In everyone's mind, there is an electrocardiogram that has nothing to do with science and medicine, on which are drawn those unbiased intersections and parallel lines. If the central axis is a lane to the future, those who jump up and down are the angels and landscapes that fate has arranged to complete your life.

If we compare each natural person to a point and draw a circle with the radius of my own activity, then my level of activity in this society should be a negative value. Some of my friends say I'm withdrawn, but that's not the case. After a lot of useless socializing, I became more and more fond of being alone. This is a polar problem, liking solitude is not necessarily solitary or autistic, it may be a natural preference for quiet, or it may be a loss of self-assertion in the noise, and then seek stability and tranquility, and this peaceful and undisturbed environment can make oneself settle, this may be the reason.

It's about face. In this society, men and women are more face-saving than men. This sentence is purely a personal opinion. I remember that Lu Xun once wrote: "Face is the program of the Chinese spirit, as long as you grasp this, just like pulling out the braid in the past, the whole body will follow it." This is true. Next to me, there is a man A. Little A has the characteristics that most people in this society have, vanity. The emphasis here is that this vanity is not only material, but also spiritual. To put it bluntly, it's like needing others to recognize your own usable value, and this need is only self-suggestion.

Little A is not bad, hardworking, willing to endure hardships, people in their 30s in this impetuous society, it is rare to work steadily with one mind. But his life experience is also an ordinary member of the crowd. His parents and family can't help him, and he doesn't have the high-quality relationships and resources around him that he can use, so since the resources are not used properly, in short, money has become a blank space. As a result, Xiao A felt that he was mediocre and boring on some occasions, and in order not to be abandoned by the society, he tried his best to integrate into this society little by little, and was finally assimilated by the society.

I would like to say that everything is divided into two, and there is no absolute good or bad. Therefore, being assimilated, to put it another way, is also a kind of compromise. Whether this is good or bad is impossible to say, but there is one thing that comes from his spiritual realm that is painful, and that is vanity and hypocrisy.

The relationship between me and Xiao A is basically limited to occasional dealings, but dealing with this thing, sometimes, once, twice, you can know how many catties and taels the other party has, and the subtle awareness of the secret is nothing more than exploring knowledge and the city government from talking, to character, and then to three views.

A few days ago, I saw him again because of events, and the person has not changed, but the style of speech has become bizarre. Open your mouth and close your mouth to your friends, a director on the left, a boss on the right, I suddenly have a little curiosity when I hear it, when will I not see it, is it possible that I bought a pair of Hot Wheels online and installed them? Last time, I was a small staff, but this time I can do everything from heaven to earth, which is a bit interesting.

I have a problem with this person, that is, I like to choke people. It's probably better now that I'm older, but when I'm in my twenties, I know I'm annoying like this. Actually, I don't have any malicious intentions, I just don't like other people chatting in the clouds, in the words of ordinary people, it's upside down! Every time I meet such a person, I always see a huge water-filled balloon in front of me, and I want to poke it with a needle. I'm not happy about it, I just don't like it. Haha, this is also a direct manifestation of my low emotional intelligence.

Having said that, I asked Xiao A to simply ask about the basic common sense of cross-industry, but he didn't pay attention to the question all afternoon. The answer to this dialogue, if I were to mark the paper as a Chinese teacher, would definitely be a zero score. But I was annoyed to climb the pole, and you said that you knew the director, so I happened to have something to do with the director; You said that so-and-so company is always your buddy who is good at talking, so I just need it. As a result, the world is like this, the fake can't be true, the real can't be fake. When you did ask him to do it, he didn't say a word.

After I went home, I turned off WeChat, and laughed on the sofa for a long time, I didn't laugh at him, I laughed at this society, and I lost my good life, which is an extremely cruel thing. So I sighed, people are good at showing their edges and corners, or are they assimilated by the world and sleek in life. It's too hard to think of anything in between.

There are too many people like Xiao A around him, and he is ashamed to envelop all social resources on himself. In fact, it is nothing more than to let people who don't know themselves take a look at it. However, such people have forgotten the essence of social development, and people are selfish, which is also the embodiment of human nature. For example, his parents only have their own children in their eyes; The lover only has his lover in his eyes; In the eyes of friends, there are only a few that he thinks are worth dating, and this is worth befriending, and the meaning is very great.

