"Ode to Joy? What's that? ”

Xiao Jinghuan asked curiously, feeling like a song.

"An urban women's workplace drama. Haven't you seen it? Drama"

Xi Manli was quite surprised:

"It was very popular when it first aired."

"Well, no, I've been staying abroad for the past few years, so I never chase domestic TV series. In fact, after the age of twenty, I rarely watch videos. If I had to, I would only watch crime documentaries. In this way, you should tell me first, what kind of person is Qu Xiaoxuan? ”

Xiao Jinghuan asked casually, wondering who she was compared to.

And it was these few sentences that made Xi Manli really feel how huge the difference between her and this Miss Xiao in life and culture was, but she still introduced it in detail:

"That's a girl from a rich family, a rich second generation, very good at playing, and a little capable, dare to love and hate, and when she sees a certain man, she stalks her, but the cultural connotation is not high, but she looks at people accurately, speaks straight, and looks down on Fan Shengmei, another leftover migrant worker who lives on the same floor.

Because in Qu Xiaoxuan's eyes, Fan Shengmei is the kind of woman who wants to pinch people and dreams of climbing to the rich and handsome, she desperately wants to squeeze into the so-called upper class circle when she sharpens her head. Qu Xiaoxuan privately called her a fishing girl.

This can't be said that Qu Xiaoxuan is mean, it can only be said that it is a sharp collision of two cultures. Different levels of society lead to different cultures. This is the naked ~ naked reality.

"The best thing about this TV series is that it has a strong sense of substitution, and the five girls portrayed have their own characteristics, no one is a bad person, and each has its own helpless life......"

Xiao Jinghuan listened and seemed to understand why she was so emotional, so she pointed out sharply:

"Sister Xi, let me tell you, I'm not Qu Xiaoxuan, and you're not that girl.

"Then, let's talk about what is a fishing girl?

"The so-called fishing girl refers to a woman who abandons her dignity and trades her soul and body for money.

I have to admit that there are quite a lot of such women in today's society.

"However, Sister Xi, you are not, and you can't have a sense of substitution in this aspect.

"I've heard my mom say that you've been in the group for so many years and you've never been in love...... I have always been conscientious in my work, and I have always been my mother and my brother Changning's good helper. If you were that kind of person, my mom would have fired you.

"My mother looks at people and employs people, but she is strict."

Such an affirmation makes Xi Manli very heartwarmed, but:

"I do value material things, that's true. Otherwise, I wouldn't have hesitated because of Xu Chen's proposal, and I should have agreed a long time ago. Xiao Xiao, you won't look down on me because of this! Looking for a man to pay attention to materialism, even if he is not fishing for women, if he takes it seriously, he is always a bit of a money worshipper. ”

Xiao Jinghuan shook her head and emphatically said:

"No, this can't be considered money worship. It can only be said that after getting older, it is more realistic to see everything.

"Unlike when I was young, I thought that love was the most important thing, and everything else could stand aside and be compromised. In the end, it is easy to be stabbed all over the body by the practical problems brought about by love.

In fact, this reality is a kind of life growth process.

"When you look for a man when you get older, you will think about the future development in many ways. If the other party's conditions are average, they will take into account that if they get married in the future, if they have children, will their quality of life decline or something.

"So, I think, it's normal for you to think that way.

"People go to high places, and water flows low places.

"I can only say that it is caused by your work circle.

"It's a woman, and they all hope to marry someone who they can see...... This man not only has to make himself worry-free, but also has to treat himself wholeheartedly.

"I think that's what a lot of girls think before they get married.

"Let's ask, who wants to marry a man, the final result is to marry someone who has been a free nanny for a lifetime, and boil himself to the point of being old...... Everyone wants to be hurt and pampered......"

Like her, she has seen a lot with her boss, seen widely, and has a wide horizon, so it is inevitable that she will be high and low.

Xi Manli felt that these words had gone to her heart, and she sighed unconsciously and sighed:

"Yes, the reason why a woman's family is married, is that she hopes to have a reliable and stable life. If this man can't give himself stability, but has the potential to become a burden to himself, then why

🔥 Still getting married? It's good to live alone. ”

That's how a lot of leftover women came about.

"yes, yes, actually, what we should be talking about is why we should get married?"

Xiao Jinghuan clapped her hands and shouted, feeling that this was the most worthy of study, so she immediately changed the topic:

"Sister Xi, what do you think is getting married for?

