Cohabitation Scene Thirty-Eight:

We are faced with choices every moment in our lives, from what to eat today, which movie to watch, to whether to resign, whether to end a marriage, whenever we choose, whether it is right or wrong, we think that it is our own decision, and when we regret it later, we will only scold ourselves, why didn't we have a brain at that time? However, we are wrong, and every decision seems to be made by us, but it may not be our intention.

For example, in the morning I want to buy an egg scramble at a roadside stall, but when I was browsing the news, I saw a push that has been proven by scientific research that the roadside stall is not hygienic, especially the egg scones, which are full of bacteria, and we seem to be eating egg scones, but we are actually eating bacteria. I don't know what will happen to you, but I will definitely quit egg scones for breakfast in the future, and even if this news turns out to be a rumor, the seeds of doubt have been planted in my heart, if not germinated, but already planted. If you say that these are all small things, it doesn't matter if they are affected, but in major matters, such as career and marriage, even if there are external factors to influence, the final decision is made by yourself, and it is definitely from your own intention.

Is that so? For example, if you talk to a boyfriend who is in love, although this boyfriend has no house or car, he is considerate and filial, treats you very well, and has great potential, and will definitely achieve a career in the future. At this time, you decide to marry this boyfriend and will be inseparable for the rest of your life, but your parents are against it, and the opposition is fierce. What would you do? Most girls will resist the pressure of their parents and strive to maintain their love, in anticipation of keeping the clouds open and seeing the moon. Luckily, during the struggle, this boyfriend got a house and a car, and started a career, and finally the two fell in love, with the blessing of their parents, and ended successfully. I was unlucky, I didn't have material wealth, but in the end, I got married and had a baby, and I kept the decision I made. But if this thing were opened up in a different way, would you still stick to your decision?

For example, when your parents objected, your best friend told you that this man was unreliable, although he was good-looking, but he was very attractive to little girls, and he was not clear with many women, and sometimes even seduced her...... At the same time, your good brother tells you that this man is unreliable, although he has a high degree of education, but his ability is not good, his relationship with his boss is a mess, and his relationship with colleagues is also tense...... Your most respected teacher tells you that this man is unreliable, and he is not worthy of you in terms of conduct or ability, so let you think about it again...... What would you do if you did? Resist all kinds of pressure, all kinds of suspicions, and choose to trust your boyfriend unconditionally? Or does it go from conviction at the beginning, to increasing suspicion, and finally to new doubts? I believe that most of the girls are in the second case, even if it turns out in the end that your best friend, your good brother, and your most respected teacher are all spreading rumors, but there is no way to remove the seeds of doubt, and you will always face a breakup in the end.

It seems that this decision to break up is out of your original intention, but in fact, this decision is the result of the joint influence of your best friend, your brother, and your teacher, and it has deviated from your original wishes, whether you want to or not.

Some people are especially good at taking advantage of the doubts in people's hearts, magnifying this doubt, and then controlling the behavior of others, such as Dahei.

When I was in the supermarket, he wanted to buy a braised goose, canned, the price was not cheap, of course I disagreed, he didn't insist at the time, but I ended up buying it, what's going on? When I was leaving, I heard a couple muttering, although this braised goose is expensive, it is still very affordable, because the geese in it are free-range, and they are also free-range from foreign countries, which is beautiful and nourishing blood and qi...... They said as they put several cans in their carts. I stopped, but left anyway. But when I turned the corner, I heard a waiter talking to himself, this braised goose is on sale, and the price will definitely double tomorrow after today, and it may not be available yet...... I stopped again, but left anyway. Finally, when I wanted to buy bulk meat, the price on it was not expensive, but the waiter's attitude was not good, and he ignored it, and the woman next to him said with a disgusted face that this kind of meat is only eaten by dogs...... So, in the end, I bought the canned goose meat, even though it was still expensive. Can you say that this is my own decision, it may have been a conspiracy of the big black, after all, at the end of the checkout, I saw that the couple did not have a can of goose meat in their shopping cart at all......

Da Hei doesn't like a classmate in the class, but this classmate has good popularity, and when it comes to selecting class cadres, he is the most vocal, but Da Hei doesn't want him to get his wish. So, Da Hei told every classmate, you must not choose him, if you want to choose him, you will encounter unlucky things recently, don't believe it, let's see. Those classmates naturally didn't believe it, but in the end, A met a thug after school and was extorted for fifty dollars; B's wallet was stolen while crowding the bus; C was crossing the street when he was almost hit by a car; D was writing his homework when the power went out suddenly, and finally the homework was not finished, and he was criticized by the teacher......

Later, everyone was convinced of Dahei's statement, and no one dared to vote for that classmate during the vote, resulting in his honorable exit with zero votes, which made him puzzled, but no one explained to him.