On October 1, 2011, Chiba wrote a journal about his view of love.

"Love, put it in your heart, get along lightly, care silently"

1 Frontispiece

"If life is only as first seen, what is the autumn wind and sad fan? Waiting for leisure changes people's hearts, but people's hearts are changeable. Lishan said that it was half of the night, and the night rain Linling did not complain. How is it like a thin brocade cloth, and the wings and branches are wishing on the day. Nalan is more affectionate than affectionate. Yes, life is only as good as the first time you see, when everyone first meets you, that good feeling has always been like a flower blooming in spring, that warmth, that nature, that sincerity, that kind of memory, so it has always permeated your life. Why are there misunderstandings, incomprehensions, speculations, and criticisms in human interactions? Isn't it enough to have a faint feeling like the conference? Just like netizens who have never met, every time they meet each other on the Internet, they say hello to each other, and they care about each other in their hearts, don't you think it's a beautiful thing? I think the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, which is the truth, right?

The flowers bloom and eventually disperse, crushed into mud and dust, and the scattered sprinkling and melancholy are turned into memories of the previous life. Considering last night's stumbles, who remembers the thousands of hopes of today, there is a lot of difference between reality and illusion, and indifferently, it is just an invisible smiling face.

You know the closer you get to something,the tougher it to see it,and I'll never take it for granted

If you don't pay attention to the things around you, you can easily lose them because you get too close

2. Love is based on understanding

When two people meet, they have a good feeling, and if possible, they will go deeper. It's like building a house, you have to lay the foundation first. So what is the basis of love? Just making phone calls, watching movies, shopping?

If she had known Ashley, she would not have loved him; If she knew Rhett, she wouldn't have lost him.

Ritter, he loves Scarlett, but he knows Scarlett better, so he never says it, just expresses it through actions, and Scarlett never wants to understand him.

Love should be a long-term relationship, and they will naturally be together after getting to know each other well.

The real relationship is not chasing, the tacit understanding of two people, slowly shortening the distance between the two hearts, unconsciously gradually getting closer to each other, from good friends to confidants to lovers, this is the most common way of progress.

When I associate with men and women who are very intelligent, careful in their language, and cultured, I will not give up until I have bypassed the silent traditional fortifications, stepped on the threshold of mysteries, and found a place by the fire of my heart.

If you are confused by the feeling of not being able to discern his feelings, the following passage may be enlightening to you: Worship is when you know something about a certain aspect of a person, who knows him well in this regard, and who admires his thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and ways of dealing with such things; Like that is, you know that person more deeply and widely, his experience and thoughts are somewhat similar to yours, you feel good about his character, personality, values and views on some things, when you are still good friends without any distractions, you can feel very relaxed and happy with him; Love is the emotion that comes naturally after going through a lot of "togetherness", and the quotation marks are to emphasize that your identity when you are together is not necessarily boyfriend and girlfriend.

You have to choose carefully among good friends, like when filling in the college entrance examination, this is a two-way multiple-choice question, you can only choose one as your lifelong partner in the careful selection, and the other can only be your good friend for a lifetime, if the person you have chosen also has feelings for you, then you are God's favorite, you can succeed at one time, and you should cherish and love well in the future; If you choose someone you shouldn't choose, then you are the most unlucky, but that's okay, it's not that you can't be a lover and you can only be a stranger, but you have to have less contact with him, it's good for him, you, another him and the person who is with you later, maybe it's hard to face when you're still single, you have to overcome your love for him, but you also have to overcome the pressure of the world, but if you see through a lot of things, your thinking goes beyond ordinary people, like Confucius, Zhuangzi and other people, then those rules and regulations used to restrict ordinary people naturally can't limit you; If you choose someone who doesn't like you or likes others, then you are also very unlucky, don't be discouraged, psychologically speaking, falling out of love is the most difficult psychological pressure for college students and young people, but after surviving this period you will find yourself much stronger than before, and your views on some things will change.

Well, you left a miserable place, you listen to me. In heaven, a sinner who repented with tears is happier than a hundred righteous men in white robes. If you leave that painful place with hatred and anger in your heart, you deserve sympathy; If you leave that place with a mind of kindness, kindness, and peace, you will be worth more than any of us.

People who live a happy life at the beginning and have always been like this are different from those who live a hard life at the beginning and then gradually improve their conditions, and the latter can better appreciate the happiness in it; At the beginning, people cared for and were favored by the society, and they have always been like this are different from those who were ridiculed and neglected by people at the beginning and abandoned by the society, and then received the care of the people around them and the recognition of the society, the latter can better appreciate the value of love; In the same way, it is impossible for a person who has never fallen into darkness to experience the true light, and the truly ordinary life is to go through these two, grasp the balance in between, and live moderately, calmly, and indifferently.

