and friends of the bride will block the procession of the bride in the middle of the way, and the two teams will feign a big fight. The greeter was only allowed to pass after being whipped by the woman's team. Is this any hatred that the bride's relatives have for the groom? Neither is it.

More than 100 years ago, something similar happened when people of a certain ethnic group in Baizhou welcomed themselves. On the morning of the auspicious day, a procession of greeters flocked to the bride's door. The bride's relatives stood guard at the door, just as they fended off an invading enemy. There is a fight between each other for the bride. Some of the greeters took advantage of the chaos to snatch the bride and rode away on horseback. The woman's family saw that the bride was robbed, and hurried to hurry, and the two sides did not gradually disperse until the battle was exhausted, and the team of the greeter returned with the bride triumphantly. Is this an unhappy marriage? Neither is it.

All of the above are symbolic large-scale wars during marriage ceremonies.

In addition to this large-scale chess battle, there are also symbolic skirmishes. When a primitive ethnic group in China gets married, the groom will send a clever man to sneak to the woman's house before the rooster crows, quietly climb up the corner, and shout to the bride. The women of the woman's family heard the sound and came together to capture the man. If caught, the man's clothes were torn. This is not that there is any estrangement between the two parties about this marriage. Rather, it is a ritual, an integral part of the wedding, symbolizing a symbolic struggle between the two clans, the marryant and the married, the man and the woman.

Although there are no such scenes of fighting, weddings in some places also appear in the form of snatching, which is the main content of the wedding. When many primitive ethnic groups in China get married, the ritual of snatching relatives is prevalent. The bride knows when the man "robs" someone, and then she pretends to go to the vegetable garden. So the men sent by the bridegroom set up an ambush and snatched the bride away.

Even if the bride is full of joy for the Langjun she picked, she still has to pretend to cry and cry for help. The woman's relatives heard it and anxiously pursued it. Along the way, he called for his daughter, but he walked in the opposite direction, chased him outside the village, and saw that there was no one around, and he didn't see his daughter's trace, so he had to go back in a huff.

Sometimes they chased in the direction where the bride was robbed, and the people in the village also came to help, and unexpectedly caught up. At this time, the bridegroom's team threw out a lot of happy money, so everyone was so busy collecting money that they forgot to pursue the bride. The groom's family also took the bride away in the chaos.

All these weddings have the meaning of fighting, and they also have the meaning of snatching. This is the legacy of the ancient prevalent practice of snatching relatives.

In this regard, Ning Xiao was surprised. You know, she has gone through three lives, and she really hasn't encountered such a strange thing. Seeing that Ning Xiao listened to it with relish, the old scholar became more and more energetic.

After the prohibition of intra-clan marriage in ancient times, the source of marriage could only be extra-clan marriage. But a foreign woman would not come to the other race to be a bride of her own accord. Originally, the man "cropped" to the woman's house, and now the woman wants to marry the man. Women can't adapt to this kind of change.

What should I do if I can't find a wife in my clan and I can't find a wife outside my clan? The only way is to rob. Snatching relatives and seizing wives among foreigners by force is undoubtedly a revolution in the history of marriage development, and it is also a good way to solve the marriage crisis faced at that time. It signifies the overwhelming predominance of men over women. However, there are also contradictions hidden in snatching relatives. Because robbing relatives often leads to revenge, neighboring clans often fight over it. You rob mine today, I rob yours tomorrow, rob and rob, and there will be no peace.

Later, a more fixed marriage relationship was slowly established. The girl of my clan must be the wife of the youth of your clan, and the girl of your clan must also marry the youth of my clan, and neither party will suffer. In this way, the robbery gradually disappeared. Peace was made between the clans, and the source of marriage was fixed.

However, the traces of snatching relatives are still tenaciously manifested in weddings after thousands of years. It's like people with stone knives and fire

kind of nostalgia is the same. Despite the availability of steel knives, some ethnic groups still use stone knives in rituals; Despite the availability of matches and lighters, there was still friction and fire during the sacrifice. In the same way, although the marriage has developed, the ritual of snatching the marriage must be repeated in the wedding.

In modern times, is there a real robbery and a real fight? Some. The old scholar pointed out a certain point on the map of the world on the wall, saying that he had found here that few of the women of a certain ethnic group did not have scars on their heads. It was a sign that her husband loved her. The husband snatched her from the alien race and knocked her unconscious with a wooden stick to prevent her from resisting and crying out. The son is left with a scar. Some also leave sequelae, such as dizziness and the like. Some were even killed.

"Oh, oh!" So, Ning Xiao would only respond like this.

In China, there have been many etiquettes about marriage since ancient times. From these etiquette, it can be seen that people attach importance to marriage.

As early as the first years in Chinese history, when there were many countries, marrying a wife was to "summon the party members and friends of the township for wine and food", which meant that the father and friends of the hometown should be invited to eat and drink. "The ancients ate quinoa...... There is no wine and meat in the sacrifice, and the guests are called to marry, then the beans are white, and the meat is cooked. This means that we usually eat coarse grains, and we often do not have alcohol and meat during sacrifices, but we must have meat when we get married and entertain guests. This custom has been passed down to this day.

In many primitive ethnic groups in China, in addition to drinking and eating meat, marriage is inseparable from drinking and eating meat, and there are special singers who sing wedding songs. On the one hand, it is a celebration for everyone, and on the other hand, it is also a kind of marriage statement, so that people know that they are husband and wife, the man has found someone to be his wife, and the woman has found someone to be her husband. In doing so, it is conducive to the stability of marriage and the consolidation of monogamy.

If you are too poor to afford relatives and friends, or to hold a wedding, you can also combine. "Zhou Guan" said: "In the month of mid-spring, men and women will be ordered, so the time is also, and those who run can't help it." In ancient times, autumn and winter were used as the time for marriage, because "the frost fell and the woman succeeded, and the ice melted and agriculture began". If you can't afford to hold a wedding and don't get married in the middle of spring, it means that you have no money, and you will marry privately in the spring, and you don't think it's illegal.

On the day of the wedding, the man will go to the woman's house to greet him personally. The father will say to his son, "Go to Ying'er and inherit my sect." The "Five Classics of Differences" says: "From the Son of Heaven to the common people, everyone welcomes them personally." Lu Aigong once asked Confucius, "The crown is welcomed, and it is not too important"? In his opinion, it was excessive. Confucius changed his face at this time, and said: "The combination of the two natures is good, after the ancestors, I think that the lord of the ancestral hall of heaven and earth, what is the importance of the king?" It can be seen that the kiss seems to be a sign of respect for women, but in fact it is for the sake of inheritance.

In ancient times, Chinese people got married, "the house of marrying a woman, three nights of candles, thoughts are separated." Take the woman's house, three days without fun, thinking about the heirs. The woman thought of parting, and the man was worried about the succession.

Maybe it's because of the thought of parting, the woman always has to cry when she leaves home. There is also such a custom outside of China. Many ethnic groups regard crying as an important part of marriage, and they all believe that the more sad they cry on the wedding day, the happier they will be after marriage.

The Chinese also believe that the bride has a magical power. The man is sick, and he can be happy when he gets married, and the problem can be washed away. The child has lost baby teeth, but the new teeth have not yet erupted. On the eve of the wedding, the bride's palanquin was asked to touch it when she entered the door, and it was said that the teeth would grow quickly. Such customs are also found in the West. Many ethnic groups have the habit of throwing shoes at the bride, and if anyone hits the bride, it is a sign of good luck to come.

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