Yue Kaiyuan wanted to take Zhong Xin to do a one-on-one consultation, but Zhong Xin said that since Yan Xinyi is also an expert in this area, it is better to talk about it here, she also wants to hear whether different experts will have different opinions.

So Yue Kaiyuan made tea for everyone, and asked Zhong Xin to talk about her situation in detail. Zhong Xin is 36 years old, married for 10 years, and has an 8-year-old son. Recently, she found out that her husband was cheating, what she couldn't understand was that the cheating partner was not as beautiful as herself, and she was not good, she hated her husband's betrayal, but it was not easy to get out of a 10-year marriage, she was reluctant to divorce, and she couldn't swallow this breath, she was in a dilemma, very painful, so she wanted to find a psychological counselor for help.

Yue Kaiyuan and Zhong Xin discussed her problems, while Zhong Kenan and Yan Xinyi listened on the side. Yue Kaiyuan learned that Zhong Xin's profession is a lawyer, she is very capable and strong at home, while her husband is relatively weak, and is often reprimanded by Zhong Xin, complaining that he earns little money and does not know how to take care of the family. He couldn't find a sense of value at home, and over time, he cheated. Although the cheating partner is not outstanding, he is very gentle and empathetic, which makes him feel valued and finds a sense of value.

Yue Kaiyuan accompanied Zhong Xin to discuss her marital status and found that although the main responsibility for cheating lies with the man, Zhong Xin herself also has a certain responsibility. Home is the warmest and most relaxing place where everyone has self-esteem. Her excessive accusations, criticisms, and complaints made her husband feel that he could not find his place at home, and eventually pushed him out of the house. If you want to continue your marriage, you need to show more weakness and make your husband feel the value and meaning of his existence in the family.

As for whether the marriage should be maintained, Yue Kaiyuan did not give a direct answer, but he said that through hypnosis, Zhong Xin can "see" her own strength, that is, let her see what methods she used to solve difficulties in the process of growing up, and what kind of wisdom she has, so that she can see that she is good enough and has the ability to live well. In fact, there is nothing terrible about whether you are separated or not, as long as you see your own strength, you have the ability to face complex situations.

Zhong Xin had some concerns about receiving hypnosis and asked Yan Xinyi's opinion.

"I agree with Dr. Yue." Yan Xinyi said that many women are reluctant to divorce because they are afraid of being abandoned, and they are very afraid of the separation of the relationship between husband and wife. To maintain a marriage, you need to face the pain caused by your husband's cheating and betrayal; Ending a marriage has to face many difficulties in your own life. But in fact, the hidden power of tolerance and acceptance in women is very strong, as long as you see where these forces are, and after stimulating the inner strength infinitely, you can make the most suitable decision for yourself.

Zhong Xin finally agreed to accept hypnosis, Yue Kaiyuan asked Yan Xinyi and Zhong Kenan to wait in the reception room, and he took Zhong Xin to the hypnosis room.

There was a sudden silence in the reception room. Yan Xinyi looked at Zhong Kenan, who was sitting diagonally opposite, he was silent, and there was a haze on his slightly frowning eyebrows.

Yan Xinyi thought that he was worried about his cousin's affairs, so he comforted him: "There are two sides to everything, after experiencing this incident, maybe your cousin will be more emotionally mature and see the positive side." After re-examining her marriage and family, even if she chooses to divorce, when she enters the next relationship, she will have a better understanding of how to maintain it. ”

Zhong Kenan turned his head to stare at her, "You also think that my cousin has a certain responsibility?" ”

Of course, usually if a man cheats, everyone will tilt the moral balance in favor of the woman and blame the man. In fact, from a psychological point of view, we should see the reasons behind cheating, whether the atmosphere provided by women in the family is good enough, whether some of the husband's psychological or physical needs are duly satisfied, and when the satisfaction is not enough, the possibility of cheating will be greatly improved. So in a sense, cheating may be the result of the 'conspiracy' of husband and wife. Yan Xinyi replied that on the issue of cheating, if you blindly criticize the man and carry a moral evaluation in it, it will be difficult to repair the relationship between the two parties, and basically enter a state of complete breakdown of the marriage, and the respective responsibilities of both parties should be found first.

Zhong Kenan didn't speak for a long time, and after a long time, he asked slowly: "So, what if the woman cheats?" ”

Yan Xinyi was slightly stunned, "The principle is the same, and it may also be the result of the 'conspiracy' of husband and wife." ”

Zhong Kenan was silent again, he seemed to be in a trance and his mind did not belong.

"Why do you ask?" She couldn't help but want to get to know his inner world.

"No comment." He responded coldly.

She was silent, just quietly watching him, with a hint of watching and studying.

