Chapter 64: Essay "Sixty-Four"
Beautiful, in the days of deep love, who can tell clearly, what is sweet and what is bitter. I only know that if I am sure, I will not hesitate. If you want to lose, you will lose to the pursuit, and if you want to marry, you will marry happiness. Yes, as long as you think it is right, you will go without hesitation and persist to the end, even if there is no result in the end, this is the so-called to have your own pursuit.
In fact, it doesn't matter how long two people have been together, what matters is whether you have been in this person's heart or not. Some people are together for even one day, but they feel like they have stayed in their hearts for a lifetime; Some people, even if they have been together for a lifetime, have not been in their hearts for a single day, and have never been truly happy.
When we always complain about the darkness of the world, it is precisely our own hearts that are covered with a thick layer of dust. A wise man never lives in the mouth of others, nor in the eyes of others. Knowing one's own heart, seeing one's own nature, not having a delusional fate, not doing anything without a heart, being free, moving and still, and knowing one's own warmth and coldness, this is a kind of practice. People can't be too fake, it's hard to be fake and heart-to-heart. In the world, you can't see too clearly, it's difficult to act, and you will always complain about social injustice.
In a person's life, there are many roads, there are straight and smooth roads, and there are sheep intestines; There is prosperity, and there is desolation. In any case, the road is to be walked by yourself, and no one can give you all the dependence. Don't shy away, don't retreat, face it with an open-minded attitude, and your will eventually come. Sometimes, you think you can't get past it, and when you look back, that's it. There is no such thing as no way out, as long as you are willing to walk, you will be treading on the road.
If you hold yourself too high, others may not look up to you; If you put yourself too low, others may not respect you; No one is perfect, no one is perfect, and there is no need to hide one's shortcomings. To be a man, you must be able to raise your head, but also be able to bow your head. Between pitching and pitching, it is not only a posture, but also an attitude and a quality. It is a kind of courage and confidence to raise your head in the face of adversity; Bowing your head in good times is a kind of calmness and low-key. Have the courage to strive for the top, but also have the atmosphere that is willing to bow your head. Keep your eyes open, refuse temptation, and move forward. If the shoes are not suitable, don't stuff them hard, it's your own feet that are grinding; If the other party doesn't answer the call, don't replay it again and again, the person who cherishes you will call as soon as possible; If you move to a restaurant, don't go all the way to eat, and you can't spend your time all the time on the way to follow. Everyone and things, just have a clear conscience, don't force it if it's not yours, anyway, what leaves is the scenery, and what is left is life.
It is always said that when you are old, when you are old and have nothing, you will chew on your memories to live. However, not all memories of a person's life are beautiful and worth recalling. Maybe when you look back on the past, you will find that all the encounters and all the possession are so worthless. It may even feel a kind of helplessness and sadness, like a clean white paper that has been splashed with ink. In the journey of life, everyone is busy getting to know all kinds of people, thinking that this is enriching life. But the most valuable encounter is when you meet yourself again at a certain moment, and you will understand at that moment: traveling all over the world is just to find a way back to your heart.
There are some things that you can take care of, but don't overdo it, it will wear out your mind and weigh on your steps; There is some pain, you can dwell on it, but don't take it too long, it will reduce your fighting spirit and lose your way. If it doesn't belong to you, don't refuse to give up, that's actually a kind of mind and bearing; If you are destined, don't let go easily, let self-confidence and persistence become a quality and connotation. If you care more, you will have less fun; If you look at it lightly, everything will be relieved.