"You're not going to talk to them seriously?" Chang Sheng asked.

When Zhao Sulin heard this, the beer that was already a little bitter was more palatable, "They won't listen, since I was a child, what they did to me is - you have to study hard and take the first place in the exam, you have to listen to your parents, you have to love your younger brother, you are not good enough to do this, you are wrong to do that......"

The night breeze was blowing, and the branches were rubbing, making a slight noise.

Zhao Sulin showed a complicated expression, "It's always them talking, but what about what I want to say?" They never really listened to me. ”

Chang Shenghua nodded and sighed: "Behind every highly restrained and repressed person, most of them will have a pair of parents who are too strict. ”

Zhao Sulin's cleanliness habit is more of a behavior to cope with anxiety, a kind of inferiority complex that cannot self-identify with himself.

Children can never meet the requirements in the eyes of their parents, or their parents ask them to chase higher goals, or even deny, refuse, abuse, etc., will make the child feel that he is incompetent or not good enough, so that he desperately does better, and the "cause" of many perfectionists is more or less related to this aspect.

Behind the high degree of cleanliness, what is reflected is the heavy pressure brought by Zhao Sulin's many requirements and disapproval from his parents, and too much anxiety makes him unable to affirm himself, so he can only alleviate his inner pain through some ritual behaviors.

The action of "washing" itself has the meaning of washing away the filth, and Zhao Sulin thinks that he is not good enough, which brings guilt, and can only relieve his anxiety through the endless action of "washing".

Therefore, people must have a sense of identity with themselves, don't always feel that they are worthless, then they will really not succeed in doing anything, and they are prone to all kinds of psychological problems.

The two of them sat in the bus waiting point on the side of the road late at night, silently drank half a dozen beers, Zhao Sulin looked at the time, and felt that his parents should have slept, which meant that he wanted to go back to sleep and come back to "fight", and he was very diligent in throwing all the beer cans into the trash.

Chang Shenghua glanced at him and said lightly: "I said it, I have to face up to your own problems, and you must also actively solve them, otherwise it will be meaningless to keep you in the team at the beginning." ”

At last year's fraternity, Chang Shenghua suggested that the team members brought were all mentally in a state or other conditions that were not suitable for staying in the Dragon Destroyer, Zhao Sulin was one of them, but in the follow-up evaluation, he and most of the other people passed the lowest line, because their subjective willingness was to stay in the Dragon Destroying Brigade, and this subjective score played a big role.

But if there is no way to adjust their state, Chang Shenghua will still suggest that they consider changing troops or demobilizing again, and the work of special forces itself is not something that can be messed around with.

Zhao Sulin listened, didn't say anything, nodded after a long time, turned around and walked into the community.

The streetlamp stretched his shadow, and it seemed a little lonely, but his back was straight, and every step was solid.

Chang Shenghua retracted his gaze, stretched his waist, and walked to the hotel.

It's so late, she still has to be a confidant sister, if the little lion says that she doesn't have the "benevolence of a doctor", she has to wipe out the other party's lion hair.

And in the distance, above the wilderness, Ning Shaoming was marching with his team members at night, when a gust of wind passed, he suddenly sneezed, and he was so frightened that he quickly pinched his nose.

Tatsutsu, who was carrying an electronic device next to him, asked in a low voice, "Was it frozen when you fell into the lake?" ”

Ning Shaoming rubbed his nose, his camouflage-covered face was full of depression, "How can I be so weak?" Someone must be speaking ill of me! ”

Tatsutsu shook his head helplessly.

Early the next morning, it happened to be Saturday, Chang Shenghua finished breakfast, and then slowly went to Zhao Sulin's house to do a "home visit".

The atmosphere of the Zhao family is obviously a little not very good, Zhao's father and Zhao's mother are pulling their faces when they see Zhao Sulin, and Zhao Suzheng, the younger brother of the Zhao family, didn't see anything to do, and greeted Chang Shenghua wholeheartedly, so enthusiastic that he couldn't talk.

Chang Shenghua listened to the meaning of Zhao Suzheng's words, probably to introduce his girlfriend's family, his future father-in-law is an official of the local government, and his future mother-in-law's maiden family is engaged in military business, the meaning could not be more obvious.

Chang Shenghua quietly and vaguely mentioned a few things that she had no right to decide on this kind of material, but Zhao Suzheng didn't take it seriously, thinking that she was just holding the shelf, and said with a smile that it would be easy to discuss when they met.

Fortunately, Zhao Sulin was not present, otherwise he would have to blow up when he saw his younger brother with such a thick skin and no face.

Chang Shenghua has no liking or dislike for a clown like Zhao Suzheng, and he doesn't even have the interest in tossing the other party.

When Zhao Suzheng was almost finished, Chang Shenghua chatted with him for a few words, and without a trace, he led the topic to some recent market news in the city.

