For what Lin Zhihao said, I also nodded in affirmation. Fashion sense, most of the marriage is like this. However, there are some exceptions in these three realms. Of course, the same is true of this marriage of bones.

Speaking of this secret marriage, Lin Zhihao became more and more interested, and asked me vigorously, and I just took it as a time to kill time, and told Lin Zhihao everything I knew.

It's just that what I didn't expect was that Lin Zhihao not only became more and more interested the more he listened, but even said that he had the opportunity to take him to see what this secret marriage was all about! Hearing Lin Zhihao so interested, when he said this, it suddenly made me very drunk.

In fact, it can be said that this secret marriage existed as early as the Qin and Han dynasties, and even before the Qin and Han dynasties.

Because this kind of secret marriage consumes manpower, material resources and is meaningless, it has been forbidden. And there is a cloud in "Zhou Li": "It is forbidden to move the burial and marry the dead." ”

However, although it was banned, it could not be eradicated, even by the rulers in power.

For example, Cao Cao's son Cao Chong is also Cao Cao's favorite son. Unfortunately, he died early, and his soul returned to the loess at the age of thirteen. So Cao Cao hired the deceased Miss Zhen as the temperament of his son Cao Chong and buried them together.

It's just that when I said this, Lin Zhihao's question also hit the point.

I only heard Lin Zhihao ask halfway: "Then are they buried together or married?" ”

Indeed, although the burial of the bones and the marriage of the bones are both marriages, the deviation is so large that it is already one heaven and one underground.

Actually, when my drunkard master told me before, I asked the same question. It's just that the answer given by my drunkard master surprised me greatly, even to the extreme. Just like the expression on Lin Zhihao's face when he heard my answer now, and when I heard the answer from my drunkard master at that time!

"This ......" Lin Zhihao was surprised, "how is it possible, how can Cao Cao agree to such a secret marriage?" "Obviously, Cao Cao's son Cao Chong's secret marriage with Miss Zhen is what I said earlier.

I then smiled slightly, shook my head slightly, and said, "There are exceptions to everything, but there are no absolutes, and the same is true of this marriage of the bones!" ”

"So how did they get it, how did they make it a match?" Lin Zhihao asked.

yes, how did they become a match. Actually, I also want to know, but my drunkard master didn't tell me how our Prime Minister Cao Cheng did it, so I can't answer Lin Zhihao either.

Although I can't answer how Prime Minister Cao did it back then, I know that there is a method, and this method is what my drunkard master told me. I once asked if Prime Minister Cao Cheng also used the method back then, but the answer in exchange was his shaking his head.

I was sitting in my box with Lin Zhihao, and I really didn't know that Lin Zhihao was interested in this secret marriage. As far as this interest is concerned, it already makes me feel that it is not beyond a certain range. In other words, it is beyond the scope of what a normal person should know.

However, there is nothing to do on this train, so it is better to talk to him while sipping melon seeds, which can be regarded as killing time.

I continued to talk to Lin Zhihao about some secret marriages, which was not only a way to kill time, but also a kind of waiting, waiting for the night to fall.

In the Song Dynasty, secret marriages were the most prevalent. According to Kang Yuzhi's "Yesterday's Dream Record", when an unmarried man or woman dies, his parents must ask a "ghost matchmaker" to say goodbye, and then carry out divination.

"Yuan History: The Biography of the Daughters" contains: "If the children die without a wife, they may ask for the bones of the deceased women to be buried together." "The History of the Ming Dynasty: The Biography of the Daughters" also contains: Yang □ died and his fiancée was martyred; Liu Bochun died, and his hired daughters were the same, and they were all buried together

In the Qing Dynasty, this custom of women's burial was still very popular with the strengthening of the concept of chastity. It was not until the late Qing Dynasty that feudal etiquette and religion gradually disappeared under the impact of Western spiritual civilization.

At the end of the Ming Dynasty and the beginning of the Qing Dynasty, Beijing, Tianjin and other places still had the remnants of the custom of ghost marriage, and there were still some families holding the "happy event" of the marriage of the dead and the dead, which was called "building a bone corpse", and the male and female in-laws were called "bone and corpse relatives". In the early years, the wedding ceremony of this kind of "wedding" was mostly held at night, and sometimes, when people were sleeping peacefully, they were suddenly woken up by the drums in the streets and alleys, and it turned out to be "a corpse". Carrying a paper sedan chair, it is played by a single drum, a single trumpet, and a single suona. Some do not use this form, they still use eight sedan chairs, all the deacons with golden lamps, and they only marry a photo of a woman. After the thirties, there was also a "civilized marriage" ceremony, with a Western band in the lead, and four people in the back carried a funeral booth, hanging a "bride" photo.

There has never been a precedent for the secret marriage ceremony. Although the secret marriage is regarded as a happy event, it is inevitable that the etiquette of red and white things is mixed and intertwined. Much depends on what the parties claim. Therefore, the form of the funeral ceremony varies greatly. A typical funeral ceremony is described in detail below for reference. However, not all marriage ceremonies are handled in this way.

