(46) Re-breastfeeding

Li Xiaocan hugged the baby and couldn't put it down. After a hurried dinner, she took the baby to a small park nearby. Li Xiaocan sat in the shade of the tree and teased the baby, and a few mothers were chatting in the pavilion not far away, and Li Xiaocan stepped forward.

"Hey, your child is so cute, it's only four or five months old, right?" A young mom in loose loungewear asked.

"Well, you have good eyesight!" , Li Xiaocan looked at the baby in her arms, "How old is your baby?" ”

"It's been 11 months, oops, my kid still can't climb, I'm dying!" The child can quickly shorten the distance between the two adults, and as soon as this mother saw Li Xiaocan, she opened the conversation.

Li Xiaocan saw that her child was holding a small ball and stuffing it into her mouth, honest and cute, and comforted her: "It's okay, the child itself has individual differences, don't worry too much!" ”

Bao's mother seemed to suddenly remember something: "Hey, is your baby still breastfeeding?" ”

"Milk powder!" Li Xiaocan replied.

"It's also milk powder, and my family also drinks milk powder. I don't know if it's because of the milk powder, so my baby's development may be a little slower. Bao Ma sighed.

"Probably not." Li Xiaocan couldn't help but be worried, since her son fell down the stairs, she was afraid that her son would have any more problems.

The mother couldn't find an answer from Li Xiaocan, and turned her head to look at another mother who was leaning against the pillar and breastfeeding her baby, her eyes were full of envy: "Your child drinks breast milk, it's so good!" ”

The mother raised her head in response and looked at her with a smile: "It's not easy to insist on breast milk, I think at the beginning, in order to let my daughter eat breast milk, I originally had no milk, and my stomach hurt so much by caesarean section, I invited a lactation promoter, pressed and pushed for a while, my mammary glands were blocked like iron, swollen and painful, walking pain, and I didn't dare to touch it when I slept." I can't describe the pain. When I opened the milk, I opened the blood. Finally there was milk, who knew that once I quarreled with my husband, maybe I was in a bad mood, I actually returned to milk, my daughter was so hungry that she cried, so I withstood the pressure from all sides, insisted on letting my daughter suck, my daughter sucked for a while without milk, she didn't want to suck, and then I still forced her to suck, so I insisted on it for a week, and there was still no milk. At that time, my mother-in-law did not let me continue breastfeeding, saying that the child was so hungry, and she looked distressed. Because everyone was against me, I was also very irritable, and I only had a few drops of milk. But I think I should stick to it, and I don't want to be sorry for her in the future. I inquired again, and some people said that even the adopted child could secrete milk, so I was confident. I thought about my daughter's milk every day, and then insisted on drinking pig's feet stewed peanut soup and crucian carp soup every day, and I persisted for more than half a month, and slowly got more and more milk. In the past, children used to eat milk as a snack, eat for a while and play for a while, and soon became hungry, but now it can be used as a staple food, which I cherish even more. ”

"Wow, you're great!" Li Xiaocan was ashamed in comparison.

"Can drinking soup and keeping you in a good mood increase your milk supply?" The child's 11-year-old mother will ask incredulously.

"Yes, you can also try it, I think the mood is also very important, you have to relax, and then think more about the happiness of your child drinking milk, slowly the milk will be more and more, because now there are so many poisoned milk powder, melamine, big-headed dolls, who knows what is added to those milk powders! The news doesn't say that there are any bugs, plastics, or other foreign objects found in the milk powder! Oops, I'm scared when I see it, and I don't think it's safe to use expensive milk powder, only breast milk is the best, with zero additives, so no matter how hard I work, it's worth it. I'm ready to drink for my daughter until she is two years old! A smile of relief appeared on her face.

"My child is 11 months old, and I don't know if it's too late to drink breast milk now." Bao's mother turned her face to Li Xiaocan again, "Hey, your child can try it." ”

"I ...... I ......" Li Xiaocan snorted, not knowing how to answer. She was ashamed to tell the story of weaning because of her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and she felt that she was too unqualified compared to other people's great mothers. Just because she couldn't get along peacefully with her mother-in-law, her baby son couldn't drink breast milk, and she felt that she was too selfish.

Li Xiaocan chatted with several mothers boringly. Back in the house, either unwillingly, or in order to compensate for his son, after Li Xiaocan handed over the baby to his mother-in-law, he went to the bathroom and squeezed it gently, and there were actually a few light white milk lines! There is hope!

Li Xiaocan became excited, as if he had received an unexpected harvest! - My son will also have the opportunity to drink precious breast milk! Li Xiaocan's heart was pounding, like Columbus discovering the New World, like Edison's light bulb lit up for the first time, like Marie Curie discovering radium that emitted a faint blue light. With this hope in her heart, she began to search the Internet for ways to chase milk after weaning.

