I asked you for a few days off, and I'm sorry that my grandmother passed away at my aunt's house at 6 pm on January 5, 2013, at the age of 80.

Grandma's second half of her life was actually very painful, not because her children were not filial, but because of her illness, which made her life and action very inconvenient. Cerebral thrombosis lasted nearly 20 years, and in 2000, my grandfather died of a heart attack, leaving my grandmother behind for 13 years.

Grandma has no children under her knees, only four daughters, my mother is the second, whether it is from the geographical location of the house, or the convenience of going out, as well as the number of elderly people, are the most suitable for grandma to care for the elderly (because grandma's cerebral thrombosis is tied to the leg, can not go up and down the stairs, so the aunt took grandma to her home to serve all the year round, mother, third aunt and aunt also take turns to go to the aunt's house every month to serve, 13 years of uninterrupted, the family has kept 2 daughters around to do their filial piety.

In the last few years, my grandmother was unable to walk and get up due to her inconvenience, her legs and feet were not good, and the muscles of her arms began to atrophy, and she could no longer sit up and eat by herself.

Before dying, my grandmother passed away very peacefully. His face was still flushed, like an old doll.

Later, I heard my aunt say that my grandmother always kept crying in the first three days of her death, and my grandmother couldn't speak for many years, so she couldn't express her thoughts anymore, my aunt and my mother were very strange, my lord had died for 13 years, and I hadn't seen my grandmother cry before, why did I always cry these three days, I felt very abnormal, but whether it was from the diet or from the situation of defecation, it didn't look like it was going to be fast, and they always coaxed grandma.

In the first two days of her death, my grandmother began to tilt her head and look out the door, as if she was waiting for someone to enter. Auntie said that I missed the third aunt and the aunt, my mother said that it was possible, quickly called the third aunt and the aunt, and the aunt cried when she picked up the phone, in fact, everyone knows that grandma's disease will never get better, it can only be time-consuming, and it takes one more day to be a day, everyone is mentally prepared, but as soon as I heard my mother say that grandma misses my aunt, my aunt understands that grandma's limit is estimated to be coming.

My mother hurriedly comforted my aunt and said that grandma was fine, but she just felt that grandma missed her, and there was nothing to do, so she could come back on the weekend (at that time, everyone still didn't expect grandma to go so fast).

The aunt hung up the phone, how uncomfortable she was, and she didn't wait for the weekend, she directly called the third aunt, and the two of them drove over to the aunt's house together. (Grandma's 4 daughters are not in the same city, and the driving distance is basically 1-3 hours, and it takes 2 and a half hours to come from my aunt's house).

After the aunt and the third aunt arrived, the grandmother still lay down calmly, but kept her eyes open and looked around.

The aunt and the third aunt looked at the grandmother so calm, and the heart was put down, the mother has been at the aunt's house for more than half a month, and needs to get up 3 times a night to change the diaper and turn over the grandmother, the grandmother will not turn over by herself, and she needs to turn over every 2 hours to prevent the whole posture from being uncomfortable. In the past 13 years, in fact, grandma's 4 daughters have hardly slept a whole night, and they have all been made into neurasthenia, and they sleep very lightly at night, and they will wake up naturally after sleeping for two hours.

My aunt said to my mother: "Why don't you go back, I've been here for more than 20 days, and my two sisters happen to be here, you go home and wash up, sleep a few nights, clean up the house, and come back in a few days." ”

My mother was indeed exhausted, so she said okay, go back and rest for a day or two, and then come back.

So, my mother arrived home at 3 o'clock in the afternoon. After washing, the house was cleaned up and waited for my father to get off work.

At 6 o'clock in the evening, my father stepped into the house, and suddenly the phone rang, and my mother answered it, crying loudly, it was my aunt who called, saying that my grandmother was gone. My mother couldn't have imagined that it was only 3 hours after leaving my aunt's house, and my grandmother was still fine before leaving, but why was my mother gone just after 3 hours.

Dad just went downstairs to say hello to my grandma and said that my mom was back, so she didn't eat downstairs, she ate something at home, and she was walking upstairs in a wandering way, so I heard my mom crying at home, and when I heard the sound was wrong, I rushed back home with three steps and two steps, and my mom cried silently and said that grandma was gone, so I asked my dad to drive to my aunt's house. My dad said yes

My mother took the coat and cried downstairs, just in time for the two aunts to hear the sound from the grandmother's house, and quickly mixed my mother into the house, the uncle said don't let my dad drive, this situation is very dangerous to drive, let his driver pull the family over. So the whole family went to the aunt's house.