As I said in the previous chapter, people are busy, and no one has time to make you happy. The same principle applies to the same thing, everyone is busy, you are not bull X, people who don't know you don't care at all, people who know you don't care. This is the painful manifestation of the reality of people who lose themselves because of face.

Fei Xiaotong once wrote in "Rural China": "China is a society of acquaintances, and this kind of face can not only be seen, but also used, and it is a person's resources and identity. This sentence intuitively presents the subtlety and similarity of interpersonal relationships in real society. However, it seems that many people forget the fact that a person's social status and external evaluation do not depend on external appearances, but on his internal strength.

This society is less and less face-looking, and looks at the outside. If you want to judge a person's capital, identity, status, influence, knowledge, educational and cultural background, experience, etc., almost nine times out of ten, you will be blind. And the inner strength can be regarded as a real thing, which comes from the bones, and it is impossible for others to snatch it. It can also be considered that it is the ability to do things. If you don't have either, and your attraction to others is only on the surface, then your existence is zero value.

Sometimes, you will also find a problem, that is, the electrocardiogram in your heart, sometimes walking will break, overlap, and will not follow the established routine. Yes, that's a matter of common sense, everyone is an independent individual in this society, and whether you are good or bad has nothing to do with others. EVEN, THE SO-CALLED FRIENDS AROUND YOU, INCLUDING RELATIVES, SOME WILL BE ALIENATED OR EVEN SAY GOODBYE TO YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR GOODNESS. The reason? It's very simple, and it's the root of human nature, jealousy.

I have studied the word jealousy, and after research, I found that this word can derive too many complex emotions in people's hearts, and then bring about behavioral changes. For example, jealousy and hatred, sadness, malaise, alienation, pain, resentment, etc.

My friend is a girl. She is the only one of my few friends who seems to be a great friend of society. Not long ago, she suddenly told me that she thought she had countless friends, but as a result, she stumbled around and found that she could count them on one hand, and most of them could just play.

Here, I would like to make my own point of view. The author himself is a person with a good personality, which is not a boast, but all the people I have come into contact with, intuitive evaluation. It stands to reason that a person with a good personality should have a lot of friends, and I am the opposite, I have very few friends, but I think it is enough.

Personally, I don't like the hustle and bustle, it's a bug that I don't have friends, but 99% of it depends on my own subjectivity, which is a problem I don't want to. I'm still quite generous, so I exclude the relationship between money consumption here. I chose to be alone more because I needed to block out useless social interactions. As a person with a very independent personality, I don't need to lay a long carpet to meet the so-called partner, if you and I have the same interests, then I don't prepare flowers and wine, you will not be picky, and there are other plans, I prepare gold taels may not be able to match the other party's intentions.

Born in the 80s, it seems that there are many such people. I belong to a special person around me, but when I look at it, I seem to feel that people like me abound. seems to be cold and arrogant, but in fact, he just doesn't like the hustle and bustle.

When I was in my 20s, I was just as obsessed with the so-called face problem. Many things may come from an inferiority complex, so we blindly pay attention to equality with others and strive for our own psychological balance. Later, I realized that people who love face actually take themselves too seriously. He felt that there were many people in the world who cared about him, but in fact, it was still the same sentence, everyone was very busy, and no one really cared about anyone. Therefore, when I understood that face would only bring me a burden and a bad psychological impact, I resolutely put away the high heels that were not commensurate with me. I am now the kind of person who can walk on the street without washing my face but with peace of mind, not self-confidence, but I often tell myself that respecting my heart is the best explanation for myself.

Here, you can find that, in fact, the author Big Tomato is a very shameless person, because she hates washing her face. Ha ha.

Face interpersonal relationship, after all, is the product of social development, existence is reasonable, then, what we need to do is to have a degree. Blindly going beyond the scope of one's own capabilities to pick the fruits outside the grid will only have huge safety risks.

Our electrocardiogram is a predetermined route that has been drawn, with scenery and black holes along the way. There will be many peaks and valleys around you who will give you a lot of life feelings, maybe it will make you face the sun positively, and perhaps, it will make you negative and misanthropic of the world. It is a good thing to know how to conform to the development of society, but there must be a degree.

After all, if you make a mistake in interpersonal use of face, the consequences are not just as simple as losing trust in the world.