From the beginning of my ignorance, my parents educated me, so that I could glorify my ancestors, get ahead, and have a great future.

When I was humble, my parents comforted me and told me to work hard, shine on the lintel, and be admitted to a good university.

When I was very young, my parents teased me, making me newlywed, raise my eyebrows, and have deep affection.

Life is very long, life has Shao Shao years, life has dark years, but life is more of a Pituo years, is a bumpy years.

Since graduating from university, my parents have planned a step-by-step life trajectory for me, finding a job, getting married, and having children, which is the same path as most ordinary people. However, once upon a time, I mistakenly thought that I would be one of the most unique people in this world. And now, he can only laugh secretly and laugh at himself.

For the future daughter-in-law, their requirements are: virtuous and true, good looking, and know how to run home when it rains.

They think that I am nearly 30 years old, and I am no longer married to sweet and sour love, but to marry with a stable life.

Mom often chatters, chatters,, babbles, chatters. And the topics around it are also "ever-changing" - always about grandchildren and daughters-in-law.

I know that these are kinds of nonsense that go back and forth, annoying me and burdening them. When I was at home, she always knocked on the side, and even bluntly told me, either tactfully or bluntly, that anyone's grandson would make soy sauce.

Even, my mother would often talk and laugh with the one- and two-year-old granddaughter of the uncle in the next village in front of me, and even call his granddaughter's name loudly. I think that except for the purpose of eagerly hugging her grandson, my mother's thoughts are no different!

Sometimes, she would even say that when she went to the market, the street vendors said to her, "Seeing that you are so good, the family must be very happy!" How old is my grandson? "My mother will tell me all these true and false things.

What's more, whenever my mother meets outsiders, she will talk about the fact that I am single, and her purpose is very simple, that is, to let others introduce me to a blind date. But when is it not the niece of the seven or eight aunts, or the daughter of the aunt who can't beat the eight poles in the neighboring village, and asks me if I think about it, but which time is it reliable.

In other words, every time you meet someone, you expose my shortcomings, have you considered my feelings?

Don't you know that there is nothing more shameful about me than this?

In fact, my sister's marriage has always been unhappy, and it can even be said to be ridiculous. Even my parents felt that my sister's marriage was uncomfortable, but they still persuaded her not to leave. In their view, divorce is a major moral stain and a flaw in life. For them, hoping for their son to become a Chan and their daughter getting married and having children are all capital worth showing off to the outside world. However, the ideal is always a big gap from the reality, and I also live up to expectations and become a hanger.

The desire of the human heart is insatiable. The little brocade pigeon wants to eat corn, and people always give it minced meat, which is called "to feed the best". However, the fact that the pigeon is getting thinner proves that this is not a teaching of aptitude, but just wishful thinking, after all, it has never really received the beautiful thing called "love".

However, the thinking of the older generation is, "You have to live your life the way I like because I love you." Or, "Because I'm good to you, be good to me too." However, in the end, it was discovered that when the child got married, it was not that the child's life entered a new stage, but that the parents' life entered a new stage.

Actually, what I want is very simple, is to respect my choice more.

However, "If you get married late, if you don't get married, the meaning of our life in this life will be gone, and I will still struggle for a ball", said my father.

It is worth mentioning that today's older generation will find themselves losing control of the marriage of adult children, and more and more adult children want to take back the autonomy and decision-making power of their own lives.

For rural boys, the family planning policy and the preference for male children in rural areas have made school-age girls endangered, leading them to face an even more fierce and tragic rural marriage market: marrying a local girl can easily cost hundreds of thousands, or even millions, which can be all the money of a rural family for decades.

For girls, due to the germination and growth of feminist consciousness, they are more eager to break free from the shackles of traditional marriage concepts, because in the social and cultural concepts of the older generation, childbirth is the most essential function of women. Secondly, the older generation also firmly believes that a woman has never had a home of her own, and she must form a family with a man before she can have a home, which are very deep-rooted pedantic concepts in China.

