"Then Fan Jiying helped you settle this matter later?" Cuckoo asked.

Huang Liwen nodded: "At that time, it really caused a lot of trouble to Sister Fan, and it was really not easy for her to be the head of the kindergarten. Sister Fan was very clear about my situation at that time, so she still understood me better, but the parents of those children didn't understand this, so they thought that if you have any personal affairs, with private emotions, then you can not come to work, why are other children's children scared like this because of you! How could they have known how important this job was to me at that time! My family is gone, my husband is gone, and the source of livelihood is left with this job! ”

Speaking of these, she became a little sad again, and couldn't help wiping two handfuls of tears, with a look of grievance.

Du Juan herself is still a girl who has not married and started a family, of course, it is farther away from having children, but she puts herself in her shoes, if her children are in kindergarten, go home and say that their teacher is looking at them, and then suddenly crying, it is estimated that she will also be startled, worried that this teacher will have any mental problems, will not make any irrational actions or something like this.

"You can't imagine the situation at that time, the parents of a class of children went to the kindergarten the next day, and asked that I must be replaced, and I was not allowed to take their class again. But those parents were not satisfied with this, and they demanded that the kindergarten must expel me, otherwise they would not teach their children's classes, and they would not be able to harm the children of other classes. It's as if I'm not a person, I've become the kind of wolf grandmother who eats people and doesn't spit out bones, I knew at the time, I cried alone for a long time, and I felt that I was too miserable, how could I not even have someone who understood me! ”

Huang Liwen wiped her eyes and recalled what happened at the time: "I was really disheartened at the time, I won't tell you, there was a thought at that time, I think that otherwise I would just take the initiative to resign, don't continue to make trouble with people here, make everyone hate me, why did I come here!" After I resigned, I found a place where there was no one, and I never wanted to live in this cruel world again.

I really thought so at the time, and I was going to do it, when I went to resign, Sister Fan found that something was wrong with me, she told me that she would not approve my resignation at this time anyway, and she was also negotiating with those parents, saying that I could be temporarily suspended and not continue to contact the children in the kindergarten until I was sure that my mood was stable and adjusted. She knew my situation at the time, so she knew what it would be like if I didn't have this job, so she resolutely refused to approve it.

Because of this matter, she was besieged by her parents for a long time, and then she personally vouched for herself, so that those parents were relieved, for this matter, Sister Fan also fell a lot of complaints, I feel very sorry for her every time I think about it. And she not only helped me stabilize those parents temporarily, but also worked hard to help me adjust my mentality, change my original attitude towards life, and help me regain my strength. Sister Fan, as well as my brother-in-law, are all my nobles and benefactors! It can be said that without them, I would not be where I am today. ”

"Listening to you say this, Fan Jiying really endured a lot of pressure during that time!" In fact, Du Juan didn't have much interest in Huang Liwen's past experience, but in order to lead her to continue talking, she still needed to cater to her, and now she seized the opportunity to quickly pull the topic to Fan Jiying, "Your usual friendship with Fan Jiying should be very good, right?" That's why she can bear so much pressure for you. Or is Fan Jiying, as the principal, like this to all the teachers in your garden? ”

"Whether it's all like this, I really can't say, after all, no one else has encountered such a bad experience with me, right!" Huang Liwen shook her head, saying that she couldn't answer Du Juan's question, "I used to teach Sister Fan really ordinary, and I didn't think it was particularly good, but after that period of time, I felt like she was my own sister." At that time, I really wanted to eat at their house and live in their house on weekends, and Sister Fan took me with me for everything, so I treated me like my sister and didn't let me think nonsense. Although my brother-in-law is usually very busy, as long as he is at home, he never annoys me, and he doesn't mind me crying at their house, and I am especially grateful to him. You don't know, I didn't adjust as well as I do now, I felt like a pool full of water that couldn't turn off the faucet, and the tears could bubble up anytime and anywhere, how could I be so strong and optimistic as I am now! ”

Tang Hongye felt that his cheeks might twitch uncontrollably a few times, and among him and Huang Liwen, there must be one person who had a big misunderstanding of the words "strong and optimistic".

"Fan Jiying's husband is usually very busy at work, right? That Fan Jiying is indeed very hard, and he has to take care of the affairs of the unit and be busy at home. As far as you know, is Fan Jiying's husband going well at work? Du Juan asked, "I know that you may ask some private things about Fan Jiying, and you will feel more mentally burdened, but this matter is related to Fan Jiying's son Lin Kailang, so it is of great significance, I hope you must try to help recall, we need to know if there is anyone who wants to be bad for Fan Jiying or her husband." ”

"Sister Fan, I really can't think of it, absolutely not, Sister Fan is so good, there has never been any problem with our kindergarten, I was a very serious thing that time, Sister Fan helped me calm down, I am simply grateful, there is really nothing else! If you don't believe it, you can check it on the Internet to see if our kindergarten is all praised! Huang Liwen hurriedly replied, and then talked about Fan Jiying's husband Lin Jie, "As for my brother-in-law, I don't know much about it, after all, I often went to Sister Fan's house during that time, and I had very little contact with my brother-in-law, so it was impossible for him to know about his work." ”

"Didn't you eat and live in Fan Jiying's house a lot during that time? That's what you just said! How come there is so little contact with Lin Jie? The cuckoo pretended to be surprised.

