After living for a while, people will have things they like and things they hate.

For example, if you like to read Chinese and foreign classics, then you will also appreciate those who like to read Chinese and foreign classics, and if you think that people should be elegant, noble, profound, and cultivated but you can't do it yourself, then you will appreciate the person who has done it.

Like it or not, it is an objective fact for each other, and it is basically an objective fact for yourself, although it can be said to be a subjective will, but this subjective will you basically can't change, for example, you like spicy food, hate sweet food, you can't say that you can't change it, but the price you have to pay is so heavy, you yourself understand, so whether you like it or not is an objective fact, and it is not transferred by people's will and will. It is only related to your innate genetic factors and the acquired growth environment, not what you say you like, what you can like, what you say you hate, you can hate anything, it has nothing to do with your subjective will.

Like or not is an objective fact, and love or not is the subjective will, the first half of the sentence has been explained clearly, let's talk about the second half of the sentence, people in this life is constantly knowing themselves to accept themselves, knowing others to accept others, understanding the society to accept the society, all his life is to understand the world, a person is many faces, different sides have different beliefs and ways of doing things, different personalities are equivalent to different ways of thinking, in psychology, It is also understandable that a certain personality forcibly suppresses all the other personalities and occupies the use of the entire brain and body as a split personality disorder, after all, this will cause very tragic consequences, but the multiple personalities I mention here do not refer to this meaning, but to mean that all personalities equally share a brain heart and body, and can switch at any time according to the needs of the outside world. If a person can't even accept the good and evil of himself, if he can't even accept his own strengths and weaknesses, if a person doesn't even want to admit all the things that have happened in his life, wants to forget, doesn't want to remember, doesn't want to admit and understand some truths from these experiences, if a person can't even accept that the imperfections of the best practices he has summed up from life have certain defects or harms, then he must live a very tangled and miserable life, because he can't find a way to go on at all. None of them are perfect, and he can accept them. I have always thought that it is enough for people to know themselves and what they are interested in, and there is no need to force themselves to contact what they are not interested in. Later, when I was listening to the radio in the car, I realized that famous books and anime can make me experience joys and sorrows, and those small things that happen in society can also make me experience joys and sorrows, and at the same time help me connect with society. Then I realized the limitations of the first perspective of human life, and we need to recognize this wonderful and cruel world, so we need to communicate and communicate with each other to gain more perspectives; Then I realized that the Confucian gods can get the world as soon as they go out of the mountain to assist a certain king, and the wise man can control the situation in the world, so it is very unreliable to be a thinker, scientist and philosopher, etc., purely theoretical, and it is not enough to play at all, and we should also be a politician, military strategist and sociologist, etc., which will help us further deepen our understanding of the world, get closer to the truth of the world, and know how things work. Knowing how society and the world are developing, knowing others and understanding society is explained here. When you know something and accept all of that thing, you can love, in other words, you can love when you like its advantages, and you can not be allergic to his shortcomings, of course, there are such people, there is no need to know and understand at all, everything he can accept or willing to accept, everything he can be responsible for or willing to be responsible, boundless love, compassion for all beings, silently selfless dedication for others, he secretly helps them, he doesn't need their cognition, he and her are happily together, And he died alone and happily. It is often said that love is exhausted, but the fact is not that it is exhausted, but that he is not willing to love anymore, and Rhett can continue to love, so that he can get Scarlett's love, but he himself does not want to love anymore, and that is no way. Given that it is a subjective will to love or not to love, it is easy to understand that a person who has been hurt would never allow himself to fall in love with someone who does not want to love him.

You are willing to love her, and she is willing to love you, from a mathematical point of view, these two are neither sufficient conditions nor necessary conditions for each other, simply put, you love her and can't come to the conclusion that she loves you, she loves you and can't come to the conclusion that you love her, because these are two things that can't be pushed against each other, you like him, you appreciate him, you worship him, you care about him, you help him, even if you give your life for him, that's just your business, others should respect you because of this, not show off how good you are, If you don't succeed, you have the obligation to explain all the misunderstandings to you, but you can't because you love others you want others to love you, this is an incorrect theory, whether you are willing to love others is your freedom, whether others are willing to love you or not is also the freedom of others, although these two can not be pushed each other but there is a certain relationship, because love is a subjective will, so you can be loyal to his will to pay for him to influence him, so that he from unwilling to love to willing to love, However, I personally feel that it is better to meet the conditions of love mentioned above according to my specific situation.