"You see all these beings, growing up from children who don't know anything, and eventually, most of them have to get married. Anyway, at this age, it becomes a strange thing not to get married. ”

"You've been forced to marry too?"

Xi Manli asked rarely, and immediately followed up on this topic.

"That's right...... So, I'm thinking, why do people have to get married? ”

Xiao Jinghuan held her chin and sighed lightly: "Sometimes I think that getting married is to let two people have a legitimate reason, you sleep with me and I sleep with you." An extra marriage certificate is just an extra shackle of morality and responsibility. ”

Xi Manli listened and expressed her opinion:

"Yes, marriage, you have to talk about the moral bottom line, you have to talk about responsibility, so it is sacred......

"I think that marriage is two people who are in love, have a more consistent goal, are willing to participate in each other's life, and allow themselves to be managed by each other, and accompany each other through a process of life.

"In this process, we have to be responsible for each other, and we must never give up. Whether rich or poor, or sick and suffering......

"Because it takes a lifetime, and because the people in this world have too many individual differences, and because a woman's youth is limited, when a woman chooses marriage, she always hopes to find a good condition. For women have to bear the pain of childbirth. If this man is not good enough and not good enough for herself, then why should she suffer this physical pain to give birth to each other?

Therefore, getting married is the process of finding a suitable person for yourself, treating yourself well, sharing joys and sorrows together, raising children together, enriching life, and struggling for life.

"Yes, that's it, a good material life is needed, but it can't be too demanding, because spiritual life is more important: only those who can talk can help each other for a lifetime......"

After listening to this, Xiao Jinghuan knocked on the table, pointed at her and smiled: "Look, look, do you still need me to help you analyze?" Actually, you think it through your heart! ”

Xi Manli was stunned.

Xiao Jinghuan continued: "Now, let's go back and talk about your mate selection criteria!

"Let's put it this way, the men in our circle are usually sharp when they look at people and pick people. People who want to have fun, a large number of people, and want to find a suitable woman to live with, there are, but their conditions are generally very high. As for you, you can only be regarded as the kind of marginal person, and it is difficult to enter their eyes and hearts. ”

In her opinion, Xi Manli's conditions are average, such a woman, there is no particularly prominent, in this circle, she grabs a lot, it is really ordinary:

"So, it's really important to find your own position.

"If you want to be rich for the rest of your life, or you can take a risk and mix in this circle, there are good ones, bad ones, people who are bloody, and there are many people who are ruined.

"If you want to have a stable home, find a stable man.

"This person is the person you just said, who is suitable for himself and treats himself well. When finding this kind of man, the material standard naturally has to be lowered.

"But, really, sometimes material things really aren't important. Because matter can be created by itself. It is not necessarily completely dependent on what men give.

"Just like our family, my dad, my mom, they have a lot of wealth, materially, they don't lack anything, but they don't have a complete home.

"My dad has been rich all his life, but he has been poor all his life in marriage. So far, my only wish is to have a confidant wife in my old age, and live a comfortable life.

"So, think about it, if the man who proposes to you is a man who can make you feel at ease, then it is much better to accept and struggle together than to lock yourself in an illusory circle and find a man who may never satisfy you......"

Xi Manli listened quietly, and suddenly understood her heart.

In fact, with her, what you want is stability.

If she just wanted money, she wouldn't have stayed in this position for so many years. After following Chairman Jin for so long, she has gone out to see it, and some rich people have secretly expressed that they want to develop with her, of course, this kind of development is mostly just ** and money

Trading, she hasn't even moved her heart, isn't it because she has that truth, waiting for the stable person who is worth her pay?

Maybe Xu Chen is not good enough, but he is stable, real, and can let her have a home in Shanghai, he liked her more than ten years ago, and he is still interested in himself more than ten years later, such a long-term man, what else can he find fault with her?

She had an epiphany: "A word shatters the person in the dream." Xiao Xiao, I know what I should choose. ”

Xiao Jinghuan listened and smiled lightly: "Then I'll congratulate you first: it's not easy to find a wishful man." ”

Xi Manli nodded: "It's not easy. Whether it is wishful thinking or not, it will have to be known in the next life. Xiao Xiao, now, I have another question for you. ”

Xiao Jinghuan saw that her question was very serious, and felt that her question was very important, so she had to answer immediately:

"What's the problem?"

"How would a girl from a background like you pick a husband?"

Xi Manli brought the conversation to her. --- off topic--- see you tomorrow!