When Su Yun returned to the room, the child in his arms had already fallen asleep, his eyes were completely swollen from crying, and his face was covered with snot and tears, which was really not beautiful.

Su Yun was distressed and angry, and whispered to the painting screen to call hot water to wipe the child's face, and asked Su Niang to call the child's nurse.

Then she took the child in her arms and walked softly to the bed, trying to put him down.

Unexpectedly, as soon as she moved, the child's little brows furrowed tightly, and a pair of small hands grabbed her collar tightly even in a dream.

Su Yun's heart was sour, and he patted him on the back soothingly, and bent over and lightly put him on the bed.

Then she carefully pulled down one of his small hands, and during this time, she patted him without stopping.

When the child's brows finally stretched out again, making an even breathing sound, and obviously fell asleep, Su Yun sat on the edge of the bed, looked at the child's sleeping little face, and let out a long sigh.

Soon, the picture screen came back with water, and Su Niang also brought Jiaming's nurse over.

Su Yun softly instructed the painting screen to help Jiaming wipe his face clean, watched him sleep, and walked to the study on the other side of the courtyard with Su Niang.

This courtyard is probably the new house of Zheng Yunge and Gu Dalangjun when they got married, and the layout is very comprehensive, with a master room, a subordinate room and a study, as well as a small kitchen.

Jiaming's nurse Yu Niang was already waiting there, as well as the two doctors called by Cui Shi and Gu Dalangjun, only to see that one of them was an old white-haired old man, and the other was a young man with a round face and thick eyebrows, wearing a blue dress.

The young man smiled at the sight of her with a row of shiny white teeth, and looked very lively and childish.

Su Yun was slightly stunned, and then the three of them stood up and gave her a simple salute.

Su Yun retracted his thoughts, said "um", and asked them to sit down, staring at Yu Niang tightly, but after seeing her sit down, he wrung the handkerchief in his hand a little helplessly, his eyes were full of fear and uneasiness that he didn't know why he was called here.

Su Yun quietly watched Yu Niang's reaction, and when he thought that in the past six years, the only person who had been by that child's side was this woman who was kind but also cowardly, Su Yun couldn't help but sigh.

She herself also walked to the seat behind the desk and knelt down, this era is similar to the Tang Dynasty, it is rare to see a seat, ordinary people's homes, there are only overhead square couches or seats, and the way of kneeling and sitting is adopted when sitting, which makes Su Yun very unaccustomed to it at first, but fortunately, kneeling is a more dignified sitting posture, and it can usually be more casual.

After sitting down, Su Yun glanced at the three people in front of him, then looked at the two doctors and said, "I know that you were invited by Madame because she was worried about me and Xiao Langjun." ”

As she spoke, she deliberately avoided a certain man, and sure enough, she raised her eyebrows when she saw the round-faced young man, "It's just that Madame is really worried, Xiao Langjun and I have nothing to do, but Xiao Langjun was a little frightened, and I really don't need the two doctors to run so hard." I have something to ask Yu Niang in a while, if the two of you have something, you can leave first. ”

When the elderly doctor heard this, he twisted his beard and nodded, and just wanted to retire, but the round-faced young doctor grinned and said: "It's all here, it's not good to leave like this, the child can be frightened This matter can be big or small, if the fright is too much, it is easy to have nightmares, madam, for the sake of properness, it is better to let Xiao Langjun see it below." ”

Su Yun glanced at him deeply, she could guess that Cui's and her cheap husband invited these two people over, it was light to see a doctor, and it was important to inquire about the situation, after all, Zheng Yunge's performance today was too different from before.

It was Su Niang and Huaping who saw her arguing with Cui's in public, and they also looked weird, if they didn't know that she had "amnesia" and had been by her side, they were afraid that they would think that their young lady had changed someone.

Anyway, there are some things about the kid in the room that it's time for them to know.

Su Yun's heart was heavy, and he nodded and said, "It's okay, it's just that Xiao Langjun has fallen asleep now, and if you want to see a doctor, you need to wait for him to wake up, and bother the two of you to wait for a while." ”

The old doctor hurriedly arched his hand and said, "Don't dare to be." ”

The young man was still smiling, and he also looked like he was doing his best for the little master.