In a parenting forum, she read one post after another, memorized each method by heart, and slowly became confident. Once she couldn't finish her milk, now she has to use various methods to chase the milk again, so that her son can lie in her arms and drink milk happily and contentedly. This kind of happiness as a mother is compensation for her hard work to conceive and give birth.

Regarding re-opening milk, she prepared a lot and collected all the essence posts. She couldn't owe her son any longer, she fell down the stairs, went to the intensive care unit, and died nine times, all because he failed to protect his son; Other children are rolling in their parents' arms, but she let her son, who is only more than a month old, be a left-behind child and live with his grandparents; Other children made full moon wine, lively in five-star hotels, but my son did not have any ceremony...... Li Xiaocan thought about it carefully and felt that he was simply unforgivable. If she can't let her son drink breast milk, she will be too sorry for the title of "mother"!

Lying in bed thinking about it, before I knew it, it was two o'clock in the morning. The snoring in the back room rang out. Because the son recognizes his life, he still only needs his grandmother at night, so he sleeps with his grandmother, and if he can breastfeed, his son will not kiss him in the future. Li Xiaocan counted the suffering of his son along the way, but he was completely sleepy. Breastfeeding is the only thing she can do at the moment, the only thing she can compensate for her son. She is confident that she will be able to continue lactating.

Early the next morning, Li Xiaocan saw her mother-in-law breastfeeding her son, and her son was holding the bottle with both hands, drinking it seriously, swallowing it happily one bite after another, so she said to her mother-in-law: "Mom, my milk hasn't completely returned yet, and I want to breastfeed my son." ”

The mother-in-law didn't raise her head, her face was reluctant, and her voice was cold: "What else to drink?" Breast milk always has to be cut off, how good it is to drink milk powder! ”

Li Xiaocan didn't expect that she was excited all night and thought about a plan all night, but she was firmly vetoed by her mother-in-law. She still wanted to continue to fight, so she had to move out Zhang Gang as a shield: "Mom, drinking milk powder is so expensive, 2000 a month, Zhang Gang is under a lot of pressure, and his salary is not enough to spend on the housing loan and car loan." ”

But the mother-in-law refused, and didn't even give room for negotiation: "If you don't buy it, I'll buy it!" I will buy all the milk powder in the future! ”

Li Xiaocan said in an almost pleading tone: "Mom, it's better to drink breast milk, the baby is weaned at such a young age, it's so pitiful!" ”

"Other people's children drink milk powder, don't they also drink well! You're still so tossed! You don't have to bother, you have to wean later! I said I'll pay! The mother-in-law didn't even give room for negotiation, and repeatedly stated that "I will pay".

Li Xiaocan looked at her mother-in-law's iron-blue and elongated face, and once again understood her mother-in-law's stubbornness and strength, but she was helpless, who let her not take care of the child alone? Who left her with no money for a babysitter? Who kept Zhang Gang busy like a spinning top and couldn't help?

Under her mother-in-law's single-handed covering, she Li Xiaocan doesn't even have the right to give her son milk.

Since Li Xiaocan went to W City last time, he recalled his life after marriage, deeply introspected, and felt that he should make some changes, such as respecting his mother-in-law, and when he had different opinions, he should think more about his mother-in-law's starting point, all for the good of his son. Only in this way can the family be harmonious and life will be better and better. Once it is deadlocked, this family will only become more and more decayed.

She understands the truth, and she also wants to be a virtuous, filial and likable daughter-in-law, but she didn't expect to get along with her mother-in-law for less than 24 hours, and the contradiction appeared again. The mother-in-law is still the stubborn and strong mother-in-law, and she can't hear anyone's voice at all.

"Am I going to hurt my son?! Don't forget that I'm her real mother! Li Xiaocan felt that her mother-in-law was a little ridiculous. Thinking about it carefully, in fact, it is not difficult to figure out that the mother-in-law does not want Li Xiaocan to take the child because the mother-in-law will have to repay the debt of more than 100,000 yuan if she does not take the child. According to the income of the mother-in-law and father-in-law, it will take at least two or three years to pay off, and the mother-in-law does not want to suffer that sin. The poor son, so young, became a tool for his mother-in-law to be lazy. A sneer appeared at the corner of Li Xiaocan's mouth, turned around and walked to the back room, and fell on the bed all of a suddenβ€”β€”β€”β€”Don't you like to take care of children?" Let you bring enough!

Li Xiaocan looked at the purple old mosquito net sullenly, thinking to himself, the relationship is two-sided, and it is impossible to unilaterally think about improving and reconciling, just a hot face and a cold ass. When I hate my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law may hate herself in her heart.

Regardless of the cry of his son outside, Li Xiaocan was still lying on the bed, looking at his mobile phone, an article of "Carrying Milk" wrote in detail the arduous process of several working mothers in order to insist on breast milk, express their breast milk and refrigerate it, and transport it to their babies thousands of miles away. Li Xiaocan replaced his mobile phone and deleted the collected milk chasing links one by one, and his mind was blank.