Chapter 253: Forgive Yourself
On June 13, 2012, Chiba wrote a journal "Believe in the companions around you and forgive yourself for your shortcomings".
Last night, I wrote the work plan of the propaganda committee, and I hesitated whether I could send it out directly, or add a self-protective color before publishing it; This afternoon, I went to a coach and felt very hot in hearing, and I originally planned to finish it in half an hour, but it took more than 50 minutes, and there was a girl I didn't know sitting next to me; From yesterday to this day, there is one thing that has always bothered me from time to time, and although I kept telling myself to be as noble and selfless as Valjean, it always came out of my heart; I communicated something with a person, and I always felt a lot of emotion after finishing it, and it was normal to be at this sentimental age; Adding these four points together, I feel a little tired, and the efficiency of doing things is not very high, so I came back early, lay down a little, and think carefully about the real reasons, what they provoked was the internal contradictions I had before, whether to show myself or protect myself, how to be moderate, how to be moderate, how to be modest.
What you have, what you write, what you think, and what you can read can be seen by yourself, needs to go through a certain amount of processing, the former is written for your own growth, it meets your own needs and helps your own growth, but if you publish it directly, then in the eyes of acquaintances, you will have thorns on your body, in other words, you are not smooth and accidental, correspondingly, your growth will cause damage to others. It is impossible to achieve the best of both worlds, everything comes at a price, "don't build your happiness on the pain of others", this is a very classic sentence in the TV series "Eighteen-year-old Sky", try to reduce your edge, for us living in such a world, it is also a necessary ability, maybe this is why we can have no scruples in front of strangers, speak freely, and have reservations and care in front of acquaintances. From the blog to say everything, to the space but want to stop talking.
In fact, it's not difficult to do some embellishment, but if you don't figure it out, you will feel very awkward in your heart, and if it's serious, your mind may be distorted. Erase or modify the more personal views and places that may be harmful to others, or replace them with a more euphemistic, more subtle, and more vague way of expression, although I also want to show the most true self, but the cruel truth tells us that there are good people and bad people in this world, and completely naked is not conducive to our own growth, and we are just adding a transparent film between ourselves and the material world. Animals with protective colors are not isolating themselves from the world, nor are they closing themselves.
Is it a show? Or protection? This raises a fundamental problem that has been gestational since the beginning of college, waiting to erupt at any time, and a fundamental contradiction that has always existed in my mind, and before every qualitative leap, the two of them will fight fiercely in my mind, often without a win. It stands to reason that it is most beneficial to maintain the most beneficial attitude to oneself at all times, to adjust one's inner and ideological system to an excellent state at all times, to remove the parts that one does not need now, and to always pay attention to the outside world to absorb the ingredients that one needs the most, which will be the most conducive to one's own growth. But what kind of mood would it be to get rid of what you used to take seriously; If you don't clear it, how can you make room to absorb new things and take new steps? However, no matter what, after all, it is your own growth record, your own growth curve, the sad part does not go to read it, it exists there and does not move it, and when you are old, you can take it out and see how you survived, and it is always a relief to read the old things when you are old, and you can also let it bask in the sun outside the house in the yard and accept the baptism of the sun.
Like it or hate it; It doesn't matter if it's deleted, it doesn't matter, it exists, it deceives others, but it can't deceive itself, and it can't deceive those who appear in the story. Deleted doesn't mean no, the more you want to hide something, the more it will haunt your mind and disrupt your life, no matter what, don't imprison yourself in the world you imagined. To give a negative example, Scarlett's attachment to Ashley in "Gone with the Wind" comes from the fact that she just thinks that Ashley has the characteristics of her love, she just makes a gorgeous dress for Ashley to wear, and then falls in love with him, but the truth is that she only loves that dress. Existence is reasonable, things are always developing in their own predetermined track, and at the same time your efforts make it deviate in the direction you want, accept what has happened in your life, accept the people who have appeared in your life, and accept your own experience.
Since love is like this, then life should also be like this, I want to learn sketching, I want to learn photography, I want to practice good handwriting, I want to see all kinds of things, I want to learn all kinds of things. Even with my current self, I clearly know that it is impossible to do anything, and in "Hokage", Itachi advises Dou to forgive his own powerlessness and not mistake other people's power for his own. Indeed, yes, don't overemphasize yourself, don't always think that one person bears everything, on the contrary, accept your own shortcomings, forgive your own shortcomings, and believe in your peers, it is because of your own shortcomings that you will be good at all kinds of them by your side, of course, don't underestimate what you have done and will do.
Peers have a close relationship with the team, let's be realistic, I think an excellent team should be like this: first of all, each member fully understands himself, knows what he can do, what he wants to do and what he is good at, and secondly, the manager should understand them, and respond to the needs of their members, distribute them reasonably, try to let everyone be in a position that suits them, and finally each member has a determination to do their own thing and do their part. In this way, it can not only increase the free space of each member, let them give full play to their potential, but also improve the efficiency of cooperation between members of the team, so that the team can have a real sense of team spirit in the face of outsiders who seem to be mavericks.