Cohabitation Scene XXXVII:

There are fixed circles between people, some who love photography, form a photography circle, and some who love to study the Dream of Red Mansions, form a red mansion circle...... the formation of these circles is closely related to people's hobbies, but it is also closely related to financial experience. For example, if you love to play football, most of the members of your circle are your classmates, colleagues, or former classmates, old colleagues, among which there will be no one who plays for Shenhua, a certain international player of Evergrande Club, and there will be no player who participates in the first division. However, if this fan of football is the son of a certain richest man, commonly known as the super-rich second generation, then there may be an international player who has just come off the league, a star who has just been awarded the Footballer of the Year, and a star who happens to love football......

Therefore, the relationship between people is fixed in a certain relationship, you can choose your friends, but your friends are also choosing you, you can participate in different circles, but some circles are fundamentally rejecting you, even if you push a cup with them, even if you talk to them hotly, they will not agree with you from the heart. Some people say that people in the metropolis have their own circles, and they can't live without circles, which I admit, but, is it really good to mix circles? At the end of the mix, you will find that there are still a few real friends, and those who meet in Pingshui will still forget each other in the rivers and lakes, and everyone's business cards are sprinkled all over the sky, but how many can really make friends?

Well, it's far away, I have my own circle in life, everyone loves Taobao shopping, they are afraid of brand-name luxury goods, they choose famous domestic attractions to travel during the holidays, they don't go shopping in Europe with a hot brain, go to Africa to see lions, and most of the usual dinners are affordable restaurants, and they don't put on dresses and go to Western restaurants with red wine glasses to pretend to be deep ....... All in all, we sometimes envy the lives of rich people, sometimes we are jealous of those young people who say they will go, and they will resign when they say they will resign, and we will also give admiration to those who live vividly and colorfully, such as a female student who joined the army at Peking University, but we know that we are envious, jealous, and worshipped, or how to live our lives, after all, we also want to live other people's lives, but IQ, EQ and money in our pockets do not agree.

I've seen a lot of rich people, and I've seen a lot of people who are kind and kind, but there's only one person who can really be a friend. For example, she said that she went to Paris to watch Fashion Week last month, had a friendly conversation with a certain designer star, and exchanged opinions on the global fashion trends this year, I said that last month I went to a restaurant for dinner, ate a fly, and wanted some compensation, if I didn't compensate, I would expose them, but people said that I was blackmailing and wanted to sue me in court, and in the end I spent money, so I was really depressed to think about it. She said that she took a necklace back while attending a charity gala, spent millions, and wanted to match me and give it to me. I was flattered to take it, opened it carefully, and then found that how could this necklace be so similar to the sample on Taobao? However, I quickly denied myself, this is bought back for millions, how can it be the same as Taobao for a few dollars? Definitely not the same. However, later I asked people to identify that this is something that costs a few dollars on Taobao, but the box is more valuable.

I thought she was being deceived, but she said that things are just a tool, and charity is the main thing, so I don't want to be so careful. I'm holding a box of thousands of dollars, with a necklace of a few dollars, I want to cry without tears, it's really not my care, next time you give me something, can you just send the box?

Suddenly, one day, when I was at work, I heard the news of her death. On a foggy night, she drove to a fork in the road, and in order to avoid the passing vehicle, the car fell into a cliff with people, and when she found it, the body was charred black. Life is impermanent, and I was very sad, so I took leave to go to her funeral.

At the funeral, I met her husband, a calm and handsome businessman. I heard that her husband was self-made and relied on her relationship to achieve today's status, of course, I can't say that he is a soft rice man, after all, he graduated from a prestigious school, is smart and capable, coupled with his handsome appearance, he can attract the eyes of the opposite sex. Moreover, he is considerate and loves his wife, never messes with flowers outside, is the so-called model husband, and most importantly, the two of them love each other extremely much, at least on my occasions, they are showing affection.

At the funeral, he was extremely sad, and I advised him to mourn and change his ways, and he said thank me. But after I passed, I heard him mutter, "Who is this?" At that time, I couldn't help but breathe up, and he actually asked me who I was? We met many times, and my friend introduced me, and he said at the time that he knew all his wife's friends inside out, because they were all mother's family and could not be offended at all. Now he is pretending not to know me, no, he is not pretending, he really doesn't remember me, can grief cause amnesia?

I was indignant, but I couldn't go up and ask him, but I found that he really couldn't remember his wife's friends clearly, some of whom he could still call out by name, and some of them were only perfunctory greetings, and for those who had no impression, he was not even perfunctory.

When I got home, I talked to Jack about it. Jack was very unimpressed, he said: "You are not interested in a person, even if you see him a hundred times, you are still not impressed, on the contrary, you are very concerned about a person, even if he only shows half of his face, you will still remember it." ”

I wondered, could it be that he wasn't interested in me, so he couldn't remember?

Lao Sun said: "This has nothing to do with whether you are interested or not, if this person is very important, he will remember it even if he is not interested, even if he can't remember the name, but at least he will have an impression." Like you said, he has no impression of his wife's friends, even if he has met many times and talked to each other, and still has no impression, that only means one thing. ”

I asked what it was, and Jack scoffed, "What else could it be, that he didn't pay attention to his wife, at least not he, or else he wouldn't have put his wife's friends in the category of unimportant?" ”

Before I could figure it out, Lao Sun was not happy anymore and said to Jack, "Why are you robbing me of my lines?" ”

However, it is clear that the two of them are extremely affectionate, are all the affections that have been shown fake?

But Jack said: "There are generally two kinds of show affection, one is too confident in one's feelings, thinking that the sky is old and unswerving, and it is not just talking, thinking that he is the center of the earth, even the sun revolves around him, and every day is the result of his own emotions...... The other is that he is too unconfident in his feelings, and only by showing this form can he feel at ease, just like hypnosis, using the form of showing affection to imply himself, look, he still loves me, look, I am the main palace ......"

I asked my friend what kind of person she belonged to, and Jack thought for a moment and said, "Your friend is neither, she's just been deceived." ”