Chiba's heart: Regarding the matter of Xinxiang, I will definitely not take the initiative, I will not ask her to be my partner, be prepared to lose and miss her, care a little more about her as an ordinary friend, and appear when she is in need, sad and lost, as long as she is happy, as long as she is happy, as long as she is happy. I won't ask for anything in loving her, it's good to be my friend, getting a girlfriend may not last long, losing a girlfriend may not mean that I don't have it anymore, just being a friend, I will never lose it. I've lost two of them before, and I can't lose a third important person, it's good to be happy, it's not good to fall in love, and it's not good for me, it's more harmful than good for me now, and I think she is too, so let's say, pretend that I don't know anything, and reduce a little contact. Love is a public game, and it is up to you to fight for the opportunity to be with her or him, and now my state is completely casual. I won't get hurt because I didn't give anything, and besides, it's Valjean.

In fact, Chiba didn't understand that whether he was hurt or not was not based on how much a person had paid, but on whether he was tempted by the other party. Whoever is more emotional, the more likely he is to be hurt.

Love is like a sword, who wins and who loses, who knows, to have such pride, anyway, there will be someone with you in the future, as for who it is, why care, it's a big deal, escape into the empty door, become an immortal and become a Buddha, and die alone!

On September 14, 2011, her sister Hua Huiqin contacted Chiba.

Hua Huiqin: Where are you now?

Xia Qianye: In a teaching 108 self-study, what is the matter?

Hua Huiqin: I'll pay you back.

Xia Qianye: It's just the fare, you don't have to pay it back.

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After a while, Hua Huiqin came over with a few books and found him, sat down next to him, they talked a few words, she stuffed the money to him, and then also began to study on her own. Chiba felt that Hua Huiqin's personality was quite suitable for him. He seems to understand a truth, before agreeing or starting a relationship, the two must be alone for a while before they know whether they are suitable for each other and whether they like it or not.

Chiba's heart: QQ acts as a guide for others, a confidant big brother, a compassionate, benevolent, compassionate, optimistic, and deep person, and others can get understanding, comfort, encouragement, trust, and care from me.

Chiba's heart: There is another point if I don't fall in love, now I calm myself down, and when I see something that suits me and has a good impression of myself, I take the initiative to chase it, or develop into a very close friend, my junior and senior years will be very busy, and my sophomore year will be very busy, and I have to exercise my ability in my sophomore year, I don't have so much time to talk about it, find someone who is similar to myself and has similar concepts.

Chiba's heart: You can't push everything to graduate school, now it's just laying the foundation, and maintaining a good relationship with a few more people who have the potential to develop into a couple, and in the future, on the one hand, you have to further choose and judge what suits you, and on the other hand, you have to be based on reality.

Chiba's heart: In the relationship, as long as others don't take the initiative to open their mouths (they generally don't speak), don't avoid others, communicate well, this is necessary, both men and women are needed, the main task now is to improve yourself, so that you have more value to be loved, and when the task is completed, you will come back immediately.

For the first time in Chiba's mind, the concept of mate selection criteria appeared:

First, introverted or neutral, not too extroverted or too cheerful;

second, the kind and caring;

Third, the ideas, values, worldview, and ideals are relatively similar, or very good.

Fourth, people who have been in love in college are better, those who are closer to their hometowns are better, people of the Miao nationality are better, people who are also admitted to graduate school are better, and people with similar living environments are better.

At night, there is a roommate in the dormitory who gets drunk and comes back very late, and Chiba feels very noisy and unsafe. He had always hated drinking and smoking.