People who like you won't say I like you, he will only help you do things silently, but never gnaw, you will feel each other's kindness when you get along, but never say those words, not unrequited love, but a tacit understanding.

A good friend is that he will call you if he is happy and tell you if he is sad! If you have any difficulties, I will definitely ask you to help with ideas! You're always happy to be together and have a lot to say! Girls are like this!

Clear things,All have their deficient side,Ambiguity will be better,There's a saying,"Many things,Always after the experience to really understand",It seems to be perfect.,But there's also a saying that "reading books and watching anime is using other people's experiences to make yourself grow",This seems to make sense.,So the real truth is in a state of chaos.,When you don't feel right when you look at anything.,And when you have your own understanding.,That's the most normal form after getting out.。

3. It's more important to have a 3-fit fit than to like it or not

First of all, the basis of love is the like-mindedness of both parties, and it is the organic combination of ideals, morals, obligations, careers and * of both parties. If you deviate from this foundation on the basis of the pursuit of love, and pursue money, beauty, status and fame, it is impossible to obtain true love.

He could guess what was going on in Scarlett's every movement and expression, fate likes to play tricks on people, they are the same kind of people, even if they can't be together in the end.

Pure love may only be once, but true love may not be only once, time will heal all the scars. Actually, we can fall in love with a lot of people, we don't like a certain person but like a certain type of person. The one who came first met us, and we came together happily; I can only apologize to those who come after me.

There is no one we must have in our lives, and loving someone is often used to this person.

There are some differences between marriage and love, marriage will take care of the family, and love is often just pure love, even if you like it very much or love very much, if you can't be together for some reason in reality, time will dilute everything. Like it or not is just a feeling, sometimes it doesn't make much difference, like good and evil, it only decides between your thoughts at the moment.

Half of a person's personality depends on genes, and the other half is the first memory. The teacher in my heart told me that one year old is big, and three years old is old. Later, I finally understood that genes come from the combination of the experiences and lives of the previous generation, and the first memory is the environment they struggled into.

He knows Charlene because they grew up in a similar environment, and people are good at the beginning, and they are similar in nature.

We are all orphans in this beautiful world, looking for our own kind, and after finding it, we found that we are not lonely, not monsters, not alone in struggle, this is the irreplaceable meaning of Charlene and Lu Tao.

4. Love is about getting to know yourself better

He always made Scarlett understand that in fact, the guilt in her heart was not for the repentance of the person she had hurt, but for herself to get rid of punishment.

Love has nothing to give but to itself, no reception except for itself, love does not possess and is not possessed, because love is fulfilled in love, and love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.

There are four words that are most important for marriage, and that is to seek common ground while reserving differences. To love you is to love yourself, because we are very similar, attracted by the very different lives of you and me, just for a moment, and people can never love others more than themselves.

He will be relieved when he sees Charlene, knowing that he is still Lu Tao, when Charlene is gone, why is he at a loss, because he can't find himself. Lu Tao and Charlene love themselves, because they found their own shadow in each other's bodies, so Charlene was once willing to humbly love Lu Tao and let him realize his dreams, Lu Tao succeeded, and she felt that she had also succeeded.

Love allows you to understand the world of the opposite sex better, the person who loves you or the person you love, and the unawakened potential in yourself.

The first step to growth is to accept the complexity of the world, the diversity of individuals, and after understanding the complexity of the world, the same self-perseverance.

Finding a group of like-minded friends and partners who can sing together is all about working hard to assert oneself, and success is just a better way to assert oneself.

The biggest enemy of people is themselves, this is a universal truth, everyone insists on themselves, and respects others, everything is safe, the world is peaceful!

5 How to love? The process of love

What is Love? The philosopher said: "Love is when you know that he is not the person you admire, and that he has all kinds of shortcomings, but still chooses him, and does not abandon his whole because of his shortcomings, and deny all of him."

Love = Listen + Obligate Gratitude + Valued Respect + Excues Forgiveness.

Marriage is not 1+1=2, but 0.5+0.5=1. That is, two people each eliminate half of their own personality and shortcomings, and then make do with them to be complete, in the complex emotional world, just like the gray wolf style of obedience will not work.

We all have our own way to go, the sea is wide and the fish jumps, and the sky is high for the birds to fly.

