In my heart, I like to make friends, and I am very picky about my friends. Now that I'm in a relaxed mood, I want to talk about what I ask of my friends (maybe I'm really too small-minded or too picky, as Marilyn Monroe said: "You can't stand a man's shortcomings, you can't enjoy his strengths.") "So I feel that I really have very few friends now, so few that almost no one has time to chat with me, of course, it may be that I underestimate my own mind too much, I have a lot of time, and most of the people I know are office workers who are short of time or take children to work and do housework, and I am still single.

Subconsciously I always think like this, single, single, single who loves fantasy. First of all, to be kind, there are three kinds of character, the first is good, the second is a mixture of good and evil, and the third is bad; this is like dividing personality into three kinds in psychology, if the three personalities are out of balance, it means that the person's personality is split, but it can only mean that the personality is split, and there is a difference of 108,000 miles between doing something that destroys his conscience without conscience.

In the eyes of psychologists, Hitler and the Japanese imperialist invaders are regarded as people with split personality, and they only downplay the loss of conscience and the violation of moral bottom line.

The general meaning is that human nature from childhood to adulthood is to yearn for freedom, this is a kind of personality, called the id, this kind of personality will make extreme actions in the case of impulsiveness and anger, completely ignoring the constraints of law and morality; , Zeng Guofan has been working hard for the scientific expedition since he was a child, and it seems to be far away, I mean I think my friends who are kind by nature quarrel with TA, and the cold war for a month or two will be reconciled as before, even if I do something sorry for TA, TA will laugh it off, if you ask TA:

"Aren't you angry with me?" If you have a good relationship with you, they will say, "Would you be angry if I did the same thing to you?" At this point, you become tolerant and reflective subtly.

So this is the most basic principle of making friends. You can always release the freedom of your nature in your good nature.

Second, good temper and good temper, I have always felt that after being with a bad temper person for a long time, it will gradually become violent in speech, which my dad and I have experienced, my dad once made friends with a person who committed domestic violence against his wife, that person has a really bad temper, and has never only found shortcomings and mistakes from others, and then it is a violent beating, anyone as long as he is allowed to do it

"Finding" the shortcomings and mistakes, I can't help but say that the fists and kicks are added. Some people say that a person's bad temper and good quality can coexist, this kind of person is mostly the second kind of good and evil mixed type of character, whenever people take TA bad temper and cause harm to people, TA will use the good deeds he does on weekdays to prove that he is actually a good person, so as to refuse to reflect on himself, and also put on a gesture of gratitude to others for their kindness, because TA will next say: "Fortunately, you met me, if you meet ###, you will not even die." "The subtext is: the human heart is only darker, how can it be whiter?

With this sentence, you have successfully transferred the question of good or bad temper to the question of good and evil character, and everything you give is what you do to him

"Submissive", that is

"Contentment". Third, he also succeeded in raising the problem of personal temper to the dark problem of society, in fact, the color of society and the quality of personal temper are two problems, there are thousands of colors on the color spectrum, and personal temper is the inner cultivation, when a person refuses to carry out in-depth reflection on personal cultivation to make corrections, it means that he has been willing to go with the flow, let the wild grass in the hundred acres of fertile land grow wildly, waiting for the crops to be swallowed up by a mouthful, and finally the particles are difficult to harvest, even if they are erudite and talented, and the ability is outstanding, it is difficult to go up half a floor, only like those high-grade jade hidden by the yellow sand, even if it is found, it is left with a sense of pity because of serious damage。

Later, I concluded that whenever someone kills you and beats you, you should immediately reflect on yourself, where you have done something wrong, lack of consideration, and then make corrections.

Should anyone other than your parents be nice to you? Is there anyone in the world who should be nice to you?

Do others owe you? Do your parents deserve to be kind to you? They gave you life, should they be good to you for the rest of your life?

If others are good to you, you have to think about why they are good to you, why are they good to you? Of course, the latter sentence is a bit social.