At around 8 o'clock in the evening, my father informed me that my grandmother was gone, and asked me to take the car to my aunt's house early tomorrow morning. As early as April last year, I knew that grandma or grandma, one of them will die before the New Year, I don't know who it is, it turned out to be grandma, I thought that after this year, maybe it would be fine, but I didn't expect that in the end it was still close to the New Year, and grandma went. I was very sad and couldn't sleep all night, so I called Master, and Master comforted me for a long time. (Some of the things he helped are inconvenient to disclose here)

I went to my aunt's house early the next morning and kowtowed to my grandmother, hoping that she would go all the way.

Due to the fact that there were so many relatives in the family, my aunt couldn't sleep so many relatives in ten bedrooms, so I was also arranged to spend the night in a hotel near my aunt's house. Another sleepless night.

The next day, at 7 o'clock to my aunt's house, my mother said that the weather was very cold today, go to the back room to put on a thick pants, I obeyed, to the back room, but found that the aunt was about to die and collapsed on the bed, I said aunt, what happened to you? The aunt only said weakly: "XX, hurry up and save me, I know that only you can save me." (My aunt knew that I knew a little bit about that, and I immediately realized that something was wrong with my aunt.) I hurriedly asked my aunt what was wrong, how did she feel, my aunt didn't even have the strength to shake her head, let alone explain anything to me, which made me anxious, and I said that I really regretted not learning more.

Seeing that my aunt couldn't ask anything, I hurriedly looked for my mother, and my mother said: "We don't know what's going on, early in the morning, your aunt is directing everyone to cremate your grandma, I don't know what's going on, suddenly your aunt can't move, and her whole body falls down as if she has fallen apart, but fortunately, there are many people around you who quickly lifted your aunt to the bed, and your aunt didn't let anyone touch her after getting to the bed." We wondered if your aunt was too tired, so we covered her with a quilt and let her sleep to see if she could get better for a while. Don't disturb your aunt's rest, you change your pants and come out quickly."

Listening to my mother say this, I know that my aunt must not faint suddenly tired, because grandma's illness is not a day or two, the first few times grandma's sudden illness is critical, everyone has been mentally prepared, so that today my aunt is directing things and suddenly fainted. I estimate that eighty percent of the grandmother doesn't want to go, so she deliberately grabbed the aunt, as long as the aunt can't move, the back of the procedure can't be carried out, the aunt is the eldest daughter, and the first person in charge of the funeral, the main head is tripped, it is estimated that there will be no more to continue the next thing, and it can be delayed for a day.

I thought about it, and I estimated that it would be easy to do, so I went directly to my aunt and told my grandmother that it should be okay to let her not delay the trip, so I hurriedly went back to my aunt's room and asked my aunt how she felt now, but my aunt was still weak and said that she couldn't move, don't touch me, it hurts to touch me.

I then knelt on the ground and said to my aunt's body: "Grandma, don't toss Auntie, the rest of the things still need to be handled by Auntie, I know that you are reluctant to everyone, we will take you to Grandpa, so that you can reunite with Grandpa, you have collapsed Auntie, she is your daughter, she has been serving you for so many years, and her body and bones can't hold it anymore, Auntie has a good one, are you comfortable, hurry up and leave Auntie's body, let Auntie quickly do your business。。。。。。 ”

I've been chattering like this for a long time, and my aunt doesn't have any good signs, I think it's weird, it stands to reason that grandma feels very sorry for these girls, and it's impossible to pour Aunt upset, forget it, let's call Cheng Hao.

That's it, I called dozens of times, dead or alive (only later did I know that Cheng Hao followed the master to handle the case outside that day, and it was inconvenient to answer the phone), which made me worried, I didn't help my aunt get it right, and I delayed the hour, even worse, and quickly called Brother Wang, Brother Wang turned off the phone, I think the last hope is Shunyun, give Shunyun a call to try, this kid is still asleep, pick up the phone is a confused voice, I anxiously told him about the aunt, asked him what to do, He asked slowly, "Who are you?" "When I heard it, I was about to explode, and I said that I was the God of Law. I heard him say, "Ah, it's the Fa God, what's wrong with you, what you just said, hurry up and tell me again." (At that time, Shunyun happened to have tonsil inflammation and couldn't speak, I wasn't online for a few days, and I didn't know that he was sick, so I was quite angry and anxious and repeated it again), he still slowly spoke super non-standard Fujian Mandarin and asked me what was going on. I'm a big one. I said you'll tell me how to solve it. He said what is the situation of your aunt, we have to analyze different situations, I don't know what the situation is, I don't know how to solve it. My lungs are about to explode, I said that people suddenly can't move, the body is not touched, the whole body hurts when touched, the body is like falling apart, I can't sit up, just these symptoms, what else do I need to know. He said a word, stopped a sentence, the unhurried Ulu Ulu couldn't say clearly, I was so anxious that I hung up the phone, I thought to myself, I still asked Cheng Hao, at least we can understand what he said. So I continued to call him, and dozens of calls passed, but still no one answered, and I was completely devastated.