Zhao Sulin didn't notice anything, and took the initiative to say: "Don't say it, the city has been quite chaotic recently, I heard that there are a lot of mixed people in the West District, and I don't know what I want to do, just stay on the side of the road and stare at you, it looks weird and crazy." ”

"Didn't do anything?" Chang Shenghua moved his eyebrows, "Maybe it's a mistake." ”

"It's impossible, half of them are familiar faces, they used to receive protection money everywhere," Zhao Suzheng tried his best to prove that he was not talking nonsense, "The other half are fresh faces, I don't know if they are from a small county town, they don't look at it with any culture......"

Zhao Suzheng showed a little disdain, as if he had forgotten that he had only lived in the city in the past two years.

Later, it became a special session for Zhao Suzheng to complain about the lack of quality of migrant workers, Chang Shenghua had already heard the news he wanted, and he didn't plan to listen to the rest, "Uh-huh, ah-ah" replied with a few perfunctory words.

Zhao Sulin, who was dragged to the room by Zhao's mother, soon came out and changed his clothes, Zhao Suzheng immediately said that their family asked his fiancée to go out for dinner at noon, and invited Chang Shenghua to go with him.

Zhao Sulin handed Chang Sheng an inquiring look.

He must be going to meet the future brother and sister, if the other party's temperament is okay, then the family will not get worse and worse; If the other party is a-stirring stick, then he should try to stay away from them and don't get fishy.

Chang Sheng painted back Zhao Sulin with an indifferent expression.

Anyway, she came here for two things, one is related to You-Know-Who, and the other is to solve Zhao Sulin's problem - whether it is as the acting instructor of the Dragon Destroying Brigade or Zhao Sulin's current psychiatrist, she has this responsibility.

After confirming that Chang Shenghua would follow, Zhao Sulin felt much more at ease.

If he was alone, he was afraid that he would accidentally turn around and leave.

In the past, Zhao Sulin definitely didn't have the courage to do this, but maybe his thoughts are different now, and he really endures to the limit, he always feels that he will explode when he pokes it, just like a balloon that has been blown up to the extreme.

Chang Shenghua can understand him, when a person decides to let go, he can ignore everything, you poke him, he can instantly fight with you in a world three battles, not to mention a guy like Zhao Sulin, who has been holding back for 30 years.

When she went out, the Zhao family went to the parking space to drive, Chang Shenghua said that she drove one alone, and Zhao Sulin followed her out of the community and went to the hotel to pick up the car.

The Zhao family waited on the side of the road for a while, and were startled when they saw Chang Shenghua driving out.

They originally thought that the soldiers on leave would be very low-key, but they didn't expect the car painted by Chang Sheng to be so trenched, just by looking at the logo of the car, they knew that the car was about the same price as their family's current house.

"This female leader is really rich...... "Mother Zhao muttered.

Zhao Suzheng narrowed his eyes, "It's quite rich." ”

In fact, this car was only temporarily lent to Chang Sheng by Swende, so that she could drive it casually in China without having to buy a car, but the Zhao family didn't know, they just thought that Chang Sheng was rich, and their minds couldn't help but become more active.

Zhao Sulin also has a psychological shadow on Chang Sheng's painting to grasp the steering wheel, but the place to eat is in the city center, with a large traffic flow, unlike the town where the dragon is stationed, which can drive fast, Chang Shenghua can only honestly step on the accelerator, Zhao Sulin is relieved.

Seriously, they didn't even get sick when they sat in the staggering armored car, only Chang Shenghua was too lethal when he was driving, which made many team members still have palpitations.

However, Chang Shenghua didn't drive a car to show off her wealth, she just wanted to see the various reactions of the Zhao family, if it was really hopeless, then the advice she could give to Zhao Sulin would be completely different.

When he arrived at the hotel he had made an appointment, Chang Shenghua parked the car in the parking space, gave Zhao Sulin a sympathetic and comforting look, and got out of the car with him.

The three members of the Zhao family waited outside diligently, and entered the high-end looking hotel with them, and when they entered the box, there were already people inside.

Before going out, Zhao Suzheng said that he would only see one of his girlfriends, but there was obviously more than one person in the box, Zhao Sulin only glanced at it, and his expression was immediately not very good-looking.

I saw that in the box, two fashionable and beautiful women were talking and laughing, one wearing a red skirt and the other wearing a black skirt, both of them were painted with very delicate makeup, and there was a brand handbag on the stool next to them, and the jewelry on the body was not cheap.

Chang Shenghua quickly looked at them, then withdrew his gaze, and said in his heart, no matter which one is Zhao Suzheng's girlfriend, can he afford the woman's living standard?

And there were two girls at the scene, Zhao Suzheng's girlfriend is said to have no sisters, and this occasion is not suitable for bringing a friend to dinner, thinking of last night, it is not difficult to guess that one of them is Zhao Sulin's blind date.

- The blind date who has a very rich family and wants Zhao Sulin to be rich.

Zhao Sulin is not stupid, so he immediately changed his face, but it was not good to turn around and leave, so he gave Chang Sheng a look.

Chang Shenghua signaled him to be calm, and then took a step in his direction, and the two walked in almost side by side.

The two girls stood up to greet the Zhao family, and when their eyes fell on Zhao Sulin, they were a little more amazed, and when they saw Chang Sheng's painting, they became suspicious and puzzled.