Society often adheres to the idea that 25 years old is the most valuable age for a woman and the most popular period for a woman. Therefore, those girls who have crossed this line have become the inferior older leftover girls in the mouth of the world. In the minds of many older generations, they still think that women are waiting for men to choose, or that the marriage itself is like the stock market, why not sell it at the highest point of the stock, and make a lot of money.

Yes, parents are indeed for their children, but not for their children, but for their grandchildren. It doesn't matter if the children don't get married, just don't affect the grandchildren. Therefore, as long as the children marry indiscriminately, give birth to one indiscriminately, and let them hold their grandchildren, they will no longer be persecuted.

Time has passed, and now more and more parents regard their children's marriage as their own task, even if their children are not looking for satisfactory things, it doesn't matter, just like when their children get married, they have completed a glorious mission, which is really appalling, but it makes people helpless.

There are many times when children know how to reason, move with emotion, "vertical and horizontal", and break them one by one, so that their parents are speechless for a while, and the chess is a bad move. But many times, parents have made a comeback, changed their ways, carried the banner of "filial piety", and rose to the level of "ethical guidelines", so that children "want to talk and rest, and tears will flow first", because they are branded with the shame of "unfilial piety", which is too embarrassing.

Since childhood, this society has been "promoting" such an atmosphere: ugly and faceless, short and faceless, fat and faceless, faceless with spots on the face, big teeth without face, no pocket money and no face, no face if you can't afford to invite guests, no face for eating instant noodles, no face for not using an Apple machine, no face if you don't get into college, no face without a driver's license, no car and no house, no face for a daughter-in-law, no face for being single, parents are old farmers and have no face, and the two daughters have no face... It seems that people are born to live for the sake of face, but is it really so important to have a dead thing like "face"?

And the Chinese all-purpose saying of solving problems has always been common, such as "think about the child", "come here", "big New Year", "big day", "still a child", "give face", "it's not easy"...... Haha, a few simple words, but it can suddenly make you speechless, crying and laughing, crying and laughing.

Although the great wheel of the times has moved abruptly, many traditional customs and a lot of dross culture have been left behind, and they are gradually drifting away. However, many problems left over from history, many vulgar and ugly things, and many decadent traditions, like the gangrene of the appendages, are still rampant in this world, and they are deeply hated. But whether it is a child or a parent, try to understand each other more, tolerate each other more, after all, from childhood to adulthood, from school to home, teachers and parents will often teach children a sentence, "empathy".

yes, think about it! However, in the final analysis, who should empathize?

In our ancient sexual culture, ignorance is comparable to virtue, ignorance is regarded as purity, prejudice is regarded as a principle, and having children is the ultimate goal of sexual upheaval, and sexual by-product children are the guarantee that can be raised for life and prevent old age.

In fact, when every child falls to the ground, he will use the voice of weeping and grief to play the first song of this life, to cut through the narrow quiet space, to announce the sudden arrival of his young self, because the baby who is still in the womb knows that the sea of suffering is endless, and the red dust is bitter and happy. Buddhism says, "All leaks are suffering, and suffering is not allowed." That is, people are born in the world, and they come to suffer from sin.

Tianya has a long-standing hot post, the content is a little sad and sad, saying that if you are still in your mother's womb and can talk to your mother in real time, what will you say? Most people say, "Mom, please don't give birth to me..."

Heaven and earth are yellow, the universe is desolate, the human world has gone through countless dynasties, and human beings have also multiplied one stubble after another. Although the child is born completely up to him, and the parents have attached one unattainable goal after another to it, adults should be grateful to the child, because it is the child who has caused ripples and splashed a little wave for their peaceful life, and it is the child who has brought a colorful and fun experience to their life. In this way, they can advance to the level of "growing up" and can really grow up step by step.

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Although in the current society, the ideological gap between children and parents is getting bigger and bigger, and there are frequent verbal wars, and even some physical friction. And between the two elders, they are often in a constant fight, arguing for the children and throwing pieces of furniture. But to get to the bottom of it, it's just that the current social atmosphere is not mellow enough. However, time flies, everything will change, I really look forward to it, look forward to the future generations, can choose their own lives as they like, and can pick out the disgusting things that they don't want, and really look forward to it.