A heavy silence filled the air, until a neutral female voice broke the silence: "Oh, you're here too!" ”

The two of them were shocked and turned their heads at the same time, and Xu Dongdong stood at the door, wearing a gorgeous skirt and two braids, obviously dressed carefully. But with her round figure and the temperament of a silly big sister, this dress looks nondescript and even a little funny.

"Dressed like this, is it going on a blind date?" Yan Xinyi teased.

"I really said it, but it's not a blind date, but I want to find someone to go on a blind date." Xu Dongdong shook his head, "I mainly went to the marriage agency on the second floor, I thought that I might meet a handsome guy, but I didn't meet any of them, so I came up to Wu Han to make tea by the way." How did you end up here? ”

"We also came to Wu Han to make tea, but she is still busy, I'll make tea." Yan Xinyi took the initiative to pick up the kettle, re-boiled a kettle of water with the induction cooker, and talked to Xu Dongdong while boiling the water: "You just graduated from college, why are you in such a hurry to get married, isn't it good to enjoy a few more years of single life?" And the marriage agency doesn't know if it's reliable or not. ”

"Unreliable, very unreliable!" Xu Dongdong pursed his mouth and crossed his hands on his waist, "I told them that an important condition for my marriage is that the other party must be a handsome guy about 1.8 meters tall." They actually said that there are a lot of such people, but I don't meet people's requirements, people require beautiful faces, tall people, and good figures, which means that they dislike me for being short, fat and ugly, hum, the kind of man who only pays attention to the appearance of the other party is of low quality and has no taste, don't do it. ”

Yan Xinyi couldn't help laughing, "You yourself ask for a handsome guy of about 1.8 meters, don't you also pay attention to the other party's appearance, and you are embarrassed to say that people are of low quality and have no taste." ”

"Men and women are not the same." Xu Dongdong defended, "I saw such a saying on the Internet: really handsome guys are not prone to those childish ideas and means when they grow up, because they never lack admiring eyes around them, they usually cherish their feathers more, and know more about what kind of life they want, so they are more willing to treat themselves and life in a dedicated and warm way." Psychology expert, do you think it makes sense? ”

Yan Xin Yi smiled, "Even if it makes sense, it doesn't apply to everyone, everyone's situation is different, and it can't be generalized." ”

Xu Dongdong turned to Zhong Kenan and asked: "Handsome guy, do you have those childish ideas and means of flirting with girls?" ”

"No, it won't." Zhong Kenan replied in the affirmative.

"Are you single-minded about your feelings?" Xu Dongdong asked further.

The water was already boiling, Yan Xinyi changed to a new tea brew, and was about to flush the water, when she heard Xu Dongdong's question, she paused, and she suddenly wanted to know Zhong Kenan's answer.

However, she couldn't get an answer because Wu Han walked in and the conversation was interrupted.

"What kind of wind is this, blowing all three of you?" Wu Han was surprised.

After Yan Xinyi explained the general situation, she made tea and served a cup to everyone. She also drank a cup of tea herself, and sighed a little with the fragrance of tea: "Marriage is really like a siege, people outside want to go in, and people inside want to come out." ”

Wu Han took a sip of tea elegantly, "But now there are fewer and fewer people who want to go in, and at present, in some countries in Northern Europe, half of the love partners have adopted the cohabitation method, and only half of them choose to get married." In Japan, 40% of people do not get married, 30% in the United States and France, and in China, there is an increase in the number of people who choose to live together and give up their marriage. Chinese still attach great importance to marriage, but according to sociological surveys, in the 80s of the last century, single families in cities accounted for only 12 percent, and in the 2008 survey, single people accounted for 12%, and it is still growing. ”

"I think it's better to get married and be protected by the law." Xu Dongdong is not in favor of living together and not getting married.

"If there is no affection between two people, legal protection becomes a burden. I believe that the love of the new era will develop into a more liberal love, which is to recognize differences and diversity. Freedom is the wings of love, and love cannot fly without wings. Wu Han smiled faintly, "The love of growing old together from the beginning is certainly valuable, but it will also be tolerated if you keep changing your love object and constantly falling in love." In the past, the average life expectancy of people was short, only thirty or forty years, but now the life expectancy in developed countries has reached 70 or 80 years, and China is also in its 70s, and the life expectancy of women is higher than that of men. In such a long life, it becomes increasingly unrealistic to love only one person for the rest of your life. Maybe the future will choose a love that changes quickly, rather than a love that lasts for a lifetime. ”

"Xinyi, what do you think?" Xu Dongdong asked.

"On the premise of not violating the law and not violating the bottom line of social morality, we should recognize differences and diversity. Everyone's three views are different, even if they don't agree, they must understand and respect. Yan Xinyi lowered her eyelashes slightly and stared at the pale yellow tea soup in the cup, "Personally, like most people, I hope to enter the siege of marriage and never come out for the rest of my life." ”