Chapter Seventy-Two: Give Me Courage
On the way here, Zhang Weizhao had already guessed that it was not the prince who was looking for her, but just an excuse to ask her. She has no intention of the crown prince, and it is better to explain it early, so as not to make the situation more and more complicated.
"I am your healer. We have experienced and discussed a lot of things together and will trust and rely on each other. This is normal. But this dependence is not suitable for life. I can't cross the line into your private life, but I'm still your healer. It can still accompany you on the way. ”
"You're no longer my healer!" Chen Youcong's low voice was filled with anger and grievance.
"Yes, now we won't be together for a while. But the ...... we originally established" Zhang Weizhao still wanted to continue to reason. But he was interrupted by Chen Youcong:
"I don't care what happened to me. Aside from your status as a healer, if you were just you and I was just me, would you be willing to join me? ”
Zhang Weizhao shook his head: "If I weren't a heart doctor, we wouldn't be able to be together." I won't be a member of anyone's harem, and I'm not going to be a part of anyone's wives and concubines. I only accept one-on-one feelings. And this kind of feeling is not so easy to get in this world. So there's a high probability that I'll live as celibate as Master. ”
"You're not someone else, and you're not going to be one of anybody. Even if I ...... in the future, you are the only one! I can guarantee that you are the only one in my heart! Chen Youcong said eagerly.
Zhang Weizhao smiled: "I am the only one in my heart, but the body still has to fulfill the obligations of the royal family, broadcast the heir, and grace the six palaces, right?" Just like your father? ”
Chen Youcong found that he had nothing to say. He didn't know how to confess his heart and let Zhang Weizhao understand his hardships. He knew that in order to satisfy his father and Concubine Jin, it was very likely that he would accept Ye Tongying in the next few years, and his reputation could not be low. Yu Miaoqing should also be a candidate for his harem. However, it was just something he had to do. This is completely different from his friendship with Zhang Weizhao.
Zhang Weizhao said: "This is your life and your duty. And I have my life and my choices. In fact, the relationship between a person and his healer is also a very important relationship, and you don't need to transform this relationship into other relationships in order to retain the healer. I'm still here, and I'm not going to go away until you don't need a healer anymore. ”
Chen Youcong wants to say that what I want is not this, he also wants to say that I can promise that I will not be like my father, and I will treat you wholeheartedly. But he found that what he wanted to promise, he didn't have the ability to guarantee. So he opened his mouth several times, but he couldn't say anything.
Zhang Weizhao looked at him, his eyes clear and sincere. Chen Youcong knew that what Zhang Weizhao said was true. Because what she said was true, she couldn't ignore it, she couldn't coax it.
"So," Chen Youcong heard himself speak with difficulty, and said in a difficult voice, "Can you wait for me?" I don't have the strength right now, to do what you want. But, can you give me some time? ”
In fact, he didn't know how long he was talking about, but he still wanted to make an agreement with Zhang Weizhao anyway.
Zhang Weizhao still shook his head: "Our trajectories are different. There is no need to make such assumptions and involvement. ”
Chen Youcong gritted his teeth, he knew that Zhang Weizhao was not a person who dragged mud and water, but when he heard her refusal without leaving a single thought, he still felt a pain in his chest. He turned his mind and said, "What if I use my power to keep you?" After all, I am the crown prince of Great Yan. ”
Zhang Weizhao shook his head again: "You are not that kind of person. ”
Chen Youcong lowered his head sadly, Zhang Weizhao knew him very well. yes, he's not that kind of person. But what kind of person does he have to be in order to avoid this intense pain in his heart now?
Zhang Weizhao saluted him: "I'll go back to Changle Palace first." Leave. He turned away.
Only Chen Youcong was left leading two horses and standing melancholy under the tree.
Zhang Weizhao walked all the way to Changle Palace, and the more he walked, the more surprised he became. What surprised her was not Chen Youcong's intention expressed, but her own inner feelings after understanding this intention. She had already determined how to deal with the relationship with Chen Youcong, but after saying all the things that should be said, she was not as relieved as expected, but felt that there was an unclear emotion in her chest, and there was a tendency to expand more and more.
How to deal with a client's empathy for a psychiatrist was not an unfamiliar subject for her, having encountered it in both past and present lives.
In her previous life, she worked as a psychiatrist, in a situation with strict regulations, not to mention the psychiatrist, the client himself will also have a more sober understanding of the problem of empathy, with the help of the psychologist, she can quickly realize that her attachment to the counselor is different from the love in life, but it is just an illusion caused by the client's desire for affection projected onto the psychiatrist in a specific situation.
