The busy Yemei will talk to Chen Jingling on the phone from time to time, talk about life, talk about interests, and she also sent a fairy tale to Chen Jingling "Dream Knows the Answer" with ulterior motives, there is psychological knowledge in it, but it is not so direct. She wants to use the story to get Chen Jingling out of the old knots in her psyche.

When the Chinese New Year was approaching, Yemei was busy preparing for the Spring Festival Gala, and she chatted less with Chen Jingling.

That day, she was thinking about having a family affair with Chen Jingling.

The phone rang, and it was Chen Jingling calling.

"Yemei, I'm at work......" Chen Jingling's happy voice came from the other end of the phone.

It's been a long time since I've heard such a cheerful voice!

"Wow, really? Congratulations! ”

"I've been thinking about it for a long time since I communicated with you last time. You're right, work is the best partner, and I must have a job. Two months ago, my dad finally helped me find a job in my hometown. It just so happened that the company's products were sold in Japan, and my Japanese came in handy! ”

"That's great!"

"After going to work, I found that my mood was getting better and my mental state was getting better. Looking back, I can't imagine how I got here. ”

"Where's the kid?"

"My mom is young, and my mom retired a few months early...... The big ones are sent to kindergarten. ”

"That's good."

"Yemei, I finally understand, in the future, I can't give up my job for the sake of the other party no matter what! Giving up once, I've had enough of it, and there's no going back. ”

"You...... Why did the ideas suddenly change so quickly? I can't even imagine it. ”

"Yes, enlightenment can also be instantaneous! If I go back to Wenzhou, then, there is no one to pick up the children, what about the two, the primary school has to be picked up and dropped off to the junior high school, I have to live like that for more than ten years, and the whole person will be abolished...... Let my mom come with me? It's better to be in your hometown...... I don't want my mom to be a babysitter for the whole family, and it's a thankless task. ”

"Hmm...... You're going to get better and better! ”

"Wait, I have a lot to say to you, I'll talk to you on QQ."

"Good...... Let's chat on QQ. ”

"Yemei, really, if I go back in time, I will definitely learn from you, no matter what, don't marry early!

Now, I feel that no matter how tired I am at work, I am not tired of raising children, and there is a time period for tiredness at work, and raising a baby is to keep working 24 hours a day. The tiredness of going to work is mental or physical tiredness, and raising a baby has both, plus mental tiredness.

The man didn't take the baby in person, so he couldn't experience it, and sometimes he would say some cool things, such as Ye Guantong...... Hey, blame me, blame myself. If it weren't for the greedy mother-in-law for a short time, it would have been good to ask the confinement lady directly without her help.

My mother-in-law's family doesn't need my father-in-law to interfere in anything, she takes care of the housework, and they are like this in the countryside. Therefore, when she was in our house, she especially couldn't see Ye Tongtong doing housework. She said that men should be in charge of earning money, and doing housework will be laughed at as "mother...... Under her influence, Ye Tongtong developed the habit of watching TV and playing with his mobile phone after work. Even if the child cries, he doesn't care. I want to take the baby to cook, I must be too busy

Come. Tell him that he will still scold: Why are you so useless? Why don't you just take a child? Or, what do you do at home all day long?

At that time, life was extremely bad, and everyone who raised children wanted to die, and they were unhappy! A child is such a terrifying creature, and I thought it was so cute before I was born, and it seems that I was deceived by superficial phenomena.

Not to mention sacrificing adults to achieve children, adults are anxious and the relationship is tense, how can they still raise children well? It doesn't make a difference where you go to school, but the mood of the person who takes them is very significant. Only when they are in a good mood and the sun is shining in front of their children can they really grow up happily! ”

"When you say that, I really don't dare to get married easily......" Yemei smiled.

"Yes, when it comes to getting married, you are also free, if you don't want to have children, it seems that you can not have children, it's easy, but there is a dilemma called helplessness. Yemei, to tell the truth, if you don't have a job, you don't have economic independence, and you really don't have any right to speak. I finally understood that some women had to give birth one after another. If I don't have a mother's family, it's not that my parents can still support it, and if I have a second child and a daughter, I guess I will have to have a third child......"

Yemei thought to herself, Chen Jingling has finally seen through reality, it's not easy!

"Why did you suddenly become a different person?"

"One of my relatives...... She was a year younger than me, gave birth to two daughters, and her husband was older than her, so she got married without knowing anything about the world. As a result, now his husband's family forced her to have three children, saying that if she didn't give birth, she would divorce. How shrewd her husband is, the marriage house she bought before she got married, there is no her name on the real estate certificate, and now she is divorced, she has nothing, no job, no social security, no house, and the children naturally can't be taken away......"

"What then?"

"What else can I do? Huaibei, as a result, it was found out that it was still a daughter, and the day before yesterday it was quarreled again. Her husband's family insisted on her having an abortion, but she felt that she was pregnant, and she could feel the fetus moving, one was to hurt her body, and the other was to be reluctant to have a child...... However, it's useless to argue, she still has to listen to her husband's family......"