Huang Liwen spread her hands: "I did eat and live in Sister Fan's house a lot during that time, but I usually go over on weekends, just two days, usually on weekdays, Sister Fan is very hard, and I am embarrassed to go to other people's homes every day to disturb." There was also a period of three or four months before and after, until I adjusted it, Sister Fan's children were also older, and the study pressure became bigger together, which especially involved her energy, and I was embarrassed to always run to make trouble for her when I had nothing to do! ”

"So Lin Jie rarely spends time at home, including on weekends?"

"You can also say that, my brother-in-law is very busy with work, Sister Fan talked to me before, she said you see, in this world, in fact, many times there is no such perfect thing, a person wants to live a happy life, first of all, you need to learn to know how to make trade-offs, not too much pursuit of perfection, contentment in order to be happy. I think what she said is particularly right, Sister Fan said that if she is the kind of woman who is particularly greedy, she will not be as satisfied as she is now, because she will feel that her man does not know what to do outside all day long, and leaves the house for her to take care of, and she has to bear the burden of the family and the affairs of the unit alone, and then there will be complaints. ”

"Yes, you say that, I also sound like Fan Jiying should indeed have complaints, after all, a family is run by two people, her husband has a job to be busy, doesn't she also have a career herself? Her husband threw everything to her, which is really not fair and reasonable! Du Juan looked very surprised, as if he had just learned about such a thing, "Originally, it was said that Fan Jiying's husband Lin Jie was a model husband, and the two of them were a model couple, but now it seems that ...... It doesn't seem to be particularly objective! ”

"That's not the case, Sister Fan and brother-in-law are really recognized as a model couple in our garden!" Huang Liwen hurriedly shook her head and waved her hand, looking very anxious, as if she was afraid that Du Juan would cause some misunderstanding because of her words, "You don't understand the situation, but don't guess!" Sister Fan's work ability is definitely strong, after she became the principal, our garden has indeed improved in all aspects compared with the past, which is obvious to all. But let's say a heart-wrenching truth, a public kindergarten like ours is actually the advantage of a relatively stable job income, and there is nothing else to brag about.

The problem is here, all relatively stable jobs and incomes are generally the kind that can't survive and starve, Sister Fan and their family have a good life, so how can it be that they rely on Sister Fan's salary in our garden! Now what do you say is not expensive? If they really live on Sister Fan's salary, the tuition fees that their children need to spend to learn this and that are not enough! So their family can live a good life thanks to their brother-in-law! ”

"Lin Jie's salary is much better than Fan Jiying's in all aspects, right?" Tang Hongye asked.

"How much, then I don't know, this kind of thing, how embarrassed are we outsiders to inquire." Huang Liwen shook her head, "I just heard what Sister Fan said, and she said it when she enlightened me, plus a little bit of my subjective judgment." Sister Fan told me that I can't blame men too much, although I have paid a lot in the past, but I also have certain problems, that is, I pushed my man too hard, gave him too little affirmation and praise, and was too dissatisfied with him, so he felt that other women's arms were warmer, so he couldn't wait to run into the arms of others to find emotional comfort.

Sister Fan did say this point, when I was with my ex-husband, I paid a lot, but my expectations for him seemed to be a little high, so sometimes he encountered something that didn't go well, I always complained about him, and it may indeed be invisibly pushing him out, so that he didn't even care about so much of my efforts, and in the end he lost a mess. In this regard, Sister Fan is much better than me, I often heard Sister Fan call her brother-in-law 'potential stock' when I was eating at their house, and my brother-in-law came back from outside, no matter how late it was, Sister Fan must have greeted him with a smile and said to him, 'Our family's potential stock is back!' Worked hard today, right? That kind of thing really makes me feel very warm and caring as a woman. ”

"It's not easy to do this without complaining at all, without complaining at all." Du Juan nodded, not making any comments on the rights and wrongs of Fan Jiying's approach, and only following her words.

"Yes, if you can really do it without any complaints, then it is estimated that you will be a saint, but it's a pity that everyone needs to eat and sleep, and they all have their own little emotions, so no one can do it!" Huang Liwen waved her hand, "This is what I think I admire most about Sister Fan, she especially knows how to enlighten herself, no matter what makes her unhappy with her brother-in-law, she can always find a way to give herself relief, so the two of them can always be so harmonious and affectionate." Brother-in-law always felt that only Sister Fan was the woman who understood him best, tolerated him the most, and understood him, no one could replace him, and no one could do better than her. If I had been able to do this, I might not have been able to do what I do today. ”

As she spoke, her expression became gloomy, probably remembering what happened to her, so she couldn't help but feel a little sad.

"If you put it that way, Fan Jiying and Lin Jie, a fairy couple and model couple, are actually able to reach such a state by Fan Jiying's efforts, am I not wrong to say this?"

"Well, that's right, it's true," Huang Liwen nodded yearningly, affirming Du Juan's conclusion, "Sister Fan told me a very incisive truth, she said that men are the same as our kindergarten children, but the appearance is more mature than those children, it is inevitable that there will be willful times, it is inevitable that there will be times when they are messing around, it is inevitable that there will be times when they are ignorant or when they do wrong things, you need to give them enough patience, enough tolerance, and frequent praise and encouragement, In this way, the desired effect can be achieved. Sister Fan also said that treating men is like flying a kite, when you release it, you have to spread your hands, and if it is too tight, the rope will break, so you must know how to let men go out and fly high, as long as the key thread is held in your hand, you can always get it back. 2k reading network