In my working life, I met a person, she was very good to me, that was the first time I went out to work alone, until now I am still grateful, thank her for her kindness to me, I hope she is healthy forever, happy forever, although there are many colleagues, but only the most impressed by her, because she is the most beautiful of all people, but also in line with the principle of making friends with most of them, the second of which is bad-tempered, she is very clever to cover up, but no matter how good the disguise, there is always a time to be found (because of getting along day and night), and I am precisely because of her gradually contracted the problem of speaking violently, fortunately, I reflect on myself in time, and correct it in time after finding。

As a leader, you must feel that the tone of your voice is more ferocious to make your subordinates obey, especially when you catch your subordinates making mistakes, you should criticize them fiercely, so that they can remember for a long time, which is famous

"Hot furnace effect", but let this short-tempered poisonous weed quietly plant seeds in the fertile field of his inner world,

"Let" employees reflexively think about the consequences of making mistakes, and at the same time, they also reflexively see the wrong employees to be fierce, over time, the mistakes of employees are getting less and less, but they have developed this habit, even if they see people other than employees, they are also reflexively fierce.

When a person is calm and suddenly opens his mouth to kill someone, the first reaction of the subconscious is: I am angry.

It's so annoying today, I'm so angry that I really want to do something with TA, TA was born to be angry with me, right?

As a result, there are some results: first, one's bad image is completely exposed in front of others, and will be used by good people as a source of interest and after-dinner conversation; second: if the living person sees it, the first impression will become a red-hot iron block, and the label is: I am short-tempered, please stay away from me, hurt others and conceit.

Third: I feel that I have changed from a peaceful and quiet state of mind to a person in this world who is only more annoying and has the most annoying mentality, so I instantly feel that I am bad-tempered, and I am bad-tempered, and over time, I default in my heart that I am a bad-tempered person.

Then, every time you lose your temper, you take it for granted that you are bad-tempered, until you are convinced that you are a bad-tempered person.

It's like a girl who was originally very slender, and occasionally saw a beautiful woman who was thinner than herself, and had two thoughts in her heart, both of which were psychological hints.

The first thought was that I wanted to be thinner and slimmer, so I subconsciously accepted this signal, and every time I ate and looked in the mirror, I hinted at myself like this, so it became a habit to urge her to be thin to a handful of bones, to the extreme, to get farther and farther away from the word beauty, and the second thought was how could I be so fat?

I'm so fat and fat, I think about it every time I eat and look in the mirror, and gradually admit in my heart that I am fat, I am so fat, and over time I really think that I should be slightly fat when I wear clothes, and gradually I really become a fat person.

The third principle of making friends is humor, I always firmly believe that humorous people are full of wisdom: 1. Have the characteristics of tolerance, can always turn many situations into a burst of laughter, so that everyone can easily and happily establish a further relationship in a happy and free atmosphere; 2. Always make people relaxed and happy, so that everything goes well, everything goes well, always in a state of self-confidence, and this kind of person is friends and feels that it is easy to be a person and do things, and there will be a sense of superiority in my heart: what I do as long as I do it, I will be able to do better and more beautiful.

3. This kind of person can make people have an optimistic attitude, even in the face of adversity and desperate situations, they can turn defeat into victory.

4. Humorous people can make people more popular and popular. Get more true friends, and more valuable information.

5. It can make people have a more tacit understanding with each other. Communication is smoother and faster. 6. In a pleasant and relaxed atmosphere, we can give full play to our creative talents, so that talents have more opportunities to be appreciated and make the best use of them.

7. It is conducive to the recruitment of leaders and the attraction of more talents, and the leaders can save a lot of time and energy.

(Excellent talents can quickly improve corporate image, profits, core competitiveness, crisis prediction, prevention and control capabilities, accelerate enterprise growth, reduce enterprise risks, and develop strengths and avoid weaknesses.)

8. It is more conducive to cultivating talents suitable for enterprises and saving the cost of high-level talents. I don't know why I talked about the company, in short, the leaders can be appropriately humorous and give themselves and their subordinates a good mood for work.

Hehe.