Su Yun didn't look at them anymore, turned to Yu Niang, who had been bowing her head uneasily since she sat down, and said with a slightly heavy eye: "Yu Niang, I'm going to ask you a few questions now, and you tell me truthfully." ”

Yu Niang seemed to be startled, and her voice stammered, "Less...... What the young lady wants to ask, the straight question is, the old slave must know everything. ”

Su Yun nodded, and subconsciously wanted to pick up the pen and paper to record, and his eyes swept to a table of familiar and unfamiliar utensils, only to remember that this was ancient times, and there was no notebook and pen that she was used to.

Su Niang, who was next to her, saw Su Yun's slightly frowning brows, as if she had thought of something, leaned over slightly and asked, "Young lady, do you want to use paper and ink?" ”

Because of the presence of outsiders, Su Yun couldn't say anything, so he could only stubbornly say "um", secretly regretting in his heart why he didn't sign up for a calligraphy class or something to cultivate his sentiments.

So far, I can only bite the bullet.

Because Zheng Yunge could also write before, Su Niang estimated that Su Yun wanted to make some records, so she chose a small block pen dedicated to writing small characters for her, and soon prepared pen, ink, paper and inkstone for her.

Su Yun recalled a little clumsily how the people on TV took the pen, pretended to be calm and picked up the pen, and said: "I will ask you some of the behaviors that Xiao Langjun may usually have in a while, you think back to Xiao Langjun's performance in the past six months, you only need to answer that he is often like this, occasionally like this or not like this, I don't know, understand?" ”

Yu Niang hurriedly answered yes.

The round-faced young man looked at Su Yun's obviously unskilled pen holding posture, his brows frowned slightly imperceptibly, and when he heard her words at this time, the weirdness in his heart was even heavier, and he couldn't help but mention a little interested, and it was not just the mentality of watching a play.

Su Yun ignored the round-faced young man's obviously interested eyes and asked the first question, "Is Xiao Langjun usually easy to get angry or lose his temper, and often some small things will make him unable to control his emotions?" ”

Yu Niang was stunned for a moment, and nodded hurriedly, "What the young lady said is that Xiao Langjun often loses his temper, and sometimes he just drops a few grains of rice when he eats, and Xiao Langjun will make a lot of noise, and it always takes the old slave to coax him for a long time before he quiets down." ”

As she got down to business, Su Yun's heart calmed down, she picked up the pen, carefully recorded Yu Niang's words, and continued to ask a few questions.

When asked, "Does Xiao Langjun sometimes hurt others", the faces of everyone present changed, and Su Niang couldn't help but call softly, "Young lady......"

There was uneasiness in the voice.

Xiao Langjun is only a 5-year-old child, if urinating at such a young age will hurt others, it is terrible, how could the young lady ask this?

Su Yun turned a deaf ear and only looked at Yu Niang fixedly, Yu Niang bit her lip and whispered: "It can't be said that it hurts others, but sometimes some people chew the root of their tongue behind their backs and say...... said that Xiao Langjun is a lonely star in the sky, and when no one is destined to love him, Xiao Langjun will ...... will be emotional, and even ...... Will ......"

Seeing that Yu Niang was a little unable to speak, Su Yun's eyes sank, and she took her words, "Will you do some violent acts, right?" ”

Yu Niang's eyes were red, she nodded, and said, "But Xiao Langjun didn't mean it, he is still so young......"

Su Yun pursed his lips and didn't speak, yes, not on purpose, such a young child, how can he understand what is intentional or unintentional, he is just ...... Inability to control one's behavior.

But I heard Yu Niang continue: "Actually, before, San Langjun and Xiao Langjun were very good, they were about the same age, although in terms of generation, San Langjun was Xiao Langjun's uncle, but they were just like children of the same age.

It's just that...... It's just that once, Da Langjun wrote again and said that he would not come back, it was about a year and a half ago, Da Langjun made war exploits and was rumored to be the god of war, and Mrs. wrote a letter early to ask Da Langjun to go home for the New Year, who knew that Da Langjun still did not come back.

