When I say so-and-so, I will realize that I am the same. It's like standing on a high place, everything below is clearly visible, because of your own preferences, problems come one after another, you are not good like this, you are like that, you are ......

When the people below left their sight, they looked at themselves abruptly, silently pondering, oh...... Aren't you doing things that you say are bad?

Mom, Dad, and I, none of them are masters of cooking or diligent cooks, and every meal together can be said to be hard-won. Still, we have a common habit of criticizing each other for those who eat with chopsticks. For example: Mom, is your soy sauce sent by the supermarket, why do you add so much if you have nothing to do, all the dishes are soy sauce colored; Dad, why do you like pepper so much, I don't know I'm on fire right now, and I choke my nose when I eat it......

Because I was still a novice, they wouldn't say anything particularly hurtful at the dinner table, and these words suddenly swept towards me after a few days, but it was better to say them happily at the time. Because the aftertaste is too strong, it gives me a really bad taste. I wonder if this is one of their means of getting revenge on me?

"It's a good thing to criticize, so that you know where to improve, it's not terrible to fall badly, it's terrible to lie on your stomach and not move."

My mother's words sounded strange to me, and she felt like she was hiding a sharp cattle-killing knife in her smile.

In fact, I don't like to blindly criticize so-and-so, especially for dedication, in my opinion, no one stipulates that you take the initiative to do what is required, even if it is not perfect or even bad, you should not criticize.

"That is, since you want to do it, you have to work hard to do it well, otherwise don't interfere and be capable."

Another sentence scolds me.

This "do a good job", here has a dictatorial meaning, at least for the mother's personal preferences, if you touch something she doesn't like, the unhappy face will immediately show you, sometimes better, slow down a few days to show you.

From this point of view, the meaning of good is too ancient and broad, and it is difficult to do. As far as I'm concerned, I'm a mixture of dictatorship and democracy, and I have subtly started to preach about my parents' behavior, and I don't recognize my own problems or refuse to admit them. This is not good, it is time to put an end to outright mutual harm in the family, learn to praise appropriately, increase each other's favorability, and more importantly, do not do to others what you do not want to do to yourself, and do not do to others what you want.