"Hey, some people just like to get drunk and dream of death, knowing that it will only get deeper and deeper, and it will only make them doomed, and they still jump into the trap without hesitation...... She can't save herself, and neither can outsiders...... The most terrible thing is that this will not bring happiness to the next generation. I live as a mud bodhisattva, and I may become mud at any time, how to protect my children? ”

"Yes, there are so many examples of misfortune around me, and they are a mirror of me...... Without them, I would be immersed in my own little world. I told my mom that work comes first, marriage comes second, and my mom just started staring. She said that children can't live without their fathers, don't think about it. So, I told her, I am also your child, and your child is also very important, aren't you afraid that your daughter will be crazy in the future? She was silent. ”

"Yes, from the current point of view, it is indeed the most reliable job, and the work will never betray you, although it is also hard and tired, but after the hard work, the results all belong to you." Yemei was stunned for a moment, saying so, is she really planning to fight like this for the rest of her life?

"The previous life was full of tears when I think about it. I can't heal the scar and forget the pain!

He invested tens of thousands of dollars in stocks by himself, and he didn't say hello to me. And I, I have to tell him when I buy a pair of shoes, and he has to nag endlessly when they are expensive.

That day, my daughter was sick and Erbao had to breastfeed, so I didn't have time to clean.

As a result, when he came home and saw a somewhat messy room, he scolded directly, 'What rubbish!' ’

I hugged Erbao and cried, and my daughter cried with me.

Annoyed, he slammed the door in a rage.

Yemei, I don't dare to think about the days in Wenzhou. It gives me a headache just thinking about it......

In those days, I wiped my tears from the album when I was in love, and I didn't understand that we were so good and could have become like this. I don't dare to think if the Ye through in front of me is the Ye through I loved at that time. The words that came out of his mouth were knives, and every word was poisonous......"

"Why is it that when he gets married, he seems to be a different person?"

"Yes, don't you know, after getting married, if you have a child, if we women are not financially independent, we women really dare not divorce. Like me, I have consulted, if we get divorced, one, one child can only be one person, two, the house is still in the loan, I am a housewife, no income, the house is basically not wanted, the money repaid in the previous years plus the money for the down payment is not enough to pay back under the surplus...... Third, if I wait for my son to be two years old and then leave, he can still fight with me for my son...... Fourth, if he is fighting for his son, I will not be able to ask for my daughter's child support at all. A housewife who gives birth to two babies, once divorced, it is really a pit baby! So, I'm going to die now and I'm not going to give up my job. ”

As soon as Chen Jingling talks about marriage, the bitter water can't be poured out.

Is there such a big gap between every man before and after marriage? Why does everyone say that "marriage is the grave of love"? Why does romance always end abruptly when it comes to marriage?

Yemei doesn't go, probably there are good ones, there should be good ones...... However, she didn't know how to express herself to Chen Jingling.

At the beginning, I encouraged Chen Jingling to pursue love bravely, but I didn't let her get married early!

In Yemei's eyes, love and marriage are two different things, even if you love each other, you don't have to get married...... Not to mention giving birth early...... So, did Chen Jingling mentally blame herself?

Thinking like this, Yemei hopes more and more that Chen Jingling can be happy.

"I'm going to get busy, and so are you? Let's get back to chat, thank you! Yemei, you woke me up from my drunken dream......"

"Okay, let's get back to it!"

Closing QQ, Yemei let out a long sigh of relief: Thank God, Chen Jingling finally moved forward in the sunshine!

However, that night, Yemei dreamed.

She dreamed that she and Chen Jingling went to the mountains to pick wild fruits.

There are so many wild fruits, there are wild strawberries, there are wild kiwis, there are

Yemei is a master of tree climbing, and she climbed to the tree at once, and she happily picked and picked......

"Yemei, why are you so brave? Aren't you afraid of falling? ”

"Huh? No, grab the branch with your hands, step on it steadily, and concentrate

You won't fall. ”

"I'll try it too?"

"Well, it's fun......"

But who knows......

"Ah......" Chen Jingling screamed and fell down!

Below is a small pond......

Chen Jingling fell into the pond and struggled desperately......

Yemei was frightened, slid down from the tree with a "shuttle", and stretched out her hand to pull Chen Jingling desperately......

When she pulled out Chen Jingling violently, she leaned back and woke up......

This dream is so realistic, it seems to have happened!

At first glance, it turned out that he had fallen off the bed, and when he just fell down, he was pulling Chen Jingling in his dream......

In this way, it was wrong for me to encourage Chen Jingling to chase Ye through at the beginning, right?

Dream really knows the answer!

Chen Jingling is like in a dream, she doesn't know how to climb trees!

She sees love and marriage as one and the same thing.

It's so dangerous, you really can't encourage people in the future.

At least the pursuit of love can't be blindly encouraging.

(End of this chapter) ( Marriage is not going to be .com )