Generally speaking, the underworld marriage should also be introduced through the matchmaker, and the two parties will go through the portal post and get married at the life hall to obtain the dragon and phoenix post.

The release is mostly one-time, so it doesn't matter whether it is big or small. Half of the gifts sent by the man to the woman are real silk rulers, gold and silver treasures; Half of it was a piece of papier-mâché leather, cotton, a clip, and a single garment, and two pairs of brocade boxes, which contained earrings, bracelets, rings, hairpins and other jewelry. On the night of the fixation, it was burned in front of the woman's house or on the grave.

During the communication, the "goose cage", "sea of wine", dragon and phoenix cakes, elbows, and fruits sent by the man to the woman are all real, but the clothes and jewelry are papier-mâché utensils.

The dowry sent by the woman is generally paper work, and after it is sent to the man, it is only displayed in front of the photo or tablet of the "groom" for half a day, and some are only carried around the man's courtyard for a week, that is, led by drum music, and sent to the nearby square for incineration.

The ceremonies listed above are not necessarily held in secret marriages, but the marriage ceremony is indispensable. It is a high day to build a greenhouse, feast relatives and friends, and light the sedan chair in front of the door. The wedding room is dedicated to the "hundredth" gods. A low table is set up on the kang opposite for the "groom" photo or tablet, and several plates of apples and dragon and phoenix wedding cakes are set up in front. And there is a big red flower, decorated with a ribbon on the book: "groom" words.

The woman's "boudoir" is offered a photo or tablet of the "bride", as before, and there is a big red flower, decorated with a ribbon, and the words "bride" are written.

After the sedan chair arrives at the woman, the "bride" photo or tablet is taken down by the wife, and the wife takes it over and releases the sedan chair. At this time, the father and mother of the "bride" will inevitably cry loudly and chase them out of the house. It's not a happy atmosphere at all.

After the sedan chair returns to the man, the wife still takes out the photo or tablet of the "bride" and puts it on the offering table on the kang of the wedding room, which is juxtaposed with the "groom". And tie up the two photos with a red head rope, take the meaning of the old moon and pull the red line, and reuse the red and yellow colored silk.

Only when the wife of the marriage gives the whole god "100 percent" incense and kowtows, even if the husband and wife worship heaven and earth. Then the teahouse will bring "a cup of wine", "dumplings for children and grandchildren", and "longevity noodles" for the "newlyweds" in front of the photo or tablet.

If the "newlyweds" have younger siblings or younger siblings, brothers-in-law, etc., they will be called out and kowtow to the photo or tablet. The two in-laws congratulated each other.

After the above ceremonies are held, choose a good day for the "auspicious day of the zodiac" to break the ground and bury, and the woman can rise up. According to the time designated by Mr. Yin and Yang, after the coffin was lifted, he immediately poured a bucket of water in the pit and threw down two apples. At the same time, raise the red paper money high.

The man digs a hole on the side of the grave, exposes the groove of the "groom" coffin, buries the "bride" in this hole, and buries the "husband and wife" together. After the burial, that is, in front of the grave, the wine and fruit are displayed, the red paper money is incinerated, and the marriage sacrifice is held. The fathers, mothers and other family members of both the man and the woman cried and said "great joy". Since then, men and women have been treated as in-laws.

......

Lin Zhihao listened to these attentively, and I sat opposite him while talking and watching, the more I looked, the more I felt that the concentrated expression was like the energy I was holding back when I was about to take the college entrance examination a while ago, serious and serious.

Just like Lin Zhihao, I almost wanted to ask him if he wanted to change his career to be a "male matchmaker" for a secret marriage.

Of course, in the end, this remark came back to the secret marriage between Cao Cao's son Cao Chong and Miss Zhen. Obviously, although it is a secret marriage, it is also necessary to pay attention to a match between the eight characters.

This Cao Chong and Miss Zhen are naturally right, but these eight characters do not match. I really don't know what method Cao Cao used to make the original incompatible eight characters become extremely consistent with the eight characters two thousand years ago, but I told Lin Zhihao about one of the methods. And this method is the same method that my drunkard master told me when I was a child.

"Stealing beams for pillars?" Lin Zhihao didn't understand how to steal beams and change columns, "How to steal beams and change columns?" This time, it can be regarded as completely arousing the curiosity he is hiding in his place.

It is the same, if it were me, so would I. Besides, when my drunkard master told me about this method of "stealing beams and changing pillars", my excitement and excitement may have been a little more than Lin Zhihao's.

"What do you think," I said as I sorted out my thoughts at the same time, and continued, "Although I don't know how Cao Cao and their secret marriage were done at that time, one thing is certain, that is, the generation of the two does not match, even if the two of them do not die and are together again, I am afraid that this day will not be much better." ”

"But they don't seem to be like that." Lin Zhihao asked suspiciously.

"Indeed," I nodded, and continued, "they are not, and there must have been some method, and I don't know how, but if it were me, I might have used the method I told you earlier." ”

"Stealing beams for pillars?" Lin Zhihao saw a slight pause in his voice, and continued, "Then you can talk about it, how to steal the beam and change the pillar!" ”