Saburo-kun ...... He was angry with Xiao Langjun, saying that it was because of him and ...... Young lady, Da Langjun didn't come back, and said a few unpleasant words, Xiao Langjun lost his temper, and pushed San Langjun to the ground, causing San Langjun to sprain his foot, and then ......"

Yu Niang picked up a handkerchief and wiped her tears, choked up: "Mrs. punished Xiao Langjun for kneeling in the ancestral hall all night, and no one was allowed to accompany him...... What a child! The ancestral hall was dark and gloomy at night, and even adults were furious in their hearts, let alone a child.

When the old slave went to pick up Xiao Langjun the next day, Xiao Langjun shrank in the corner, and even the old slave walked into him made him scream with fear, and when he went back, he had a high fever, and finally rescued him......"

Su Yun's heart trembled suddenly, and it was not easy to stabilize his trembling hand and record these things word by word.

The round-faced young man - Qin Xuan looked at the corners of the woman's mouth tightly at this time, and the serious pity in her eyes, there was no more playfulness in her eyes, and a contemplative expression appeared on her face.

After a long while, Su Yun finally finished asking all the questions she wanted to ask, she looked at the three sheets of paper full of words, and let out a long breath.

Su Niang couldn't help but ask worriedly: "Young lady, Xiao Langjun...... Something can't be wrong, right? Xiao Langjun ...... Did Xiao Langjun have any illness? ”

With these questions, Su Niang seemed to see a child with low self-esteem, irritability, mood change, and often aggressiveness, which ...... Is this still the Xiao Langjun she knows?

Although Su Niang didn't want to admit it, she couldn't help but guess at this time, whether Xiao Langjun was a brain...... A little out of order?

Su Yun lowered his eyes slightly, and naturally understood what Su Niang was thinking.

Even in modern China, people still do not have a correct understanding of psychological problems, and do not pay enough attention to them, let alone the often neglected psychology of children.

There are many examples of immature children who have psychological problems due to the negligence or influence of their parents, and gradually evolve into serious mental illnesses that ruin their lives.

Experiments have proved that the root cause of many prisoners' criminal psychology is the psychological trauma they received when they were children.

And because of the lack of understanding of psychological problems, many times just because of the abnormality of the child's appearance, parents will label them as "mentally ill", even the closest people, let alone others.

Once, a friend of Su Yun, who has been engaged in child psychological counseling for many years, said to her helplessly: "What children need is normal teaching and explanation from their parents, not that children are disobedient and think they are mentally ill." ”

However, after some understanding just now, Su Yun has already come to a preliminary conclusion in his heart, the situation is not so serious that it is irreparable, and he can't help but feel a little lighter, and slightly raised the corners of his mouth to turn to Su Niang and said: "Su Niang, if even you think like this, it will be difficult for Jiaming to get better." ”

Everyone looked at her curiously, obviously waiting for her to explain the strange set of behaviors she had just done.

Su Yun paused, tried his best to convert some difficult terms into vernacular, and said in a deep voice: "Xiao Langjun is indeed sick, but it is not an incurable disease, he is...... I was sick in my heart.

If a child lives in an environment with strict parenting and a depressing family atmosphere for a long time, it will be easy to form low self-esteem, sensitivity and irritability.

If this environment also poses a threat to the child's survival, the child will show violent tendencies and uncontrollable impulses, because his brain has become accustomed to seeing the surrounding environment as a threat, and you may not believe that this is just the child's survival mechanism for adapting to the environment, and it is the child's stress response after experiencing trauma.

Just like a beast of prey pushes its young into a forest where the weak eat the strong, in order to survive, the cubs can only master the means of survival from their instinctive desire to survive. ”

In modern times, this mental illness is called oppositional defiant disorder, and it usually appears around the age of 8 and may appear as early as the age of 3.

The question Su Yun asked just now was a preliminary examination of whether the child suffered from oppositional defiant disorder.

Fortunately, Jiaming's symptoms of oppositional defiant disorder are relatively mild, and even without the help of a specialist, parents can improve their child's symptoms by communicating with them or changing their parenting style.

It's just that psychological problems are the most intractable, and many times the factors that affect it are not the patient himself, but the environment in which he lives.

How to create an environment for Jia Ming to heal in the Gu family is really a big challenge.