So when everyone meets, the advantages you like and the disadvantages can be accepted, and you can bear all the responsibilities and consequences, which means that he is unknown to you, you must be able to accept and be sure that the future will be with him, you should be brave to show your sincerity, only in this way, you have a chance to meet the same willing to love you, (don't tell me that the future is uncertain, that is that you are unwilling to give in and sacrifice so it is uncertain, the real uncertainty is only one situation, that is, you have not yet reached the future and died, There's no way around that, no one will blame you, and I'm sure he won't blame you either). Suspicious and cautious people will only take the initiative to attack on the premise that they can deduce that the other party also loves them with 1000% certainty, but this is for people who are used to playing ambiguous, or for people who like to find spare tires everywhere to leave a way back, or for those who habitually collect prey, even then you may fail, why, the other party may say, I only care about you as a son or daughter, care and love, that love is earth-shattering and crying ghosts and gods, he helps you wash your clothes, He washes your feet, he is waiting for you all the time, you can't not misunderstand, after all, this is the ambiguity of mother's love and father's love, but TM Xinxiang This is not love, after you show favor to him, he doesn't treat you as a partner, he just doesn't want to be with you, what can you do, after hearing that sentence, what should you feel is not only sadness, but more anger, anger that cannot be quelled: why do you mislead me!

So this can fail, what are you still afraid of? Meet the three conditions of love mentioned in the previous paragraph to be brave to fight, say a very correct but very cruel law, people's hearts will only belong to those who they are willing to love, will never belong to those who are willing to love themselves, so find a person who is willing to love themselves to love, when you meet someone who is not willing to love yourself, do not repeatedly lower and lower to redeem, if a relationship is the only one you keep giving in, this is equivalent to tilting the scale, has completely lost the meaning of the original weighing, Even if you get the other person in the end, it doesn't make sense, all you get is a person whose heart doesn't belong to you, and you don't want your heart to belong to you, so why bother.

I find that I have become a person who likes to post on social networks such as Zhihu, Know, Weibo, blog, homepage, space, etc., as soon as I have any thoughts or thoughts, I have a lot of ideas that I would like to share with you, I have observed many wonderful and interesting things in this world from my perspective, from which I have deepened my understanding of some universal laws and drawn some insights that only belong to me, I think there will be a part that will be helpful to everyone, of course, the perspective is limited, and I cannot fully recognize the essence of things. It is inevitable that there will be some misleading for everyone, so let's consolidate our theoretical edifice according to our own specific situation. There is a communication diagram that says that if a person has a total of 100% of the things he wants to express in his brain, then his language or words may be able to express 80% of the things, of which about 50% of the parts that others understand and the meaning that the expresser wants to convey, about 20% of the inconsistencies, and even no less than 10% of the complete opposite, misunderstandings are also normal, even if the same word, its meaning is not the meaning in the dictionary, Different people often give him new meanings based on their own knowledge and experience, and some meanings are even completely contrary to the original meaning of the word.

About love,If I could,I think I'll act according to the five articles in the space that have been continuously refined, compressed, simplified, and abridged.,It's still and has been in a state of constant change, correction and update.,But I seem to be too late.,I hope future generations will take this as a warning.,This article only mentions a few separate points of view and makes a detailed explanation.,A more complete theoretical system is all in the five top logs.。 That's what I did, I thought so, I developed too fast, I acted completely according to my own subjective will and inference, there were five steps, but I just skipped two steps directly, when I needed to be cared for the most, I felt the care of others, so I directly selected a person, I don't care if I like it or not, I just want to be with you, as long as I have I am willing to give you anything, and firmly believe that we will be able to be together in the future, So there are some headaches left over from history, the middle process is kicked and kicked and kicked, tragic me, but as long as you follow the steps of five suddenly, basically there will be no problem, even if I think now, that approach is indeed in line with my style, in the face of great thought and morality, all these problems are not a problem, compared to regret and guilt for a lifetime, or live more truly and freely with a clear conscience.