But she is willing to give her feelings to this ordinary boy who silently helps her when she encounters setbacks, enthusiastically encourages her when she is frustrated, and never asks for anything in return.

I don't want anything, I'll accompany you to Paris. Lu Tao, you know, two people are not together to trap each other, we all have our own ways to go. But I need your support, and I need it, isn't it good for us to support each other?

When you love someone, it's absolutely just right to love to eight points, all expectations and hopes are only seven or eight points, and the remaining two or three points are used to love yourself. The most important thing in getting along is tolerance and compromise, on the basis of trust and understanding. If you continue to love more, it is likely to put a lot of pressure on the other person and leave each other breathless. If you are confused about love, perhaps the following passage can give you some enlightenment: To love someone, you must understand and understand; To apologize and to thank you; We must admit our mistakes and correct them; It is to accept rather than endure; It is tolerance rather than connivance; It is to support rather than dominate; It is a condolence rather than a question; It is a confession, not an accusation; It is memorable rather than forgotten; It is to communicate with each other rather than to explain everything; It is a silent prayer for the other person rather than a lot of demands.

6 Troubles on the battlefield of love

Yes, loving someone means giving rather than taking, but true love goes both ways, and Tolstoy said, "To be loved by the person you love is the happiest person in the world." "If the person you love does not love you, then your devotion to him is to stay away from him, to lighten his burden, to give him a comfortable space; If you don't love the person who loves you, then stay away from him, reduce the harm done to him, and don't give him hope, lest he despair even more in the future.

In dealing with polyamorous, confession is better than a lie, a lie is better than silence, the three mixed together will only give him more room for suspicion, it doesn't matter if the pain in the other party's heart is there, the main thing is that you may delay his happiness and make him miss some people in the process of pursuing you, and this is precisely related to his future, not to mention, the facts are the facts, such a hurt, it will indeed hurt at the time, but it is only for a while.

Is there a fairy tale in real love? Yes, but rarely, you need to use your own sharp eyes to discern them, and almost all fairy tales are nothing more than one version: with your own indifferent heart, you dig an unbridgeable ditch for the person who loves you, and you feel that then he will be happier and happier, and the other person may have different emotions depending on the degree of love when he is not aware of it, or regret, or encouragement, or more love...... But after he knew it, the one who sacrificed him was no more, and this was the most heart-wrenching ending that love and distance had ever created.

If you like someone, try to let him know, don't miss it, be good to him, be good to him as a friend, at least I will!

7 Beyond the form of love 1: compassion, fraternity, freedom

Yes, love, but not the kind of love that is loved for something, for what purpose, or for whatever reason, but the love that I first experienced when I was dying, when I saw my enemy and still loved him. I experience that feeling of love, which is the essence of the mind, which does not need an object. I now also experience the feeling of being happy, loving my neighbor, loving my enemies, loving everything—loving God in all its manifestations. To love the dear one, you can use the love of the world; But to love the enemy, you can only love it with divine love. So when I feel like I love that person, I feel that happy. What happened to him? Is he alive?

To love with the love of the world, we can transform from love to hate; But divine love cannot be changed. Neither death nor anything can destroy it, it is the essence of the mind.

Love is beautiful, but the greatest love is selfless, while longing to be loved by others, you should also have a heart of love and learn to give love to others. Love brings tolerance, warmth, and happiness to loved ones, friends, families, society, and humanity. When we give a little love to others, we will also get the satisfaction of love, and we can feel real happiness, which will not fluctuate with the tide of time, but will become sweeter and mellower in the brewing of time.

8 Beyond the form of love two: leisurely, casual, bearish

The wind comes to sparse the bamboo, and the bamboo does not leave a sound when the wind passes; The geese spend the cold pool, the geese go and the pond does not leave a photo, so the gentleman comes and the heart appears, and the heart goes with the emptiness.

When you don't have any requirements for him, you don't have to worry about it, there will be someone who will come together with you in the future, so why bother going back and forth.

If your values go beyond blood, even if the last one is useless, it's not a big deal, although the relevant system in China is not very sound, but it is good to be able to enter a nursing home.

Why have you never noticed the high sky? But now I've finally noticed. I'm so happy, yes. Everything but this vast sky is emptiness and deception, and nothing exists except this sky.

Life, life, only at this time can people feel its beauty, and its connotation is often ignored in ordinary times. In fact, the true meaning of life lies in being able to enjoy the sun, the forest, the green hills, the meadows, the rivers, the ordinary satisfaction, and the rest is irrelevant.