The psychologist will then discuss with the client why this transference occurs and what it means for counseling. Until the client sees that the psychiatrist is not as idealistic as they imagined, but has to face all kinds of problems in life like them, and also has their own troubles and anxieties, the difference between them is only that they have learned professional knowledge and skills, cultivated more sufficient energy, can better bear and resolve their own anxiety, and help the client bear and resolve their own pain and anxiety.
If the client can see and accept this, the problem of empathy can be solved relatively well.
In this world, Zhang Weizhao did not have the opportunity to discuss the issue of empathy with the two people who empathized with her, one of these two people was Zhou Cong before entering the palace, and the other was Chen Youcong who met in the palace. However, she felt that even if she didn't have enough time to deal with it, at least she should draw a basic line and not let the other party stay in the illusion all the time. Zhang Weizhao believes that this is his basic duty as a psychiatrist.
The last time he explained his position to Zhou Cong, Zhang Weizhao didn't have any superfluous feelings. However, this time, Chen Youcong's hurt expression lingered in her heart for a long time, and it constantly triggered her emotions.
Zhang Weizhao constantly examined his own heart, trying to figure out what the reason for this situation was. Perhaps, as she judged before, her young body now has its own likes and dislikes and desires. At such an age, it is normal to be fascinated and hurt by feelings.
Also, unlike the working environment in his previous life, in addition to the contact between himself and Chen Youcong at work, there is also a lot of personal contact, which is also the reason why the boundary of the relationship is not so clear. Perhaps, it is not only Chen Youcong who has empathy for himself, but also has counter-empathy for Chen Youcong. In other words, it is not only Chen Youcong who fantasizes about himself as an ideal lover, but also longs to respond to this fantasy. How to deal with this kind of countertransference, you have to think about it yourself.
Zhang Weizhao thought like this as he walked into Changle Palace.
Chen Youcong asked Zhang Weizhao to ride a horse with full joy, but he didn't expect it to end with such an ending. He returned to his study in Changning Palace, closed the door, and sat silently on the chair for a long time.
He didn't understand why this was happening. She looked into her eyes, obviously always so focused, as if she could always see the depths of her soul. When she listened to herself, her expression was so honest that no matter how trivial or bizarre her thoughts were, she could accept them, without judgment or blame. In this Forbidden City, where the surface is full of flowers and hidden swords and swords, she is the rare warmth and stability.
However, she told him that they did not intersect. She will accompany him as a healer, and nothing else.
Could it be that all her previous care, understanding and support for him was only out of her duty as a healer? Just because the imperial grandmother invited her to come, because she received the salary she wanted from this profession, so she had to do her duty? Chen Youcong doesn't believe it, he can't believe it anyway!
He believes that the warm care is not fake.
It's just that she is different from other women, she can't tolerate sharing a husband with other women. He can understand her feelings, he has seen too much of the struggle for power and life and death in the harem, and he is full of disgust with the jealousy and framing between women. If it is possible, he is also willing to grow old with a person who knows and cherishes each other, and raises his children together in peace and stability, and supports the elderly.
His mother died young, and his father was very indifferent to him. Since he was a child, only his grandmother has cared for him warmly. He rarely experienced the feeling of home, and his home was incomplete.
So if he can form a warm family with Zhang Weizhao, he will definitely care for her wholeheartedly and his children, so as not to let them feel that their life is lost, and to support his grandmother well, so that she can have a happy old age.
After experiencing ups and downs and an uncertain future, his understanding of feelings is different from that of other teenagers, and he does not have those ethereal poetic feelings. All he has is the most simple conception of life.
Therefore, his thoughts and Zhang Weizhao's thoughts are not contradictory.
It's just that he needs time. Only if he is in a secure position will he be able to take charge of his own life. And how much time it will take, he doesn't know.
Zhang Weizhao said that there is no need to entangle, let them each face their own responsibilities and choices.
In the middle of nowhere, can he wait until that day when he can be qualified to stand in front of her and say to her, with me, I can give you the life you want? If by that day, he already has a concubine and a child, will he have the courage to dismiss the harem and focus on her alone?
Or should he face the fate he should bear alone, and also respect and support the choices she makes?
Chen Youcong had no answer, and his heart was confused. He carefully took a scroll from the drawer and opened it, revealing his mother gazing at him lovingly with warm eyes.
He closed the scroll, held it to his chest, and prayed silently in his heart: Mother, please give me strength and courage to see all this, and give me the strength and courage to bear it all until the moment when the clouds dissipate and the sun shines.